Love like anuj's exists

Firstly, sorry if i can't convey my msg through this post as well as you guys do as i am not good with articulating my thoughts but will try to write down what i felt after today's episode.

We all make fun of anuj for being a simp, a doormat and majboor and rightly so as the first thing which is difficult to digest would be his 26 years of love for anupamaa which is still going as strong as it was mind you even after being taken for granted for 1000 times but we know this is fiction so keeping that aside....i can still maybe understand anuj to some extent.

I have seen one couple very close to me going through same kind of relationship dynamics as the wife here was a selfless lover and her hubby is very selfish and thankless men to his wife. Sadly, she is no more but i have seen her going through hell yet she never stopped loving him.

Now i know people might have opinion of her not having self respect and all and again i dont blame anyone for the opinion but really sometimes when you truly love someone it's difficult to hold a grudge with them for a long time even when you know their mistakes/ sins .

Similarly i saw anuj crying today for an ex wife who left him and their fostered kid during their most vulnerable moment. My heart went out to anuj as i have seen that wife going through the same as she loved her hubby selflessly.

As many on forum rightly pointed out today that today anupmaa k so called apne are not with her but the relationship she left behind ruthlessly is still fighting fiercely for her and crying for her.

I hope anupama realizes her mistake before it's too late and she loses anuj for good. ( i know it is never happening but still

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Well, yeah people do crazy things when they think they are in love. Why do I say that word think ? Because in my opinion falling in love isn’t easy or simple as it is shown on TV or movies. I believe a genuine love would help you grow in every aspect of life and though there will be difficulties it will be worth it. But here, Anupama is a poison to Anuj. A poison that will kill you slowly and cruelly. Neither of them knows self love. And a person who can’t love his/her own self cannot love anyone else. That’s just my opinion

People like Anuj do exist. I strongly believe that......His pain, his eyes spoke volumes today.....He cried with her, for her....Waqt ne keeya sitam......but still he is standing like Rock for her.........weeping for her....still encouraging her and give her encouragement that he is there and not to cry...........that scene was really touching....

I think the point people try to make is

1) Is it a good thing to have love like Anuj? Is it good for him, good for others around him as Adhya? In your very example it looks like the wife was miserable and kept sacrificing for a husband who wasn't worth it?

2) Fiction of course has a lot of escapism so lots of women would fantasize about men like Anuj and lots of men would want to be like him. But people also copy fiction. Do we want men and women to think this is how love should be?

3) Society has come a long way today (despite shows like Anupama trying to pull us back). In the 80s and 90s dating itself would be tabboo, any attraction would mean you want to marry someone. Love would mean stalking and obsession. But people are much more aware today and have much more self respect.

Selfishness is not always bad, self love is not bad. You cannot live your lives only for others, particularly those who don't care for you. Kids and young adults today should be taught how to love themselves and respect themselves before loving others. So many love related acid attacks and killings in India happen because of this false image Bollywood and ITV show about being obsessed and stalker as being a good lover. Boys are taught to be obsessed and stalk, girls are taught that toxic obsession is real love and they are made guilty for rejecting boys who are obsessed with them. This causes a vicious circle.

love like anuj is very rare in kalyug

once lovers also fight with family and run and marry they fight and seperate after few years in this times no relationship is permanent nowadays

Yes may be those who married before 90s may have ssuch love to spouse

But even they will not run after ex wife if she runs off like anupam ahd leaving anuj and CA alone for 5 years than real life anujs will hate wife

99% will not truly love like anuj whether love marriage, lover or arranged one

may be girls may love their lover or hubby like that as they are emotionally weaker but men as such are more like practical and possessive. Nowadays after 2000s even girls are not so fools they will have lover but if parents marry another person they will move on.

Like someone said a man will not sacrifice like anuj he will throw acid or kill lover if she leaves him- thats not real love its more ego that you cannot be mine you cannot be others mens its patriarchal thinking male ego not love

This is imaginary Bollywood kind of love which is inspired more like majnu, romeo and salim of past lovers kind which anuj has for anupama

Its not good for him or his kapadiya family or for his child CA. Anuj lost malvika, gk kaka, ankush, adhik, sara, barkha, CA all in aunupama love now hes all alone orhan no one loves him in his family because hes betrayed them for anupama sake at different times sadly

Better anuj stop this and move on in life. Anupama is using him for money and his power and whenever shes in trouble only rest time she only wants shahs and vanraj only

anupama loves vanraj and shahs let them save her

If anuj saves her now she will run back to shahs again after few days drama of i hate you i hate shahs i am mrs kapadiya drama

Anupama is a narcissist manipulative Machiavellian woman sadly anuj has been trapped in her love. If she loves shahs let them handle her no why anuj or yashdeep interfere. She do not consider them as family.

Yashdeep and anuj are begani shaadi main abdullah deewana types

In real life a real anuj would not go to save anupam afater she betrayed him and his child for 5 years

Whoever thinks anupama anuj is love noo its expoitation of mans love by spouse anupama only.

I know anupama will never love anuj as in real life i have seen spouse even woman taking advantage of hubby love for her and getting hubby to slave for her mayka benefits just like anuj and making him seperate from his family friends colleagues relatives and than treating them as slaves or filth all life in india and usa too.

Anupama is just exploiting anuj love for her and has already succeeded in seperating him from most family and relatives by doing emotional dramas or allowing shahs and anuj to abuse them like malvika, ca, ankush etc One day anuj will have no one to go to in old age and when alone or when he has no money as hes in his obsession to anupama humiliated everyone of his family and abused them let them be abused. Than anupama will not come she will let him die on roads destitute. I have seen this happen in reality in life

I would not wish a love like Anuj’s for Anupama. He has hurt her and abandoned her enough. He is in love with the fantasy of his college sweetheart. He clings on to that image in his mind. When she strays from that image he has, he doesn’t like it. Didn’t he leave Anupama running after little Anu with her birth mother? Did he not question Anupama’s love for choti Anu? Has he not raised Adhya to hate her mother? He definitely has not curbed it. Has he not moved on and is he not in a live in relationship with Shruthi? If Anupama had not arrived, would he not have married Shruthi and lived on? Out of sight, out of mind? How is all this a magical love?

Anupama needs a mature love, a love that will understand her baggage, her prior relationships that she cannot and should not sever because of Anuj. Anuj wanted a fairytale love with Anupama - once married he wanted to form a cocoon, him, Anupama and little Anu. He has always put his daughter above Anupama, every single time, so one cannot expect Anupama to put him first before her kids.

If the man leaves cos he cannot disappoint Adhya or because he cannot betray Shruthi, good riddance to him. Did he not do the same with Maaya, Anu’s birth mother? Got embroiled with her and then felt guilty to leave her. Now he is entangled with Shruthi and cannot leave her. Anupama is supposed to be understanding and forgiving of his behavior?

Leave the woman alone, let her live in peace. She has kids and grandkids and her own life, she doesn’t need Anuj.

So true

Self love is definitely not bad. It's just that some people turn blind to it when in love with someone . I agree it is absolutely toxic though...

Dkp is unintentionally trolling their own titular character by making her look like a fool which she definitely is. The way she still after years of abuse and disrespect expecting toshu and baa to rescue her in crisis and then acting shocked to know her son doesn't give two hoots about her