D reason for which Anupama is blamed always by jhooladevi , kursiraj , Toshu is that she is their punching bag as well as problem solver .
I noticed in some old episode which includes rakhi d 3 idiots were blaming Anu later she finds a solution & it worked so Toshu was praising her by saying mummy ne phir sab sahi kar diya .
So they blame Anu so that she finds a solution for them as jhooladevi & kursiraj has huge ego they can only create problems but can't find solution.
Before anuj entry when kavya gave rakhi check before her meeting to Anuj regarding karkhana deal later when deal was not successful she feared cheque will bounce coz of no amount in her account she req Anu to deal with rakhi as she know how to handle her .
I feel this is d main reason of blaming Anu for their wrong deeds in order to get a solution of her .
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