Why is Dimpy like this?

When did Dimpy turn into such a wimp? She was all in Anupamaa’s face at one point, defying everyone to do what she wanted to do. Why is she so afraid to parent her child and have a life post her husband’s death? Are we supposed to believe that the same girl who recovered from her past, married who she wanted to, and made her own decisions, is letting Vanraj Shah raise her kid and tell her what she can do with her life? I don’t get it!

While I can understand her situation and perhaps she has the most unfavourable of conditions.

She wanted to leave Shah House in support of Anupama and against the Shah attitude after the accident but Anupama insisted on her staying back to give "pariwaar ka pyaar" for Samar's child. When she rebelled, Vanraj threatened to take Samar's child away from her if she did not comply.

She has now become a puppet in Shah House because her rebellion will cost her child.

Her relations with her parents was strained when she eloped with her then boyfriend to marry him and subsequent events strained her relation further. So she believes, her parents would not accept her and but for Shah House and family, she has no place else. Hesitation to accept Titu's proposal is also driven by her fear of losing Ansh.

Dimple's mother dared to defy norms and came for her wedding in disguise and eventually participated wholeheartedly. Now that she had found a (seemingly) decent family, it may be implied that her parents would be supportive especially after everything that happened with her.

Why Dimple is still wrong?

She could have taken the first step to approach her parents for support.

She knew that she is being illtreated at Shah House, her son is being spoilt, she is not doing anything to stop any of it. If not for herself, but for her child who will eventually turn out like the 2 anmol ratna. For someone who stood up for herself even in the most vulnerable times, knows her rights, there is a lack of efforts to change her situation.

She is being conditioned to become what she is subject to and she is, knowingly, not taking corrective measures.

I know such women in real life too

They are terrified to leave their parents or in laws house

One reason is financial support second is society boycott - single woman have tough life in india widow or unmarried or divorcee

If a woman defy her family relatives, neighbours, society in general target her treat her like an outcast and her kids too(if she has) even in big cities

I know a girl who ran and married a boy in biggest metro of india her parents boycotted her. Because of that her siblings, relatives, neighbours all stopped talking to her or her kids. Suddenly hubby died young. She was hardly 30. She had only one daughter. Parents refused to accept her, in laws wanted her to leave as she did love marriage now that hubby died they do not want her or her daughter and kicked her out(her father was richest person in city, her hubby middle class you can say like anuj-anupama only). She lost her job in demonetization no food to feed kid or herself or pay rent. She begged her father hes multi millionaire he refused her in laws too refused. She committed suicide leaving 6 year old daughter before she turned 30. And shes no lowly educated she had studied in top 10 colleges of india degree. And her dad was multi millionaire like anuj kapadiya or even more richer. Imagine if such big college educated girl will face such boycotts from parents and relatives and neighbors just for marrying against parents wish for falling in love what about dimpy shes from poor family not so rich and in a small city like amadavad where ppl are not as educated and as rich and modern as this biggest metro city.

What happens once parents or in laws boycott a woman full society takes cue and boycotts that woman. Also all sort of rumors are spread on that woman lies by others even relatives, neighbours or own family and in laws to defame that woman so no one helps her in life. This happens in big big metro cities forget small villages. It is not like USA you dislike a hubby divorce him and live alone or marry another and neither parents or in laws will boycott or spread all sort of rumors on that woman who took divorce or left her parents or in laws house. Just for name sake metros look modern in india same rules as villages runs in the huge apartments or bungalows too

In a patriarchal country like india girls are punished at every step for making any decision independently like dimpy after marrying that killed lover of hers or for speaking truth like devika and malvika who speak as it is on face or being independent like devika etc

That is a major reason anupama kind of woman or kinjal kind of educated or kavya remain subservient to abusive in laws and hubby or exs or parents etc because they are not ready to risk displeasing family and later boycotts that when they are in trouble no one there

Because f woman rebel against anyone parents, hubby, in laws etc they are boycotted brutally and in trouble they have no options for help. Even police, law, govt, society, relatives, neighbours all support family parents and hubby not a woman not a daughter not a wife not a daughter in law. And woman are boycotted by all

That is reason woman bear silently all atrocity abuse first by parents than by hubby and in laws than by son and daughter in law but never raise voice or never leave house. Even if parents hit or discriminate agianst brothers they keep quiet, than in laws and hubby hit and abuse they are quiet finally son and daughter in law abuse they face quietly do not say anyone. That is life of majority woman inside 4 walls of house in india be it mumbai, delhi or up, bihar. Its an open secret does not come out be it super rich family or slum houses. That is why anupama is such a hit.

Dekho Asli kaaran yeh hai ki sub saath saath isliye hai kyonki agar sab chale gaye to sabke role khatm ho jaayega

Kavya shah house se chali gayi to kavya ka role ehd ho jaayega

Kinjal shah house se chali ko Kinjal ka role end

Dimpy shah house se chali gayi to Kinjal ka role end

Anupama ke bache pota poti anupama se jide hain hence anupama go to shah house for sake of children

Another same reason anupama go to shah or shah house go to anupama kyonki anupama agar baa vanraj se milna nahi dikhayenge to vanraj baa ka role end ho jaayega

Kyonki vanraj baa ka ek hi kaam anupama ko taane sunana

Anupama shah house jaana band Kar degi to vanraj baa ke pass serial mein kya karne ke liye bachega unka role end ho jaayega the day anupama permanently stop visiting shah isliye to anupama ko phir se 5 year ke baad shsh house se milna diya nahi to unka role end hona tha agar anupama se nahi milte Jo writer log chahte hi nahi Dekho

Ab Dekho Shruti aadhya anuj baar baar anupama se kyon mil rahe hain

Kyon Shruti anupama se hi catering karwana chahti hai aur kisi se kyon nahi

Kyon Shruti ne bola anupama se woh uske liye saree select kare

Kyon amuj ne anupama ki bail karayi kyon toshu ko bail karayi

Kyon anuj aadhya ko lekar holika pe jahan anupama Holka mana rahi thi

kyon anuj spice amd chutney khareedna chaha hai

ki writer ko bus

Anupama kyon anuj ke car takraai

Iska Asli karan yeh hai agar anuj Shruti aadhya ka anupama se connection nahi dikhayenge to Shruti anuj aadhya ko role end ho jaayega

To sabka role end na ho isliye sub saath saath hai

Anirudh kyon nahi dikhaya jaata kyon woh anupama se bilkul milta hi nahi hence Anirudh almost gayab from serial

Bus barkha Ankush ka role end hua hai Lekin abhi yeh bhi confirm nahi hai permanently role end hai

Ab dekho, yeh one-act-play toh hain nahin.

Agar Anupama ko Maa dikhana hain, toh bachche dikhane honge, Bechari dikhana hain toh kisiko (read, sabhi ko) villain dikhana hoga.

It's a give and take.

If other character need Anupama, Anupama needs other characters as well. Call them Shahs, Kapadias or Dhillons.

Atleast Udaan sponsor karne toh chahiye na. Think of it, ek titular character ko justify karne ke liye sabhi characters ko agar bura banana pade (including bachchon ko) toh woh titular character ko Kitna kamzor likha gaya hain.