Love like anuj's exists - Page 2

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

I would not wish a love like Anuj’s for Anupama. He has hurt her and abandoned her enough. He is in love with the fantasy of his college sweetheart. He clings on to that image in his mind. When she strays from that image he has, he doesn’t like it. Didn’t he leave Anupama running after little Anu with her birth mother? Did he not question Anupama’s love for choti Anu? Has he not raised Adhya to hate her mother? He definitely has not curbed it. Has he not moved on and is he not in a live in relationship with Shruthi? If Anupama had not arrived, would he not have married Shruthi and lived on? Out of sight, out of mind? How is all this a magical love?

Anupama needs a mature love, a love that will understand her baggage, her prior relationships that she cannot and should not sever because of Anuj. Anuj wanted a fairytale love with Anupama - once married he wanted to form a cocoon, him, Anupama and little Anu. He has always put his daughter above Anupama, every single time, so one cannot expect Anupama to put him first before her kids.

If the man leaves cos he cannot disappoint Adhya or because he cannot betray Shruthi, good riddance to him. Did he not do the same with Maaya, Anu’s birth mother? Got embroiled with her and then felt guilty to leave her. Now he is entangled with Shruthi and cannot leave her. Anupama is supposed to be understanding and forgiving of his behavior?

Leave the woman alone, let her live in peace. She has kids and grandkids and her own life, she doesn’t need Anuj.

Lol this is nice double standards. Anupama abandoned Anuj and her daughter again and again and again. Whatever Anuj did was a REACTION. So according to people a wife can abandon her husband's family, be at exes house 90%, serve her ex in laws, abandon there daughter and a husband can do nothing?

What kind of one sided relationship do people want where a wife can spend 90% of time with her exes and ignore currenf family and husband should be ok? Husband and his kid doesn't have any needs?

No one should understand someone's obsession with her exes and her abusers. No one. No one who loves someone can tolerate their obsession with their abusers. Even parents won't tolerate daughter going back to abusers again and again. It's like an alcoholic going back to alcohol after rehabilitation, it's bad for her.

I cannot understand this mentality at all, a wife can abandon own family and daughter and spend 90% of time with her exes who is also her abusers and a husband shouldn't even react? And when it's bad for her and she gets nothing but abuse and tears?

Have these people been in any relationship in their entire life? Is this real world where people want a husband to be ok with wife's obsession with her exes and abusers? That's not understanding, that's just stupidity, which husband wants her wife to be obsessed with and always crying with her abusers?

Anupama stans don't want a husband, they want a boy toy who pays for them and fulfils their every demand while they don't have any responsibility to him and his family and his needs.

Shruthi did more for adhya then anupama ever did as a mother . Anupama left anuj and adhya when they probably needed her the most to assure them that she will give first priority to them as they need her more then shahs.

Anuj and adhya found refuge in shruti when they were lonely. If maa can still feel shahs as their apne then why can't anuj have someone who cares for him and his daughter after divorce. Only flaw in the story line is anuj still pining after his ex wife who is thankless and couldn't handle so much love and respect from anuj and adhya as she is used to abuse and disrespect from shahs

A mother doesn't leave her kid when they make mistake. If a kid feels insecure for her mothers love then mothers job is to assure that kid about how much she loves her all kids equally. Janda leke khadi nahi ho jati k mere pyaar pe shak kyu kiya

Originally posted by: Radhiii

Shruthi did more for adhya then anupama ever did as a mother . Anupama left anuj and adhya when they probably needed her the most to assure them that she will give first priority to them as they need her more then shahs.

Anuj and adhya found refuge in shruti when they were lonely. If maa can still feel shahs as their apne then why can't anuj have someone who cares for him and his daughter after divorce. Only flaw in the story line is anuj still pining after his ex wife who is thankless and couldn't handle so much love and respect from anuj and adhya as she is used to abuse and disrespect from shahs

A mother doesn't leave her kid when they make mistake. If a kid feels insecure for her mothers love then mothers job is to assure that kid about how much she loves her all kids equally. Janda leke khadi nahi ho jati k mere pyaar pe shak kyu kiya

With that logic, she should have abandoned her 2 anmol ratn long back. Chidiya called her kalank and whatnot? Her sapoot called her characterless and whatnot? But, but she felt so bad when CA said that she does not love her, which may or may not be true but her actions showed that CA came last for her. I am not referring to the accident scenario here. Take any instance before that, she has always abandoned CA knowingly or unknowingly and any child would be bound to form that perspective. Even I had the perspective that my parents loved my younger brother more than me. I lived with that belief for many years and at a certain point, I even felt that there was no going back. I shared that with my mother and also told her the reason why I felt that way. She accepted that was not the right way to handle the situation and told me her perspective. I realized how wrong I was to think in that way. Anupama could have done the same. But madam abandoned everything and went. SHE WOULD HAVE NEVER ABANDONED HER BIO KIDS IN THAT SAME SCENARIO. SHE DESERVED TO BE CALLED THE BEST MOTHER BUT ONLY FOR TOSHU, SAMAR, AND PAAKHI. Other than that she is just a hypocrite.

So sorry to know about what you went through...you and your mother handled the situation so well

Hugs to you both

You are totally right that anupamaa would never abandon anuraj products so hence proved adhya is right in her thinking and anupama just proved her right by leaving them

Originally posted by: Radhiii

So sorry to know about what you went through...you and your mother handled the situation so well

Hugs to you both

You are totally right that anupamaa would never abandon anuraj products so hence proved adhya is right in her thinking and anupama just proved her right by leaving them

Thank you. Now that I look back I laugh at myself and my childish thoughts.

Not only CẢ, she would abandon anyone to exert her importance. She abandoned Anuj and went to celebrate her poti’s homecoming. She was ready to abandon Toshu when she saw her position was threatened by Maaya. All that dialogues she said (refer to my signature ) and funny thing is her communication with Vanraj was far more effective than Anuj. Oh, she hardly spent time with Kapadias. Toh kaha se hoga communication . That lady can abandon anyone but between her bio kids and CẢ, CA will always be the scapegoat. Even now when she will come to know that it was her sapoot who sent her jail she will understand him as he was Majboor and was split between being a baap and a beta. After all, being split is Maa’s favourite hobby😂

First dialogue in your signature that besht maa said is most hilarious one and takes the cake out of all 3 about handling pati and ex pati and even announcing it proudly

This is the biggest gripe I have with Anupama and her stupid akal se paidal stans.

Which loving parent abandons their child instead of making some effort to explain their side to the child or trying to understand where the child is coming from?

Aise toh bachpan me humne bahut tantrums kiye, zidd kari, toh kya humare parents hume chod kar chale gaye?

What is this nonsense ki bacchi ne accuse kiya so she just up and left? Matlab age difference, different levels of maturity naam koi chizz nahi?

Ye chote bacche ki tarah muh phula kar chalti bani ki oh mujhe keh rahi hai you don't love, toh thik hai katti. Me ja rahi hu.

I mean is she 50 years old or 5 years old?

Originally posted by: Radhiii

First dialogue in your signature that besht maa said is most hilarious one and takes the cake out of all 3 about handling pati and ex pati and even announcing it proudly

Exactly! 😂

Aur phir bhi stans jor jor se kehte hai ki nahi woh sirf apne baccho ke liye SH jati thi.

Itne andhe ho gaye hai ki Mahaan MAA ke khud ke gyaan ke moti bhul gaye hai.

Originally posted by: HoneyBee7312

This is the biggest gripe I have with Anupama and her stupid akal se paidal stans.

Which loving parent abandons their child instead of making some effort to explain their side to the child or trying to understand where the child is coming from?

Aise toh bachpan me humne bahut tantrums kiye, zidd kari, toh kya humare parents hume chod kar chale gaye?

What is this nonsense ki bacchi ne accuse kiya so she just up and left? Matlab age difference, different levels of maturity naam koi chizz nahi?

Ye chote bacche ki tarah muh phula kar chalti bani ki oh mujhe keh rahi hai you don't love, toh thik hai katti. Me ja rahi hu.

I mean is she 50 years old or 5 years old?

Even friends do not abandon each other. If there are incorrigible differences then they go their ways. Instead of answering that they will deviate from the topic saying that Anuj forced her to accept CA. Arey gunpoint pe force kiya kya? Shaadi kyun ki fir if you cant take out time for your new family? Is pe they will say Anuj ne kyun ki shaadi? Are bhai, Anuj to gadha hai and uski laakh galtiyan hai. I and most of us have never shied away from criticizing him or trolling him whenever he is wrong. Even now I will say that whatever CA had to go through, the majority of the blame is on Anuj. But, as per the claims of great Maa: (she said that she never discriminated between her kids and CA) has she ever prioritized CA? If it's Shahs Vs Kapadias, she has always chosen the former. And it's not like CA did not try to understand her. She did. It was Anupama who pushed that child to have that perspective. As I said earlier, she never abandoned her own kids but CA ke case mein.. she was like lo chali main.. tata bye bye.

All she could have said is she is not ready for another child and she won't be able to give time to her. But nahi mahaan banna hai na..

Originally posted by: strancho

Even friends do not abandon each other. If there are incorrigible differences then they go their ways. Instead of answering that they will deviate from the topic saying that Anuj forced her to accept CA. Arey gunpoint pe force kiya kya? Shaadi kyun ki fir if you cant take out time for your new family? Is pe they will say Anuj ne kyun ki shaadi? Are bhai, Anuj to gadha hai and uski laakh galtiyan hai. I and most of us have never shied away from criticizing him or trolling him whenever he is wrong. Even now I will say that whatever CA had to go through, the majority of the blame is on Anuj. But, as per the claims of great Maa: (she said that she never discriminated between her kids and CA) has she ever prioritized CA? If it's Shahs Vs Kapadias, she has always chosen the former. And it's not like CA did not try to understand her. She did. It was Anupama who pushed that child to have that perspective. As I said earlier, she never abandoned her own kids but CA ke case mein.. she was like lo chali main.. tata bye bye.

All she could have said is she is not ready for another child and she won't be able to give time to her. But nahi mahaan banna hai na..

Apni galti toh kabhi maanti hi nahi hai.

As per stans isne toh life me kuch kiya hi nahi hai.

Shah house ke liye stans bolte hai she was abused. Pakhi, Toshu me Genetics me Phd kare scientists kehte hai Vanraj ke genetics hai. Parvarish gayi tel lene. Usme bhi Baa ne bigada.

Shaadi ke Anuj picche pada. Ye toh 15 saal ki bholi thi na, jo fas gayi aise hi.

CA ko adopt karne ki zidd Anuj ne ki. Iske muh me toh dahi jama tha jo No nahi bol payi.

Maya ko kisne allow kiya KM me rehne? Ye toh innocent hai na acchi ban rahi thi bas.

Vanraj ke get out ke baad bhi kaun Shah house jata raha? Arre bacche hai na uske, uski sautan ke bhi, jiske liye baby shower arrange karna bahut normal baat hai apparently.

Woh iss Jhandupama ko mauka nahi mila otherwise ye Kavya ki beti ka naamkaran bhi karti, Vanraj ke saath jhula jhulte jhulte.

And still as per stans she is a good wife and mother and a perfect person. Lol. The delusion is so strong. I wonder what they will do once the serial shuts down. Kaha se lekar aayenge apni life me motivation without perfect person's gyaan ke moti?