Negative publicity for adoption

Somewhere this show has done negtaive publicity for many things in society

One is never marry a divorcee with kids - anupama

Second is never adopt a child especially a boy child - anuj kapadiya

When anuj is staying with real anupama hes subservient to her and let his family malvika and GK kaka to go away just to hang on to anupama

Anuj knew vanraj taking advantage of malvika but he was so obsessed wth anupam athan and wanting her at cost of losing his sister to vanraj (he choose anupama over malvika lathough vanraj was haing ema to upsure kapadya empire from malvika and left her alone and ran off) anupama ex hubby which no brother will do in real life

Anuj is repeatedly humiliating ankush and barka and adhik to please anupama and her maika although he knows shahs are more bad than ankush and barkha or adhik. Like barkha kept party for house warming but anupama kept puja that day and she and shahs humiliated barkha and her friends for party. And anuj suported vanraj and anupama not barkha and ankus and shouted at barkha in front of all guests. Excuse everyone has house warming they do puja in morning and keep party in evening with dinner is it not? Why not keep puja in morning and let party in evening why humiliate guests who came for house warming? Only to show anupama and shahs have great sanskar over barkha, adhik, ankush, sara etc. What if malvika was there and called her friends to party for house warming will anuj let her get humiliated in front of guests by anupama and shahs too or this isonly for cousins? It was sad to see anupama and anuj and shahs humiliating barkha ankush adhik in front off all guests. I mean if relatives come to our home we allow them to watch their fav movies, serials missing ours or cook their favourite foods over ours to make them feel nice dont we?

Anuj alienated all the people who loved and cared for him to get anupama and please her because hes scared she may leave him so anything she and shahs do wrong too is right. This anujkapadiya asking malvika rather threatening tone to her in kitchen to give job back to vanraj on job even after he knows vanraj did ema to her and took advantage of her innocence once before so malvikathrew him out of job. Which brother does like that to please wife and her ex? Will any brother want a man who cheated his sister did ema with her to go back to her just to get married to anupama? How horrible was that, even in USA no brother will ask sister to take back man who did ema with her just to get married to his lover or please anupama

So now when hes running after CA have no sympathy for him maya should treat hm badly and humiliate and kick him out like he did his family and relatives because he desrves such treatment to know how malvika, GK kaka, ankush felt when anuj humiliates them for anupama sake or abondons them at crucial stage for her shahs sake

I do not want CA with anuj although maya is not good woman because one day anuj abondoned malvika for anupama and shahs and allowed vanraj to do emas with her. 15 years later what is gaurantee that anuj will not do same with CA aondon her to a bad man to look good in anupama eyes or shah eyes. I feel ankush and adhik love CA very much than anuj kapadiya in genuine sense and may not compromise her hapiness to please anyone even their wives

I would be happy if kapadiya empire went 100% to malvika because only she and her kids in future deserves that empire and ancestral property etc as her father and she has worked to retain it and not gift it to lovers like anupama and shahs or ankush barkha greedy relatives who do not deserve it

Anuj was born orphan his adopted parents gave him great life worked hard sent him to USA(its very costly to study there) and did everything for him like own son but anuj squandered away all chances in his mad obsessive disorder for anupama and now is on verge of squandering away kapadiya empire to anupama or shahs or ankush etc and make malvika a pauper in future. That is my only regret than malvika dad worked so hard to make fortune and give better life to anuj and malvika and anuj is squandering it away like this.

May be thats why indians and asians in general hesitate to adopt kids because adopted kids are shown negative

Since anupama is such a famous serial already in conservative india or asia where blood and DNA matters by showing anuj kapadiya so ungrateful to adopted family be it sister or cousin etc people will be scared to adopt too

I have heard my parents aged discussing anuj kapadiya and have heard few say that see we told adopting is bad see how anuj kapadiya treating his sister and family vis a vis anupama and shahs. Indeed one of my known person has no kids and they decided to go IVF treament and before were planning to adopt. seeing serials like anupama etc may be they changed mind. Yu never know how much movies and serials ima=pact common layman in creating negative views aout serian social issues you see.

Those above 50 will have all negative views on adopted kids watching this anuj kapadiya and his behaviours actually towards adopted family and it may impact them allowing or permitting ounger ones from adopting if no child

In india and asia nayways elder ad parents have more say in couple adopting etc so anuj kapadiya is poster boy why not to adopt a child?

Its wrong to assume serial do not impact mind of layperson especially in asia where 80% have hardly any real education above 10std and not exposed to outside culture etc and patriarchal mindset

Finally no matter how obsessed anuj is towards CA i do not want him as her father. Ankush or adhik are better candidates to be her father who may never aondon her to please anupam aor shahs etc unlike anuj kapadiya

I am not at all impressed with anuj kapdiay and his love for CA because i saw him doing same and much more towards malvika for few months than drop her like thrash when choce was to save malvika or displease anupama maikya visa a vs vanraj shah and shahs eyeing his and malvika wealth and more her self respect of malvika

Anuj abondoned malvika when she needed him most n life once 10 years back when his arranged marraige of hers flopped and he left a raped beaten depressed woman roam world

Oh I didn't know all that back story ,thanks for letting us know ,and yes besht mother and her so called exes shouldn't even get a penny .

U r right. After Maya came back n anu chose Maya ppl will hesitated adoption. My sister saw n said "isliye apne bachey hone chaiye"

I agree they definitely did negative publicity for adoption. Maya took CA nd my husband immediately said see that’s why adoption is not good idea as it’s always risky and real parents can take the child away.

Indeed! They overshadowed the moral they could've offered with adoption with how difficult parenting is at such an age. Also not to mention the poor kid also became one of the reasons for a couple's breakup 😒

Anuj is repeatedly humiliating ankush and barka and adhik to please anupama and her maika although he knows shahs are more bad than ankush and barkha or adhik. Like barkha kept party for house warming but anupama kept puja that day and she and shahs humiliated barkha and her friends for party. And anuj suported vanraj and anupama not barkha and ankus and shouted at barkha in front of all guests. Excuse everyone has house warming they do puja in morning and keep party in evening with dinner is it not? Why not keep puja in morning and let party in evening why humiliate guests who came for house warming? Only to show anupama and shahs have great sanskar over barkha, adhik, ankush, sara etc. What if malvika was there and called her friends to party for house warming will anuj let her get humiliated in front of guests by anupama and shahs too or this isonly for cousins? It was sad to see anupama and anuj and shahs humiliating barkha ankush adhik in front off all guests. I mean if relatives come to our home we allow them to watch their fav movies, serials missing ours or cook their favourite foods over ours to make them feel nice dont we?

that's what I said in one of my posts that why you are forcing someone to do what you like, if you had so much problem with barkha and her family toh pehle hi mana kar dete, they were saying that they are looking for a house, so why they stopped them, when you have called them as your own family so behave like one naa.

why they cannot have different time for Pooja and party I mean I am not saying that we should not protect our culture but still.

when you called guests for party so how can you say to first sit in Pooja agar Pooja me hi bulana tha toh pehle hi bula lete jinko aana hota vo aate jinko naa aana hota vo naa aate, just imagine after anupama's lecture people reluctantly sat for puja and who knows few people might be curcing in their heart ki "party me bula kar puja me baitha diya" and all, so tell me what's the benefit of that Pooja when people are not happy and they are curcing you?

That's why people don't call everyone for grehpravesh Pooja, only close relatives and family members are called and after that people call everyone in the housewarming party to show their house etc.

Originally posted by: naaznin

U r right. After Maya came back n anu chose Maya ppl will hesitated adoption. My sister saw n said "isliye apne bachey hone chaiye"

Mansi is diff case

Once you adopt real parent cannot come and say give me child back

Courts do not allow all that

They will say why you left kid in orhanage than

Nothing like this happens in reality

Mansi kind of case 99% cannot happen as per law

Parent cannot come after adoption and say give my kid back etc

Here its fostering not adoption - like sometimes relatives take care of school college kids in other cities thats fostering

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Mansi is diff case

Once you adopt real parent cannot come and say give me child back

Courts do not allow all that

They will say why you left kid in orhanage than

Nothing like this happens in reality

Mansi kind of case 99% cannot happen as per law

Parent cannot come after adoption and say give my kid back etc

Here its fostering not adoption - like sometimes relatives take care of school college kids in other cities thats fostering

Yes after adoption the child belongs to adopted parents but comeback of biological parents impacts viewers minds negatively. Also child choosing biological mother was also shown wrongly. Already ppl r hesitant to adopt in India n such things only create negative mindset because ppl dont want to get involved in court cases as its too tiring n financial issues.

They could have shown anu choosing anuj over both mothers like ruhi did in YHM.

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Mansi is diff case

Once you adopt real parent cannot come and say give me child back

Courts do not allow all that

They will say why you left kid in orhanage than

Nothing like this happens in reality

Mansi kind of case 99% cannot happen as per law

Parent cannot come after adoption and say give my kid back etc

Here its fostering not adoption - like sometimes relatives take care of school college kids in other cities thats fostering

Yes

But this

We all know

But the people who are giving trp to this show and many people still don't know how adoption works.