It's all Anuj's fault

The reason Anupamaa could keep up with her bhashan fest with her head held high even after messing up the loan fraud was because Anuj paid money and forgot all about it.

The reason Anupamaa can conveniently ignore the dance academy and go there only when she feels like is because Anuj paid Samar (soree soree, loaned Samar) a hefty amount to cover losses and expand and conveniently forgot about it.

The reason Maharaj was able to show all that attitude of "My daughter is my business" was because Anuj never asked him to pay back the money "His daughter" spent on the non-refundable lavishness of her wedding.

The reason Anupamaa is always rejuvenated enough to handle Shah toxicity is because Anuj doesn't pressure her for anything back home. If this support would have been for a career or a profession, a woman would have become a Nobel laureate, but it's being wasted to deal with the Shah-toxicity.

Anupamaa gets away with her Mahaanta mess because Anuj let's her.

She was right, if Anuj couldn't forget her and kept loving her for 26 years without expectations and spent so much money on her without blinking, he shouldn't expect her to stop loving her brats unconditionally and stop being a doormat for them.

And what are relationships but a laughable mess. If relationships were to be honored, Anuj should have spent a small amount on AB and BB to get them a flat instead of ordering them to fend for themselves, exactly how Anupamaa should have given importance to Anuj instead of the Shahs because he is actually related to her.

We watched Anupamaa's meek tolerance for just 6 months before she became BhaashanMaa, but we have been seeing Anuj's similar tolerance for more than a year and a half with no hope of respite anytime soon