Age is no bar - or is it? 29 June - Page 8

Originally posted by: psawyer

@Amy - true that you normally grow out of it by a certain age. But 22 is not that old either. My sis is turning 21 this year and trust me she can be as immature as a 12 year old in some things 😆. I guess you're right about Ayesha being spoonfed and if Priya or anyone had given some more thought to educating her to temper her dreams as well as to, well, fulfil them, then she might have had a different thought process. But with parents like hers I don't blame her for wanting to escape that mediocrity 😳

@bold--Well yeah definitely!😆

Eh...lets see how far this thing goes. If Ayesha's shown to blame Priya and turn against her, then it would be certain that her character is indeed immature. But if they show her gracefully accept the situation and understand that this was all as a result of miscommunication by her supersonic Bat-mum, then that would be like imagining a speech by Obama without his bazillion "thank yous"😳

Originally posted by: Abhi911

I LOVE Fivr's ((Hey! Can I call you that?) 'Under 40' and 'Chillar Party' theory 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Originally posted by: psawyer

Where do the fairytales end? When the prince and princess get married. What do we know about the prince in Sleeping Beauty? Or Cinderella? Or Snow White? Nothing. Yes, they are classically good-looking, but beyond that I think they actually do have exactly the same face as each other. They are a representation of an ideal as opposed to real men.

As for the women, they too are all the same; Cinderella is a stepdaughter forced into slavery, Snow White ditto, Aurora is a princess stolen by a bunch of fairies to protect her from the wicked witch, and grows up in...you guessed it, poverty. These clearly aren't tales meant to be idealised, but if a girl grows up watching that, she naturally comes to think of it as normal.

Wow I just had a discussion about fairytales with a friend of mine yesterday, so I find this discussion really interesting. A part of me blames the fairytales such as Cindrella, and Sleeping Beauty that really affects the female mindset. We never see movies or shows that portray a strong, independent female that deals with all her problems on her own. I follow tumblr regularly, and more than 90% of the girls on that site are teenagers looking for love, posting love messages, etc etc. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but they still have that "Prince Charming thought process", where a Prince will come and rescue them. Except Prince Charming doesn't really exist in the ideal sense. Forget fairytale, even the average romantic movie usually has a perfect lead guy. Someone mentioned earlier that in reality there are girls like Ayesha that want to marry a rich guy. Good looking, intelligent, successful. If the guy isn't good looking or doesn't meet the age criteria, then they compromise to fulfill that dream.
Money represents security to them. These girls view money, as a necessity, which it is, but some girls are willing to do anything. They dream of a rich and perfect guy thinking it will give them everything in life and all their problems will be solved. It really depends on the upbringing, though some girls are more materialistic than others and even parents can't do anything about that. While there are other girls that are mature enough to understand that money isn't everything in the world. It really depends from person-to-person. In my friend's case she is not someone that views "money" in the same manner as Ayesha, but her story is completely different. For her emotional commitment represents security, and her emotions are always dependent on someone. This guy acted 'overprotective' with her and she started to believe he actually cared about her, but it was all drama on his part. He continued to emotionally manipulate and blackmail her and she fell for all his lies.

really a nice post n ya so true what u have said

Does age factor matter only until certain time? I meant to say that When Sharma family thought that ram's proposal came for Ayesha. Everyone got mad except shipra and ayesha. B/c he was 42 and she is 22. There is 20 yr age difference. But, actually the marriage proposal was for Priya who is 33. so there is 9 year age difference. 9 yr age difference is not as big as 20 yrs difference. but, still don't you think normally or mostly parents look for their children's partner in same age bracket may be+/ - 5 yr diff.

Originally posted by: ashpat

Does age factor matter only until certain time? I meant to say that When Sharma family thought that ram's proposal came for Ayesha. Everyone got mad except shipra and ayesha. B/c he was 42 and she is 22. There is 20 yr age difference. But, actually the marriage proposal was for Priya who is 33. so there is 9 year age difference. 9 yr age difference is not as big as 20 yrs difference. but, still don't you think normally or mostly parents look for their children's partner in same age bracket may be+/ - 5 yr diff.

So, my question is does the age difference not matter when you are above certain age i.e. 30. ? Is it because she (priya) is over 30 and she won't find some under 40 and that is why she should compromise.

Persoanlly, if it was for me, i belive that if i do love marriage that the age does not matter AS MUCH b/c u already love that person. but, if I do arrange marriage then i'd want that the max age difference is 5 yrs but not more than that. b/c that's one of the thing i would want that he cannot be more than 5 yrs older than me.

But, then i think for some people age is just a number and for some it's a big deal. so, to each his own. it does not matter to me when people marry who si 10 yr or 15 yr older than them as long as it is related to LOVE and not money or lust or power .

i love priya-ram's jodi. i think they have gr8 chemistry. I just hope their misunderstanding ends here as priya said that"it's like they have a relationship with misunderstanding/confusion. I hope it's not foreshadowing. I want that they start to understand each other. let's see how priya is convinced and won't ayesha think that why is priya saying yes when she was the one who stopped ayesha and got mad at her. I hope ayesha does not turn negative.

I really hope Ekta does not spoil this show with her usual old formulas.

anyways, back to the question: does the age difference not matter when you are above certain age i.e. 30. ? Like in case of ram (42)-priya(33)? is it because normally people believe that marriage should be done when you're in 20's and after that (from 30's)you have to compromise with many things b/c u don't find good guys/girls?

what do you guys think?

Valid point u raised. It depends on the individuals.One of my friends hubby is older to her by 13 years.There are a lot of differences but she's happy and grateful to her better half for the calming influence in her life.There's a three year difference btwm my hubby and me but in the long run if there's understanding , respect and love age gap is not a gap at all.

Valid point u raised. It depends on the individuals.One of my friends hubby is older to her by 13 years.There are a lot of differences but she's happy and grateful to her better half for the calming influence in her life.There's a three year difference btwm my hubby and me but in the long run if there's understanding , respect and love age gap is not a gap at all. When u marry young you have more choices and u can change and adapt easily.When u marry late you are set in your ways and compromises are difficult.