I feel for Anu

A child doesn't deserve this. In childhood, one feels emptiness and loneliness for the time being, then moves on, becomes happy in present. But these issues go on with time and don't leave a person even in adulthood. The loneliness you feel as a child, the lack of importance you feel from your parents' side breaks you from within and you keep on running behind people to complete what remained incomplete in childhood. You keep craving the love from everyone that you were deprived of by your parents. You run after emotionally unavailable people and keep trying to make them prioritise you, love you. You keep trying to change the ending of your story. I wish and sincerely hope Anu gets the love every child deserves.

I seriously wonder why was she brought into this mess

Isse acha woh ashram me hi rehti. It's very sad to make a pure soul dream about giving a happy family and then crushing her dreams under the other so Called family's responsibility. It's good that Anu is very understanding but till when should the little girl suffer in silence

Originally posted by: Muskie

Isse acha woh ashram me hi rehti. It's very sad to make a pure soul dream about giving a happy family and then crushing her dreams under the other so Called family's responsibility. It's good that Anu is very understanding but till when should the little girl suffer in silence

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

A child doesn't deserve this. In childhood, one feels emptiness and loneliness for the time being, then moves on, becomes happy in present. But these issues go on with time and don't leave a person even in adulthood. The loneliness you feel as a child, the lack of importance you feel from your parents' side breaks you from within and you keep on running behind people to complete what remained incomplete in childhood. You keep craving the love from everyone that you were deprived of by your parents. You run after emotionally unavailable people and keep trying to make them prioritise you, love you. You keep trying to change the ending of your story. I wish and sincerely hope Anu gets the love every child deserves.

I seriously wonder why was she brought into this mess

That is absolutely true. The ache of lonliness, rejection in younger days manifests in different forms in adults. It takes a very sorted & matured person to realize it and take corrective actions. In some cases, too late since the damage is already done. Sad! 😒

I think Anuj very badly wanted a complete family and in the process rushed to adoption with a two fold intention:

1. To have a child of his own

2. To Have a complete family with Anupama

He underestimated Anupama's longing to run to Shah House at the drop of a hat.

I am surprised he waited so long to make the clear to Anupama to prioritise Choti Anu. Also, he is still to get answers for why she left 3 people sleeping in a broken car and rush back.

He knows the vulnerable state of insecurities the kid would be post adoption and still chose to remain silent when the child was dragged to Shah House to witness negativity and then being forsaken in a car with no guardians.

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

That is absolutely true. The ache of lonliness, rejection in younger days manifests in different forms in adults. It takes a very sorted & matured person to realize it and take corrective actions. In some cases, too late since the damage is already done. Sad! 😒

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

I think Anuj very badly wanted a complete family and in the process rushed to adoption with a two fold intention:

1. To have a child of his own

2. To Have a complete family with Anupama

He underestimated Anupama's longing to run to Shah House at the drop of a hat.

I am surprised he waited so long to make the clear to Anupama to prioritise Choti Anu. Also, he is still to get answers for why she left 3 people sleeping in a broken car and rush back.

He knows the vulnerable state of insecurities the kid would be post adoption and still chose to remain silent when the child was dragged to Shah House to witness negativity and then being forsaken in a car with no guardians.

I think he really wanted Anu to be like Anupamaa, hence he never stopped Anupama from taking Anu to mad house. But with time, he too, has realised that Anupamaa is not some ideal woman to be looked upto. She has her own shortcomings and he doesn't want them to get imbibed into his little kid. Maybe!

I think that leaving them alone has been, very conveniently, forgotten by makers.

What really bothered me in today's episode was Anupamaa's assumption that Anuj thinks she loves Anu less than her own kids. The truth is she does love her less than her own kids🤷🏻‍♀️

In real life too, the child who throws tantrums, behaves stubbornly and acts out gets the most attention and love by parents. And the obedient and good child is expected to be understanding as to why she cannot have her parent with her, why she cannot get what she wants, why her parent prioritises someone else (or her brother/sister) over her, why she's never listened to while the other children get to talk to their heart's content with the parent, why the child has to be content with what she has and not ask for more. All these unrealistic expectations are only from the obedient child. And if this child doesn't act in a mature way (beyond her age) and behaves like any other kid, she's reprimanded and sometimes slapped, and sometimes made to feel guilty for being a child🤪while everything is acceptable for the stubborn child. She listens "no" from her parents so many times that she starts forsaking her happiness herself. She starts saying "no" to herself and starts denying happiness to herself and thinks she's being a good person by doing so.

I hope Anu gets understanding from her parents and she's not treated like this😭

God, it turned out to be sooo long, just like Anupamaa's bhashan🤣🤣

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

A child doesn't deserve this. In childhood, one feels emptiness and loneliness for the time being, then moves on, becomes happy in present. But these issues go on with time and don't leave a person even in adulthood. The loneliness you feel as a child, the lack of importance you feel from your parents' side breaks you from within and you keep on running behind people to complete what remained incomplete in childhood. You keep craving the love from everyone that you were deprived of by your parents. You run after emotionally unavailable people and keep trying to make them prioritise you, love you. You keep trying to change the ending of your story. I wish and sincerely hope Anu gets the love every child deserves.

I seriously wonder why was she brought into this mess

After all that you become distant and emotionally numb. You tend to stay away from people and become stone-hearted.

Originally posted by: strancho

After all that you become distant and emotionally numb. You tend to stay away from people and become stone-hearted.

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

And people think you are just like this. You like to be alone or sometimes they think you are simply arrogant 🤔

Yep. Reversing the damage that was done for 18 years is not easy. After growing up, people become comfortable being alone so much that the thought of anyone entering their space seems scary.