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Originally posted by: myviewprem

Havent you read that proverb

mother also gives milk to only crying baby not silent baby

introvert baby and submissive baby is always get no attention from family and ignored

whether adopted or own

You watch any family around you silent and nice obedient kids are always ignored by parents or tantrum throwing siblings

Excellent post 👏

In Indian society, when we see kids obedient and well behaved around among our friends and relatives, we are told to make our kids like that.

I have a 6 yo son and I know that he has to be taught to be self reliant and his self respect is also important.. but since he’s young, he has to obey the elders ie grandparents and parents for sometime. Later on, say after 2 years from now, I’ll try to make him independent, self reliant and allow him to take some decisions on his own which is directly connected to him

Originally posted by: Swetha-Sai

Excellent post 👏

In Indian society, when we see kids obedient and well behaved around among our friends and relatives, we are told to make our kids like that.

I have a 6 yo son and I know that he has to be taught to be self reliant and his self respect is also important.. but since he’s young, he has to obey the elders ie grandparents and parents for sometime. Later on, say after 2 years from now, I’ll try to make him independent, self reliant and allow him to take some decisions on his own which is directly connected to him

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

Thank you and that's a very nice approach. Some people never want to lose control over their kids so they never let them decide for themselves.

Some its like 80% do not want too

Rest 20% give freedom not complete

May be there is no social security parents are dependent economically on kids so want to control them

Originally posted by: name2saakshi

Please check this link

https://youtu.be/ZJqllDWG0rQ

Really know what double standards anupama have

If link not working

Then watch episode where paakhi see V n Kavya together n leave home then anupama say all lectures

This is what I am frustrated about. How did she regress so much? Her own daughter insults her like anything, I mean like anything. Even if my mom would have done something wrong or despicable I won't be able to talk to her like that. But for her Anupamaa's mamta is on full display. Truth is Anupamaa does not love CA like she loves her own kids. Heck she does not love Anuj also, she just found someone who would tolerate her all nakhras and that's what she does not wanna lose.

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

Contrary to (perhaps) everyone, I'm actually loving this track. It's painful to watch but at least, they are addressing the issue which no one does.

No matter how much we hate Anupamaa for prioritising others over her child, this is what many kids' fate is. Many children have to go through this and parents don't make it a big deal.

"Kids are to be heard and not seen" is what happens in most families. Parents side with outsiders over their own kids, their child's self respect is none of their concern, they only want an obedient, samajhdaar kid, that's it. This is why adults love to show off before others how obedient and mature their kids are.

It's bold of the makers to give Anuj dialogues such as "I don't want my child to be mature beyond her years" because that's exactly what many parents aspire for in their children. Anupamaa represents those parents.

Having brought up in an environment such as this where a child's self respect and desires don't matter much for the parents, kids grow up much before becoming adult but the truth is they never grow up. Ironically they never grow up to be self-reliant, decisive adults who can make and maintain boundaries, decide for themselves. They grow up only physically, internally they remain those love craving children, favouring others over themselves, prioritising others over themselves.

I cried when Anuj made a big deal of it because parents usually do behave as if it's not. A child's self respect, wishes and self esteem are the last things on their parents' mind.

I'm happy they chose to showcase it. I just hope, Anu gets to live her childhood and doesn't mature before her years.

Anupama didn't say a genuine sorry to her child for once. Why? Because she didn't think it was that important. For her, Anuj snatching his hand from hers was more important, not Anu's tears. In this case she's just like Leela. Leela just said it openly. Anupamaa said it through her actions. I'm not saying she's a bad person. But this is how many parents are. They actually care for and focus on their stubborn, angry child more than the understanding one. It's realistic. And then these children grow up making everyone happy but themselves, caring for everybody but themselves and get taken advantage of the most by everybody, because they grow up believing they aren't important.

I would love to see a different adulthood for Anu, though💔

I agree with everything except that Anupamaa represents anything or anyone. If she represents anything or anyone that would be Vanraj. A toned down sasta Vanraj. The original one uses his male ego and pride to justify everything and this one uses her meek and lacharapan

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

Contrary to (perhaps) everyone, I'm actually loving this track. It's painful to watch but at least, they are addressing the issue which no one does.

No matter how much we hate Anupamaa for prioritising others over her child, this is what many kids' fate is. Many children have to go through this and parents don't make it a big deal.

"Kids are to be heard and not seen" is what happens in most families. Parents side with outsiders over their own kids, their child's self respect is none of their concern, they only want an obedient, samajhdaar kid, that's it. This is why adults love to show off before others how obedient and mature their kids are.

It's bold of the makers to give Anuj dialogues such as "I don't want my child to be mature beyond her years" because that's exactly what many parents aspire for in their children. Anupamaa represents those parents.

Having brought up in an environment such as this where a child's self respect and desires don't matter much for the parents, kids grow up much before becoming adult but the truth is they never grow up. Ironically they never grow up to be self-reliant, decisive adults who can make and maintain boundaries, decide for themselves. They grow up only physically, internally they remain those love craving children, favouring others over themselves, prioritising others over themselves.

I cried when Anuj made a big deal of it because parents usually do behave as if it's not. A child's self respect, wishes and self esteem are the last things on their parents' mind.

I'm happy they chose to showcase it. I just hope, Anu gets to live her childhood and doesn't mature before her years.

Anupama didn't say a genuine sorry to her child for once. Why? Because she didn't think it was that important. For her, Anuj snatching his hand from hers was more important, not Anu's tears. In this case she's just like Leela. Leela just said it openly. Anupamaa said it through her actions. I'm not saying she's a bad person. But this is how many parents are. They actually care for and focus on their stubborn, angry child more than the understanding one. It's realistic. And then these children grow up making everyone happy but themselves, caring for everybody but themselves and get taken advantage of the most by everybody, because they grow up believing they aren't important.

I would love to see a different adulthood for Anu, though💔

Totally agreed. I'd like to add that its not only between two or more children. The good kid, the samajhdaar kid always has to compromise and understand others, even adults. In many cases thats how many children start taking care of parents feelings instead of it being other way round.

Even in the context of this show, this is not the first time Anupama has overlooked her kid's feeling. I know today everyone is comparing Choti Anu with Pakhi but look at the other good kid of Anupama: Samar. Anupama, while she undoubtedly loved him, never acknowledged his pain. Even after years of neglect and humiliation by Vanraj, she dismissed Samar's pain. Always repeating the achhe pita line. After the cheating came to the light, she in a way did get empowered and freed herself from Vanraj. But she never allowed Samar to do the same for himself. He had to be there for his father, respect his father, listen to him, respect the "sacrifices" he made........His anger and pain stemming from Vanraj treatment of him was never addressed by Anupama. And Samar being the good kid just listened, obeyed her. There was noone to speak for him, I am glad atleast Anuj is (finally) speaking up for Choti Anu.

And this also very realistic. In an abusive household the samjhdaar kid is burdened with the task of keeping the peace in th efamily. The stubborn ones, the loud ones, the controlling ones will shout, cry and throw tantrums and the good ones is expected to give in to maintain the peace.

I would have loved this track if the purpose of this track was to show what you wrote. But, we all know the purpose of this track is to show how Bechari Anu is. How Anuj's one decision ruined MAA's joy of becoming a Dadi. How MAA was, is, and will always be manipulated by the men in her life. It's not about boundary, Anuj, CA or MaAn. It's about Maata and Pita struggling hard to maintain a balance between both families. If you remember, before going to Delhi, Kavya demanded V's attention. So, the next track is V getting crushed between his kids and Kavya.

Originally posted by: looseseal

Totally agreed. I'd like to add that its not only between two or more children. The good kid, the samajhdaar kid always has to compromise and understand others, even adults. In many cases thats how many children start taking care of parents feelings instead of it being other way round.

Even in the context of this show, this is not the first time Anupama has overlooked her kid's feeling. I know today everyone is comparing Choti Anu with Pakhi but look at the other good kid of Anupama: Samar. Anupama, while she undoubtedly loved him, never acknowledged his pain. Even after years of neglect and humiliation by Vanraj, she dismissed Samar's pain. Always repeating the achhe pita line. After the cheating came to the light, she in a way did get empowered and freed herself from Vanraj. But she never allowed Samar to do the same for himself. He had to be there for his father, respect his father, listen to him, respect the "sacrifices" he made........His anger and pain stemming from Vanraj treatment of him was never addressed by Anupama. And Samar being the good kid just listened, obeyed her. There was noone to speak for him, I am glad atleast Anuj is (finally) speaking up for Choti Anu.

And this also very realistic. In an abusive household the samjhdaar kid is burdened with the task of keeping the peace in th efamily. The stubborn ones, the loud ones, the controlling ones will shout, cry and throw tantrums and the good ones is expected to give in to maintain the peace.

I do understand that a mother would never want her child to hate his father or would try to sway him away from his dad. But in this case, it should have been Samar's decision, after all, it was he who faced everything. Who is Anupama to decide anything? Just because she is his mom .. LOL. Does she think a child is their parent's property? Now her son can't feel anything on his own?

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

Contrary to (perhaps) everyone, I'm actually loving this track. It's painful to watch but at least, they are addressing the issue which no one does.

No matter how much we hate Anupamaa for prioritising others over her child, this is what many kids' fate is. Many children have to go through this and parents don't make it a big deal.

"Kids are to be heard and not seen" is what happens in most families. Parents side with outsiders over their own kids, their child's self respect is none of their concern, they only want an obedient, samajhdaar kid, that's it. This is why adults love to show off before others how obedient and mature their kids are.

It's bold of the makers to give Anuj dialogues such as "I don't want my child to be mature beyond her years" because that's exactly what many parents aspire for in their children. Anupamaa represents those parents.

Having brought up in an environment such as this where a child's self respect and desires don't matter much for the parents, kids grow up much before becoming adult but the truth is they never grow up. Ironically they never grow up to be self-reliant, decisive adults who can make and maintain boundaries, decide for themselves. They grow up only physically, internally they remain those love craving children, favouring others over themselves, prioritising others over themselves.

I cried when Anuj made a big deal of it because parents usually do behave as if it's not. A child's self respect, wishes and self esteem are the last things on their parents' mind.

I'm happy they chose to showcase it. I just hope, Anu gets to live her childhood and doesn't mature before her years.

Anupama didn't say a genuine sorry to her child for once. Why? Because she didn't think it was that important. For her, Anuj snatching his hand from hers was more important, not Anu's tears. In this case she's just like Leela. Leela just said it openly. Anupamaa said it through her actions. I'm not saying she's a bad person. But this is how many parents are. They actually care for and focus on their stubborn, angry child more than the understanding one. It's realistic. And then these children grow up making everyone happy but themselves, caring for everybody but themselves and get taken advantage of the most by everybody, because they grow up believing they aren't important.

I would love to see a different adulthood for Anu, though💔

Have started watching the show again.

Just wanna say something

I remember when I was in 1st class, I won a painting competition, I got a consolation prize, but it was a big deal for me bcoz I am bad at this stuff, we couldn't go as it was raining a lot and we didn't have many transport options.

(I didn't get the award that I got at that time as we failed to reach that day).

A few years later my brother got 1st position at the same place,

So my dad requested the management and I too got that award that day.

It can be a small thing, but it made my day and made me happy, it always reminds me that my parents won't ever discriminate between us.

We couldn't get that few years bcoz of unavoidable circumstances still he made sure I get later so that I don't feel bad.

So this is why I am getting so annoyed seeing Anupama ka attitude, these small things hurt a kid and later it has a huge impact on a person.

Woh sirf dance, stage ya trophy nahi thi, it was about her parents supporting and being with her and unfortunately, Anupama has always failed.