I love this track

Contrary to (perhaps) everyone, I'm actually loving this track. It's painful to watch but at least, they are addressing the issue which no one does.

No matter how much we hate Anupamaa for prioritising others over her child, this is what many kids' fate is. Many children have to go through this and parents don't make it a big deal.

"Kids are to be heard and not seen" is what happens in most families. Parents side with outsiders over their own kids, their child's self respect is none of their concern, they only want an obedient, samajhdaar kid, that's it. This is why adults love to show off before others how obedient and mature their kids are.

It's bold of the makers to give Anuj dialogues such as "I don't want my child to be mature beyond her years" because that's exactly what many parents aspire for in their children. Anupamaa represents those parents.

Having brought up in an environment such as this where a child's self respect and desires don't matter much for the parents, kids grow up much before becoming adult but the truth is they never grow up. Ironically they never grow up to be self-reliant, decisive adults who can make and maintain boundaries, decide for themselves. They grow up only physically, internally they remain those love craving children, favouring others over themselves, prioritising others over themselves.

I cried when Anuj made a big deal of it because parents usually do behave as if it's not. A child's self respect, wishes and self esteem are the last things on their parents' mind.

I'm happy they chose to showcase it. I just hope, Anu gets to live her childhood and doesn't mature before her years.

Anupama didn't say a genuine sorry to her child for once. Why? Because she didn't think it was that important. For her, Anuj snatching his hand from hers was more important, not Anu's tears. In this case she's just like Leela. Leela just said it openly. Anupamaa said it through her actions. I'm not saying she's a bad person. But this is how many parents are. They actually care for and focus on their stubborn, angry child more than the understanding one. It's realistic. And then these children grow up making everyone happy but themselves, caring for everybody but themselves and get taken advantage of the most by everybody, because they grow up believing they aren't important.

I would love to see a different adulthood for Anu, though💔

Please check this link

https://youtu.be/ZJqllDWG0rQ

Really know what double standards anupama have

If link not working

Then watch episode where paakhi see V n Kavya together n leave home then anupama say all lectures

I would like to say this you are right in what you are saying of 90s or even first decade of 2000s

Kids were only seen and used as prop when guest came not heard. They had no rights or wish of their own ever in 90s and 2000s atleast now after 2010 parents are giving some rights to kids to decide profession on own etc.

For parents kids were to show off the marks kids got with relatives and neighbors or colleagues

Its like this my son got 90% in 10th your daughter got only 85% - such was discussion of parent in get together in 2000s

Or my daughter is MBBS your daughter is only MSc its like a competition between parents where kids are used as weapons

Middle class parents were highly competitive and forced kids to take subjects or profession of their choice against kids wish

Anuj is brought up in USA where kids are much more freedom and independence than an asian kid so may be hes taking CA side much more, even adhik or ankush

If you observe asian kids are more submissive at home and school or college and office too and obey orders of teachers, boss and parents easily because they are taught to do that from birth

They get freedom only after marriage or starting to work independently

Girls do not get that independence even after working or marriage and are told to follow hubby or in laws later son or bahu or they will be punished

Anyone can ill treat or misbehave with a asian child whose elder to them and parents will not interfere like uncle, aunt, relatives, teachers, neighbours even if elders are wroong. Ex baa and vanraj and toshu treating CA badly

So kids learn to be submissive and sacrifice and follow orders without asking any question or protesting any wrong or they will be punished by family or boss or society

Should CA turn out like that?

This is not abut CA only its about all kids in society especially a girl kid

Do we want kids especially our girl kids to be brought up submissive and follow orders of elders and not protest at all any wrong or demand rights

May be that submissiveness helps patriarchal society like asia where they do not want women to ask for equal rights or bend to their parents and in laws or hubby all life and not live independent

Male child have much more independence than a girl child in india and asia.

Also amother feeds milk to crying child not silent child. Pakhi is anupamas crying child and CA silent child so she will suffer all life as she never demands or creates tanturms like a pakhi

Problem with upbringing children submissively without any rights to question or demand from elders is later on in life as adults they will be depressed, never happy, may commit suicide or self harm, always sacrifice for others happiness over their happiness (like many serial actresses) and get used and abused by others like husband, siblings, boss etc all life. They will never be happy in life and whole life purpose is to please others than be happy themselves.

I guess 90s and 2000-2010 gen has een brought up more like anupama and CA. Hopefully 2023 onwards generation will have different kind of upbringing by parents and lead more happy life. Parents and family must bring up especially girl child to not please anyone but themselves first. But i know its impossible in asia as its patriarchal society and mindset. But still may be next gen parents can try like us who will have kids in future to bring up especially daughters independently not submissive like anupama and CA.

Also i have observed these girls who are brought submissively all life they get unhappy to see their daughter or bahu or granddaughter too having independence they never got. Like anupama she does not want CA to become independent or Baa too women in their family should be submissive like they were submissive when young

Nowadays more than mothers a father is more wanting daughter to be independent and progressive because may be they know how worst outside world is because they are part of this patriarchy. They do not want their daughters to suuffer like their moms or sisters. Mothers and grandmothers are more wanting to restrict daughters or bahus bec why should daughter get freedom they never got. Anupama and Baa both hae that jealousy towards CA.

That's true. Happiness is elusive for such children even after they grow up. Even after realising that what they have become, it's difficult to change and it creates nothing but resentment inside them😒

Originally posted by: name2saakshi

Please check this link

https://youtu.be/ZJqllDWG0rQ

Really know what double standards anupama have

If link not working

Then watch episode where paakhi see V n Kavya together n leave home then anupama say all lectures

She has a different level of love for that attention seeking brat

Why can't she give the same attention and love for Anu😡

However, my topic was strictly restricted to this current track. And I know what a big hypocrite Anupamaa is. Oh, and her smirk at the end actually felt like she was happy Vanraj took her side over Kavya and she won🤣

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

That's true. Happiness is elusive for such children even after they grow up. Even after realising that what they have become, it's difficult to change and it creates nothing but resentment inside them😒

Most kids till 2000 or 2010 have been brought up like that only unhappy and submissive or they are enemy of family and all boycott them or call them names like they do for devika or malvika or kavya before she became submissive and nice to shahs

That is why you see for small things they cannot cope like bollywood stars love betrayed suicide parent said no suicide dad refused mobile suicide

I mean i am sure ppl before 90s had much tougher life than after 90s

but they did not commit suicides for everything neither was depression and anxiety etc so much before as in last 20-30 years

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

She has a different level of love for that attention seeking brat

Why can't she give the same attention and love for Anu😡

However, my topic was strictly restricted to this current track. And I know what a big hypocrite Anupamaa is. Oh, and her smirk at the end actually felt like she was happy Vanraj took her side over Kavya and she won🤣

and viwers took sadistic pleasures because kavya is other woman

and never thought anupama is vile

now shes gaslighting anuj and CA so we are angry at her

Originally posted by: myviewprem

and viwers took sadistic pleasures because kavya is other woman

ad never thought anupama is vile

now shes gaslighting anuj and CA so we are angry at her

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

She has a different level of love for that attention seeking brat

Why can't she give the same attention and love for Anu😡

However, my topic was strictly restricted to this current track. And I know what a big hypocrite Anupamaa is. Oh, and her smirk at the end actually felt like she was happy Vanraj took her side over Kavya and she won🤣

Havent you read that proverb

mother also gives milk to only crying baby not silent baby

introvert baby and submissive baby is always get no attention from family and ignored

whether adopted or own

You watch any family around you silent and nice obedient kids are always ignored by parents over tantrum throwing siblings

llike samar was in shah home over toshu and pakhi the tantrum siblings

now CA over anupama 3 kids and shahs

if malvika was here she may also be ignored as shes silent too no tantrums

i seriously want adhik or CA to throw tantrums more worst than pakhi or toshu daily at anupama and shahs

serves them nice lesson

adhik and CA should gang up on the shah kids and Baa to teach them a lesson in KE

It will be fun to watch

I want CA to start rolling on floor and scream if anupama gives even one min attention to baa or pakhi

and adhik must add ghee to fire saying that why are you troubling CA i also support her and both should go on hunger strike and create huge scenes at home (these are some childhood tactics i can give as i was similar to CA in my home). My pets were partner in my crime all would go on tantrum together at home at once that my parents were forced to give me attention. Here adhik can do the helper role like throwing garbage all over kapdiya mansion or helping CA.

First put color and spoil all Baas sarees. CA should ask adhik to put fevicol mixed in color and put it on Baas favourite sarees. If Baa throws tantrums say we were just playing 6 year olds do that.

I had many ideas up my sleeves if CA and adhik can listen to teach lesson to Baa and hasmukh and pakhi too