Anupamaa Live Update and Daily Discussion Thread 10 Jan 2023 - Page 4

Originally posted by: HpTheChosenOne

Baaki sab rehne do mujhe yeh batao ki woh mohalle ki jo sarla kaki aur tarla kaki hai, woh kaun bana hai 🤣🤣🤣

Originally posted by: HpTheChosenOne

Baaki sab rehne do mujhe yeh batao ki woh mohalle ki jo sarla kaki aur tarla kaki hai, woh kaun bana hai 🤣🤣🤣

Wo is forum ke silent readers hain jo tamasha dekh kar maje lete hain bas 🤣

I don't know what to say. Discussion bw friends was nice.

His intelligent, wise, childhood friend said- jab tum 6 mth ke relation mei apni daughter se pyar karte ho, toh bhabhi ka 26 yr ka relation hai.

My points:

Has anuj ever told anu to leave them or not to talk or meet.

If CA is their biological daughter, is everything as it now. It means we should accept that there is always difference bw Bilogical and adopted ones

Ego and Anuj are two separate entities. His friends experience made me emotional and his lines were heart touching and forced us to think like life is short, why to spend in hatred and ego. For me, this philosophy of life is not only valid for husband-wife but every relationship.

No two question papers are same, situation of anuj and his friend is entirely different. Did he consider about that small child before giving his wise advice.

Lastly, it has made my believe stronger that there is nothing like true love, unconditional love. Perfect soul mate.

It's understanding, respect and some compromises.

Here both are at fault, before shaadi, saadi karni hai, anupama josi anuj kapadiya se pyar kari hai.. Naach naach kar.

Anuj yahoo yahhooo, meri shaadi hogi..

It reminded me of dialog of koi mil gaya, shaadi ke baad dono milkar bournvita peeyenge.

Anupama was in 26 yr of relationship, did not she know that marriage means responsibility and commitment. Just to show that she is progressive, she came into the relationship.

Anuj did not know that he was going to marry baccho ki amma and he wanted kids.. Of course it's his right.. Should clear this thing before marriage.

I think this is the reason, women and men having kids don't marry or give second chance to themselves. They think about kids. People think that it's bcoz they regressive but i feel they are more sensible.

Why to make hell out of everyone's life.

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

I don't know what to say. Discussion bw friends was nice.

His intelligent, wise, childhood friend said- jab tum 6 mth ke relation mei apni daughter se pyar karte ho, toh bhabhi ka 26 yr ka relation hai.

My points:

Has anuj ever told anu to leave them or not to talk or meet.

If CA is their biological daughter, is everything as it now. It means we should accept that there is always difference bw Bilogical and adopted ones

Ego and Anuj are two separate entities. His friends experience made me emotional and his lines were heart touching and forced us to think like life is short, why to spend in hatred and ego. For me, this philosophy of life is not only valid for husband-wife but every relationship.

No two question papers are same, situation of anuj and his friend is entirely different. Did he consider about that small child before giving his wise advice.

Lastly, it has made my believe stronger that there is nothing like true love, unconditional love. Perfect soul mate.

It's understanding, respect and some compromises.

Here both are at fault, before shaadi, saadi karni hai, anupama josi anuj kapadiya se pyar kari hai.. Naach naach kar.

Anuj yahoo yahhooo, meri shaadi hogi..

It reminded me of dialog of koi mil gaya, shaadi ke baad dono milkar bournvita peeyenge.

Anupama was in 26 yr of relationship, did not she know that marriage means responsibility and commitment. Just to show that she is progressive, she came into the relationship.

Anuj did not know that he was going to marry baccho ki amma and he wanted kids.. Of course it's his right.. Should clear this thing before marriage.

I think this is the reason, women and men having kids don't marry or give second chance to themselves. They think about kids. People think that it's bcoz they regressive but i feel they are more sensible.

Why to make hell out of everyone's life.

So so true.

Even if we can clearly see deviji's shah bhakti played a major role in their fight but still anuj cant be absolved of all charges.

Yes anuj ke sath sab sympathize karte hai aur us bechare ne bahut saha hai but he also cant overlook the fact that anupama comes with a whole baggage which he gladly accepted at the time of marriage.

Anuj was never involved in any stable relationship in his life. He has no experience in balancing out multiple roles in a family. He just had all rainbow sunshine dreams about his anupama and 26 saal wala pyar. He never thought practically.

If anupama has misguided approach towards this marriage then anuj also has same problem.

Ok, anupama messed up big time but giving her cold shoulder wont solve the problem. Both need to sit down and have meaningful conversation, redifine their priorities and this time in clear words.

Context matters while using words. 4th meaning alag context mein use kiya jaata hain. It's incorrect for it to be used to describe a child. When words have different meanings, the meanings often depend on the context. If you want to change the English language also to suit your statements, great.

Why will we want to prove you wrong, what will we get out of that? Har bat ko personally mat lo, yeh ek english shabd ka matlab hain. Seekhna hain toh seekh lo, it's the wrong word, if you think it is not and you are only correct, great - continue using it!

Originally posted by: Bechain_Bulbul

So so true.

Even if we can clearly see deviji's shah bhakti played a major role in their fight but still anuj cant be absolved of all charges.

Yes anuj ke sath sab sympathize karte hai aur us bechare ne bahut saha hai but he also cant overlook the fact that anupama comes with a whole baggage which he gladly accepted at the time of marriage.

Anuj was never involved in any stable relationship in his life. He has no experience in balancing out multiple roles in a family. He just had all rainbow sunshine dreams about his anupama and 26 saal wala pyar. He never thought practically.

If anupama has misguided approach towards this marriage then anuj also has same problem.

Ok, anupama messed up big time but giving her cold shoulder wont solve the problem. Both need to sit down and have meaningful conversation, redifine their priorities and this time in clear words.

I see Anuj as trying to forgive despite the hurt and it takes time.

However Anupamaa almost wants Anuj to have his whole life revolve around her and forgive and forget immediately. Almost like Vanraj wanted from Anupamaa for Shah family.

He has other relationships too, like a new father which he is trying to build.

I am finding the character of Anupamaa to be way narcissistic and kiddish. Almost like all attention on her

Its all about Me Me Me

For the family role, I will be Dolly. 😆

Jo matalab nikalna ho nikaalo I don't care .Mera bhagwaan jaanta hai what I want to.say

Yes everybody knows about marriage responsibility but shaadi ke just doosre din Kaun itni jaldi big responsibility daalta hai like adoption can't he wait fir some time

Agar age nikal rahi thi to 26 year pehle kisi aur shaadi kar leta ahd can have child Kisne bola tha ki 26 year tuk shaadi na karo siwaye anupama ke

Originally posted by: DJ_3

For the family role, I will be Dolly. 😆

You have chosen the sanest Shah phemli character

I feel so bad that they're gaslighting Anuj into thinking this is ego, when it's clearly not. The poor guy is so hurt and he's not even getting the space to heal.

So many divorcees remarry, but only the children continue being their responsibility, not their ex in-laws. And in the case of grown up children, they continue to care for and be there for them but they don't babysit them forever! So most people will understand that a divorcee has certain reasonable responsibilities, but what Anupama was doing for them is something else. This whole thing was because of Baa's khichi for god's sake, if she had just shut up and ordered food from outside for a day, none of this would have happened. How many divorcees will stay back to make khichdi for their abusive ex MIL and miss their daughter's dance competition? So it seems like a problem exclusive to Anupama. In fact, when women come out of such an abusive and toxic relationship, they will keep as much distance as possible from the people who tormented them!

Whether you want to have children or not should be discussed prior to a marriage, even if it's your first one. And the whole marriage and adoption track just came too soon. They should've given some time to Anupama's growth and her slowly coming out of the toxic attachment with the Shahs, instead they rushed to this track. But I think Anuj was actually very sensible and understanding even though it was his first proper relationship. He put up with a LOT that someone who has discussed all of this prior also wouldn't put up with. Perhaps also because in his head he got the woman he loved for 26 years, he idealised the whole thing and was willing to put up with pretty much anything. So he was way too understanding and all of it just bottled up and came out together. I agree they need to sit down and have a proper conversation though, this giving the cold shoulder doesn't make sense because Anupama is doing her own nonsense in the side with her rona dhona and panic attacks. Anuj needs to sit her down and tell her that to go back to normal will take time, they both need to work on it together, she needs to work on her boundaries and priorities and he needs to work on getting over what's happened in the past. And the three of them need more time as a family. And gradually things will get better. She needs to be more patient and show she understands what he's saying with her actions, not words..

Originally posted by: Bechain_Bulbul

So so true.

Even if we can clearly see deviji's shah bhakti played a major role in their fight but still anuj cant be absolved of all charges.

Yes anuj ke sath sab sympathize karte hai aur us bechare ne bahut saha hai but he also cant overlook the fact that anupama comes with a whole baggage which he gladly accepted at the time of marriage.

Anuj was never involved in any stable relationship in his life. He has no experience in balancing out multiple roles in a family. He just had all rainbow sunshine dreams about his anupama and 26 saal wala pyar. He never thought practically.

If anupama has misguided approach towards this marriage then anuj also has same problem.

Ok, anupama messed up big time but giving her cold shoulder wont solve the problem. Both need to sit down and have meaningful conversation, redifine their priorities and this time in clear words.

Agreed! In a way anuj is suferring becoz he didnt think his marraige decision through.. He had already first hand seen what that family is for her before marraige too..Its impractical to think that marrige will change a persons approach towards life..

Many people might not agree with me on this but , right now his fault is that he is wanting to reform her (even if that is for herself) against her will. No person changes unless they want to from inside. Forced changes are always temporary..The way of handling situation is wrong. He should just leave her at her stance.. And recluse himself from all the drama. All this I cannot leave her alone ever is illogical shit!