No matter how much some people may protest that physical intimacy is not the be all and end all of a relationship, there is no denying that it is a very important element.
I'm not talking about just the act of love-making, but also the need to be close, intimate and affectionate in a tactile way.
When you allow that between yourself and someone else, you make a statement about what that person means to you. How you see them and their worth.
If you are not completely comfortable with someone by any means of the term, you would not let them invade your personal space like that.
So to have that taken away not only hurts, but also makes one question themselves, unwittingly.
It makes you question your validiity as a human being, as a person, as a man or a woman.
In Bharti's case that questiona is magnified by about a zillion times!
Murli may be trying to protect his wife from being hurt physically or going through any physical hardship. But the emotional and psychological effects of his behaviour are far more cruel.
Inadvertently, unknowingly and unintentionally perhaps, but Murli is raising all kinds of questions in Bharti's head about who and what she is.
We have the luxury of knowing that this is a fictional tale and so eventually the CV's will write the 'happily ever after' ending we all want.
But my heart goes out to all those in the real world, whose lives don't play out like a tv show and who may not get the happy ending because of such issues.
And while I applaud the writers for bringing up the issue, I have huge reservations about their manner of dealing with it. Communication between two people at the heart of the story is non-existent, and we are seeing it's effects.
And this worries me. TV has a huge influence on the way we think and live. Positively, or negatively, there's no getting away from the fact that it does. And these desi serials have an even bigger influence. I have seen it. I have lived it.
So CV's (and all tv in general) need to be careful about the kind of messages they send out to the masses. They may not realise it or even want the responsibility, but the truth of the matter is sometimes, people out there unknowingly wait to be guided by them on how they should live their lives.
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