I would honestly say donāt bother explaining. I tried my best in the other post and was attacked. This was literally what I tried to say.
Some expectations - for her to set boundaries and draw a line between her and her kids. Stand her ground and say she will not come to a place where sheās insulted daily (basic human nature usually, not even considered an expectation). And actually stick to it, not just say it and be back in 3 days.
Whole expectations - For her alone to do all the work of Shah House, take care of everybodyās problems, constantly go to that house even after repeated badduas and horrible statements by her so called āmaaā and loving bacche.
When we ask her just for that āsome expectationā, itās literally for her own self respect and sanity. Not for anyone else. And asking her to do that doesnāt mean we are saying her kids should do as they please, obviously they shouldnāt. But they do anyway, they donāt listen to anyone, so for your own peace of mind you cut off from toxic people rather than expecting them to magically change and constantly putting yourself through hell.
But this statement of mine was apparently unreasonable and expecting Anupama to do everything and what not. So I would say let people believe what they want to! They wonāt understand basic logic.
Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej
Some expectationš¤
Alright. Now tell me
1. you expecting her to tell her kids to go to hell is just some expectation,
2. but my expectation for Anupama to ask her kids to come to her house is whole expectation.
How do we measure thatš¤
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