Member of the Week - scorpio_pk - Page 7

Originally posted by: dotraj

Rubina,

I read all your answers..and I should say you are a warm hearted & down to earth lady. 👏 God bless you & your family

😛 Thanks so much my dear for giving me such a nice compliment and also for ur good wishes 😃 God bless u too 🤗


If at all you are expecting one question from us and if you have not yet received the same..what would it be?? and please answer that question 😊

All of you are doing ur job such wonderfully. I never expected such a warm welcome by the friendly members who are asking me these lovely questions, Thanks guys for giving me this chance 😛

Rubina, I am here again!!! I enjoyed reading all the questins and answers...I have no words to praise you yaar!!! You really have many of your qualities similar to me. Oh Sorry, i really have many queslities just like you.!!!😃

How do you define "Love"?

You have gone thro' various phases in life? You have passed a phase where you had only your hubby with you, the time when you got married. Then you had kids. So tell me, which was the phase which excited you the most? I know it is really difficult to choose between husband and kids. But, I want to know which was the phase which you would have wanted to enjoy more?

What according to you is the base for successful marriage?

What is your thought on Arranged Marriages and Love Marriage? What would you prefer for your kids?

I will be back with more, Rubina😃

Originally posted by: scorpio_pk

Yes Pallavi, it always happens that if the girl is the only daughter, then she naturally gets attached with her mother. 😊 Now my daughter shares her personal matters with me just like I did with my mother.. .


That was just my opinion based on my personal experiences. I've noticed that the young generation is more fashionable and bold in USA, I didn't like their opinions about the family values etc. Or maybe it's just me that thinks this way because I used to live in an area where mostly Spanish ppl lived, and their culture is way different than ours. In Canada, ppl are more attached to the family life where the younger generation prefers to live with the parents and lifestyle is also simpler than that in USA. Most of the population in Canada consists of the ppl of different nationalities which may have the similar culture as ours and that may be the reason for me to prefer this Country 😃. Again its just my opinion by observing some particular things, all depends on what a person has been through in his/her experience. 😛

Very nice to know that your daughter also shares things with you the same way as you do with your mom!! Hope my daughter will do the same.. She is just 6 now so I guess it is a little early to say..Right now, of course she is very attached to me, but I hope she shares things with me later..

Very interesting to read about your observations of Canadians! I did not know that Canada had a culture similar to the Indian/Pakistani culture.. That is really an enlightenemt for me😃

I really liked your analysis of Simran's character.. I completely agree with all that you wrote about her!

So, are you very close to your mom after marriage too? Do you still share things with her like before, that is over the phone when you speak to her or in letters and when you meet her in person as well?

Originally posted by: sree_20

Rubina, I am here again!!! I enjoyed reading all the questins and answers...I have no words to praise you yaar!!! You really have many of your qualities similar to me. Oh Sorry, i really have many queslities just like you.!!!

I am sure you have Sree 😊 chemistry between my sign and Aquarians has always worked. I have a lot of Aquarian friends. My eldest son is an Aquarian-who has been like a friend of mine since his childhood. I used to discuss every matter and issue of my life with him even when he was only 5 or 6 yrs old, because he's used to thinking 10 years ahead of his age. I know for a fact that Aquarian's mind is always more mature than their age 😛

How do you define "Love"?

😊 A very interesting but a very tough one though, because the feeling of Love cannot be defined in a few sentences, it has a vast range of meanings. Love exists in different forms in a person's life. It could be for ur parents, siblings, children, husband, or for anyone else. It can make a person helpless as well as strong. It makes you forget the rule of give and take (it removes TAKE from the rule), it can give you a new vision to see the entire world, and it can make you a totally different person than you are. Sometimes love can make you selfish on the other hand love can also give tenderness to ur heart. Love always gives a new perspective to life.

You have gone thro' various phases in life? You have passed a phase where you had only your hubby with you, the time when you got married. Then you had kids. So tell me, which was the phase which excited you the most? I know it is really difficult to choose between husband and kids. But, I want to know which was the phase which you would have wanted to enjoy more?

Every moment of the different phases of my life have been precious for me. Life has always given me joy even when I was the only center of my hubby's attention and also when my 3 kids entered into the picture 😊 If I would have to choose, then I would choose the time when my 3 kids were small and when their small world revolved around ONLY me 😳. I always tell my husband that it would've been nicer if I could have enjoyed my kids' childhood for a little more time, they seem to have grown up so quickly. 😛

What according to you is the base for successful marriage?

Love & respect for each other, mutual understanding, sense of responsibility & commitment, quality to compromise and flexibility in the behaviors. These to some people are "the basic" things that a relationship should have, but in my opinion these are the only essential factors for a successful marriage. 😃

What is your thought on Arranged Marriages and Love Marriage? What would you prefer for your kids?

For this generation I don't think arranged marriage is suitable as it needs a lots of compromise and patience. Arranged marriage works only if you have a flexible nature, if u can mould ur nature into any form. I don't believe love on first sight because usually it lasts for a while and if that would have been the case, then I am against love marriage. But, if you really do have good understanding and true love for the other person-then love marriage can be more successful than the arranged one. I would prefer my children to choose their life partners-but before making a final decision, they need to analyze their feelings towards the other partner, they need to think that this is the life time decision they r taking, a really really big step. Either they could spend their life with this person or not.

I will be back with more, Rubina

Originally posted by: xyzzee

scorpio_pk wrote:Yes Pallavi, it always happens that if the girl is the only daughter, then she naturally gets attached with her mother. Now my daughter shares her personal matters with me just like I did with my mother.. . That was just my opinion based on my personal experiences. I've noticed that the young generation is more fashionable and bold in USA, I didn't like their opinions about the family values etc. Or maybe it's just me that thinks this way because I used to live in an area where mostly Spanish ppl lived, and their culture is way different than ours. In Canada, ppl are more attached to the family life where the younger generation prefers to live with the parents and lifestyle is also simpler than that in USA. Most of the population in Canada consists of the ppl of different nationalities which may have the similar culture as ours and that may be the reason for me to prefer this Country . Again its just my opinion by observing some particular things, all depends on what a person has been through in his/her experience.

Very nice to know that your daughter also shares things with you the same way as you do with your mom!! Hope my daughter will do the same.. She is just 6 now so I guess it is a little early to say..Right now, of course she is very attached to me, but I hope she shares things with me later..

😊 I am sure Pallavi that you'll enjoy the same relationship with ur daughter as u r a very friendly person, and only friendly persons can become a good friend of their children. Doesn't matter if ur daughter is just 6 yrs old-u can still share a lot of issues of ur life with her as the best secret keeper could be ur children and noone else 😛

Very interesting to read about your observations of Canadians! I did not know that Canada had a culture similar to the Indian/Pakistani culture.. That is really an enlightenemt for me I really liked your analysis of Simran's character.. I completely agree with all that you wrote about her!

Thanks dear 😛

So, are you very close to your mom after marriage too? Do you still share things with her like before, that is over the phone when you speak to her or in letters and when you meet her in person as well?

After marriage, the bond between my mom and me became much stronger than before. Because ppl always face mature issues and problems after marriage and fortunately it was my mother who gave me the courage and strength to tolerate the hard times of my life. Her advices & blessings were always with me through her written letters or over the phone. When I was in Saudi Arabia I used to visit her every year but now visits are not so frequent, however we still contact each other time to time.

Originally posted by: principessa

Hey Rubina.. What is that one incident in your life that you wish it didn't happen? and how would you change it if you were able to?

My father's death is a major incident in my life that I always wish wouldn't have happened. He was only 47 yrs old-when he died of a heart attack. There are quite a few incidences in my life which I wish should've never happened, but I never really think about those anymore as we can't really change the past. What's the use of regretting/complaining? I would rather learn from the mistakes/experiences and be optimistic for the future 😃

Originally posted by: scorpio_pk

😊 I am sure Pallavi that you'll enjoy the same relationship with ur daughter as u r a very friendly person, and only friendly persons can become a good friend of their children. Doesn't matter if ur daughter is just 6 yrs old-u can still share a lot of issues of ur life with her as the best secret keeper could be ur children and noone else 😛

Thanks for the seet words, Rubina. I do hope she will turn out that way.. Right now she shares little things with me and hope it continues to grow. I can only say I am trying😊. Of course I don't know if I can be the kind of mother that my mother has been towards me..She is the role model for me as far as parenting is concerned.


After marriage, the bond between my mom and me became much stronger than before. Because ppl always face mature issues and problems after marriage and fortunately it was my mother who gave me the courage and strength to tolerate the hard times of my life. Her advices & blessings were always with me through her written letters or over the phone. When I was in Saudi Arabia I used to visit her every year but now visits are not so frequent, however we still contact each other time to time.

So nice to know that you share a great bond with your mom even now and that your mother is so important to you even after your kids are all grown! I feel the same kind of bonding with my mother and to me she is no less important than my daughter. Unfortunately I have seen people whose priorities change so drastically after marriage, their parents take a back seat and all they are concerned about is husband and children and only them.. If only they would stop and think how they would feel if their children were to treat them that way once they grow older! I believe that you reap what you sow..I am sure your children will learn from you and will continue to share things even after they have kids of their own😃

OK, one question I had wanted to ask and forgot to, do you find the medical system in Canada much better than that in the US? I have heard from many that it is and would like to know what your thoughts are on that? In what way is it better if it is better?

Originally posted by: scorpio_pk

ya - good point - but every member wont - including me (cos i haven't a descent face to show anyway)....but if u wanna email me, then that would be fine....

anyway, next question:

do any of the rest of your family contribute to this forum as well? If so, are you willing to divulge their usernames? 😉

anyway scorpi - been great getting to know you...wish u all the best 😊