Anuj is getting AnupaMaa totally wrong

He still has not gotten a clear picture of his love of 26 years. He feels his Anu is naive, jaroorat se jyada acchi, easily manipulated, exploited and taken advantage of. But, she clearly is not what he thinks her to be. Today, when he gives her an ultimatum to learn to say NO, I was laughing so hard. Arrrreeyyy, he is asking a Ph.D. holder to learn ABC. Anu has said No to Baa multiple times. Actually, she said No to Baa more than she said No to anybody. The most recent one was Maa turning down Baa's rational request to not get involved in Dimple's case. Baa cursed her for wanting to marry Anuj, but she performed all her wedding rituals in front of Baa's glaring eyes. She can also say NO to her children. She blurted out P's truth even after his request to not reveal anything to Kinjal. She ousted Pakhi from KM even after she begged her not to. She clearly and loudly says NO when she does not want to do something. Anuj is not understanding the simple fact that she has no maternal affection toward CA. She just can't come to love her. It happens. She most probably does not love anyone. She is too self-obsessed to think beyond herself. So, asking her to sort her priorities is not going to change anything. She has her priorities sorted. She is exactly doing what's important for her and prioritizing those things that will benefit her in the long run. Anuj can't expect her to love CA overnight. It's better if he stops expecting anything from her regarding CA. He should not involve her in CA's life as it will only lead to heartache for the poor girl. Actually, Anuj is the one who needs to set some boundaries and sort his priorities.

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

He still has not gotten a clear picture of his love of 26 years. He feels his Anu is naive, jaroorat se jyada acchi, easily manipulated, exploited and taken advantage of. But, she clearly is not what he thinks her to be. Today, when he gives her an ultimatum to learn to say NO, I was laughing so hard. Arrrreeyyy, he is asking a Ph.D. holder to learn ABC. Anu has said No to Baa multiple times. Actually, she said No to Baa more than she said No to anybody. The most recent one was Maa turning down Baa's rational request to not get involved in Dimple's case. Baa cursed her for wanting to marry Anuj, but she performed all her wedding rituals in front of Baa's glaring eyes. She can also say NO to her children. She blurted out P's truth even after his request to not reveal anything to Kinjal. She ousted Pakhi from KM even after she begged her not to. She clearly and loudly says NO when she does not want to do something. Anuj is not understanding the simple fact that she has no maternal affection toward CA. She just can't come to love her. It happens. She most probably does not love anyone. She is too self-obsessed to think beyond herself. So, asking her to sort her priorities is not going to change anything. She has priorities sorted. She is exactly doing what's important for her and prioritizing those things that will benefit her in the long run. Anuj can't expect her to love CA overnight. It's better if he stops expecting anything from her regarding CA. He should not involve her in CA's life as it will only lead to heartache for the poor girl. Actually, Anuj is the one who needs to set some boundaries and sort his priorities.

True. This instance of breaking CA's heart was a clear case of neglect. Her excuses to go to school after finishing chores at home were lame, a masquerade of negligence/disdain towards CA.

It breaks my heart to see/read about CA's turmoil just because these adults - Anuj & Anupama are in the process of sorting out their differences. Very unfair to the child, I cannot bring myself to watch/read it even if this is fiction. 💔

He will come to his senses, even if he just remembers his own Meri Anu jaap somedays back..That she is one man army , who can do anything she wants!!!

The conclusion : The only things she cant do is something she doesnt want to do😌.

Over Simplified conclusion : You and your daughter are not worth her time!

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

True. This instance of breaking CA's heart was a clear case of neglect. Her excuses to go to school after finishing chores at home were lame, a masquerade of negligence/disdain towards CA.

It breaks my heart to see/read about CA's turmoil just because these adults - Anuj & Anupama are in the process of sorting out their differences. Very unfair to the child, I cannot bring myself to watch/read it even if this is fiction. 💔

No couple should be given the right to adopt/foster before 2 years of marriage. It takes a couple at least 2 years to know each other. These two have so many unsorted issues in life. Why did they bring a child to their unsettled world? I blame Anuj more for this mess. How could he think that a woman who writes her ex in laws name on her palm will suddenly start prioritizing a girl above them.

Originally posted by: Toto123

He will come to his senses, even if he just remembers his own Meri Anu jaap somedays back..That she is one man army , who can do anything she wants!!!

The conclusion : The only things she cant do is something she doesnt want to do😌.

Over Simplified conclusion : You and your daughter are not worth her time!

I hope he gets a chance to think clearly. If he walks down memory lane, he will realize his worth in her life.

Jis "Meri Anu" ka khwaab dekhke vo pyaar mein pagal sa hota gaya,

Vo hakeekat mein Mrs. Anupama Vanraj Shah banke usko loot gayi...

Originally posted by: ShahH8er

Jis "Meri Anu" ka khwaab dekhke vo pyaar mein pagal sa hota gaya,

Vo hakeekat mein Mrs. Anupama Vanraj Shah banke usko loot gayi...

Unfortunate truth. I hope one day Anuj addresses AnupaMaa as Mrs AnupaMaa Vanraj Shah.

Anuj bekaar mein expectations rakh raha hai usse regarding CA,no amount of persuasion or anything get Anupama to love CA as a mother,because for Anupama blood is thicker than water,only her biological kids are HER kids and it's okay,sometimes you just cannot bring yourself to love someone let alone as your own child no matter what.Not everyone is capable of loving others children as their own or else infertile couples wouldn't try so hard to conceive whereas they can easily go for adoption, but they do not do that, because they realize what they can do and what not,and it's okay,it's only human to feel that and in a way better, kyunki agar half heartedly bacche ko adopt karoge toh uska haal bhi CA jaisa hoga.But what is NOT okay is that she didn't voice her disconnection towards adopting CA when Anuj first proposed that, she agreed just to please him when she was given a clear choice to agree for the adoption or not,dil mein toh usko pata hi hoga ki voh CA se itna pyaar nahin kar payegi like her own kids,toh phir kyun maani?Anuj ka CA se instant connection hogaya tha but that was not the case with Anupama,why does this woman always take wrong decisions for pleasing ppl and spoiling many lives in the process!!Na CA ko kabhi poori tareeke se apni sagi bacchi jaisa pyaar kar payegi,na usse chod payegi because of Anuj,dil tootega bechari masoom bacchi ka!!

Agree with you ALL.

I have asked before, i ask again,

"What is Anupama's to the relationship?"

Whatever has been done/contributed, has been by Anuj alone.

I really think, as much as Adhik, Anupama-Anuj need a break. Albeit after taking back signing authority and spending quality time with/raising his daughter.

We will ALL be able to see how Anupama treats (missing) GK, Ankush-Barkha, Adhik, Dimple infront of the Shahs at Kapadia Mansion, considering Kavya-Vanraj ain't returning, Kinjal will keep globe trotting and Leela and Hansmukh ain't returing to Shah House.

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

He still has not gotten a clear picture of his love of 26 years. He feels his Anu is naive, jaroorat se jyada acchi, easily manipulated, exploited and taken advantage of. But, she clearly is not what he thinks her to be. Today, when he gives her an ultimatum to learn to say NO, I was laughing so hard. Arrrreeyyy, he is asking a Ph.D. holder to learn ABC. Anu has said No to Baa multiple times. Actually, she said No to Baa more than she said No to anybody. The most recent one was Maa turning down Baa's rational request to not get involved in Dimple's case. Baa cursed her for wanting to marry Anuj, but she performed all her wedding rituals in front of Baa's glaring eyes. She can also say NO to her children. She blurted out P's truth even after his request to not reveal anything to Kinjal. She ousted Pakhi from KM even after she begged her not to. She clearly and loudly says NO when she does not want to do something. Anuj is not understanding the simple fact that she has no maternal affection toward CA. She just can't come to love her. It happens. She most probably does not love anyone. She is too self-obsessed to think beyond herself. So, asking her to sort her priorities is not going to change anything. She has her priorities sorted. She is exactly doing what's important for her and prioritizing those things that will benefit her in the long run. Anuj can't expect her to love CA overnight. It's better if he stops expecting anything from her regarding CA. He should not involve her in CA's life as it will only lead to heartache for the poor girl. Actually, Anuj is the one who needs to set some boundaries and sort his priorities.

Firstly I did not give Haha reaction this time.

Now coming to that main point, as you said she has her priorities set. She feels the need to get validation from the people who don't want her or don't care for her. She wants to prove how great of a person she is. She just wants to prove that she is a good person and can't do any wrong to anyone. She was ready to break all her relations with Devika when she revealed Vanraj's EMA. She could not listen to anything against Vanraj but now happily enjoys Anuj getting humiliated. Also, she is a big-time liar. She said nobody returned without a meal from Shah's house but we all know how many times her Maa and her soul love have humiliated Anuj and GK Kaka. She acted as if Shah house niwasis will die if they did not eat in KH during the grah pravesh. The more I analyse, the more I realise that she is just a narcissist who just wants everyone to praise her. Man Anuj needs to divorce her, I am even sympathizing with Vanraj now.

Anuj's character can be redeemed if he realizes what a great sham his moral compass is and separates from her. As for the great Maa, she does not need redemption because that is what her true nature is.