Doormat Anupama??!! - Page 2

Baa ka attitude dekh kar laga in future she will not allow anupama’s second marriage.

Jab reunion party mai bhi nahi jane deti toh anupama ko dusro shaddi kya khak karne degi baa !🤢

Anupama Aj jaise baa ki permission ka wait kar rahi thi waise he future mai Anuj se shaddi karne ke time bhi baa ki permission ka wait karegi ! 🤢

Most of girls/women (including me) would move out after this much suffering from husband.... they will not tolerate ex husband's presence for a second - if not for kids or legal matter !!!

No one can see ex cum cheater husband every day in and out of rest of the life and boil own blood!!!!!!

She is portrayed as a illiterate doormat - or I would say character sketch is inconsistence .... some times she fights for herself (like divorce time).... sometimes... she choses family over her self-respect...

Originally posted by: ...manal...

Narcissists like Vanraj and people like Baa thrive on having authority over others. Kaavya pe inn dono ki chalti nahi hai toh gadha kisko banaayegein? Anupamaa ko. The fact that Anupamaa lives in the same house as them gives them every opportunity to continue with their ways even though they no more have the right to do so (not that they ever had the right to dehumanize her).

I mean Vanraj keeps referring to himself in first person 😆 and Baa is the first to point fingers at Anupamaa at the slightest of her errors but rarely ever at her son who is a certified chauvinist pig. What did you expect? I for one am not surprised at all. Vanraj and Baa only pretend to have realised their mistakes and changed their attitude towards Anupamaa when it is convenient for them. One mistake from Anupamaa's side and they show their true colours. People like them never change. Anupamaa needs to grow a spine and not give them that kind of authority over her. But that will take time. She has been a victim of mental, emotional and physical abuse for most of her life. This is all she's ever known. She won't change overnight and one shouldn't expect that from her either. Unlearning abuse is a very difficult journey, especially with people continuously gaslighting you. Also, you need guidance and support in such situatuons, which she doesn't really have. Devika isn't always around and her children are absolutely useless. There's Baapuji, but the minute he emotionally blackmailed Anupamaa into staying under the same roof as her abuser and the woman he cheated with, he already did a disservice to her. Basically, Anupamaa needs professional help to change her life a.k.a a therapist. But this is an Indian television show and you need to be very progressive to show someone getting mental health help. Which let's face it, is never gonna happen. Because mahaan people don't go to therapists. 👏

U know in today's episode ,I know it was weird time of such feeling coming to me but when babuji went like chal tujhe kulfi khilane le chalta hun to baa n they went I felt very bad ....like babuji has baa to go as a unit with him...vanraj was standing with kavya..n the kids too have someone in life as for pakhi that will happen with her as well..sab apne apne mein time spend karenge par anu ka kya....though abhi samar n pakhi don't have partners living with them but jab hoga how more alone will anupama look...she will feel lonely ....kisiko bhi uski padi nahi hai aur na hi uske akele pan ki sivaye devika ke ...i m sure by the way she acted in today's episode she has hopes to be cupid n make anu get second chance in her love life as she know how much love she deserves ....see devika is also alone but purre akele rehne mein aur jodo ke beech akele rehne mein bahut farak hai ....I hope i m making sense

Originally posted by: ...manal...

Narcissists like Vanraj and people like Baa thrive on having authority over others. Kaavya pe inn dono ki chalti nahi hai toh gadha kisko banaayegein? Anupamaa ko. The fact that Anupamaa lives in the same house as them gives them every opportunity to continue with their ways even though they no more have the right to do so (not that they ever had the right to dehumanize her).

I mean Vanraj keeps referring to himself in first person 😆 and Baa is the first to point fingers at Anupamaa at the slightest of her errors but rarely ever at her son who is a certified chauvinist pig. What did you expect? I for one am not surprised at all. Vanraj and Baa only pretend to have realised their mistakes and changed their attitude towards Anupamaa when it is convenient for them. One mistake from Anupamaa's side and they show their true colours. People like them never change. Anupamaa needs to grow a spine and not give them that kind of authority over her. But that will take time. She has been a victim of mental, emotional and physical abuse for most of her life. This is all she's ever known. She won't change overnight and one shouldn't expect that from her either. Unlearning abuse is a very difficult journey, especially with people continuously gaslighting you. Also, you need guidance and support in such situatuons, which she doesn't really have. Devika isn't always around and her children are absolutely useless. There's Baapuji, but the minute he emotionally blackmailed Anupamaa into staying under the same roof as her abuser and the woman he cheated with, he already did a disservice to her. Basically, Anupamaa needs professional help to change her life a.k.a a therapist. But this is an Indian television show and you need to be very progressive to show someone getting mental health help. Which let's face it, is never gonna happen. Because mahaan people don't go to therapists. 👏

So true about Vanraj and Baa...

Anupama needs to quickly move out of that home.

Originally posted by: sushups

U know in today's episode ,I know it was weird time of such feeling coming to me but when babuji went like chal tujhe kulfi khilane le chalta hun to baa n they went I felt very bad ....like babuji has baa to go as a unit with him...vanraj was standing with kavya..n the kids too have someone in life as for pakhi that will happen with her as well..sab apne apne mein time spend karenge par anu ka kya....though abhi samar n pakhi don't have partners living with them but jab hoga how more alone will anupama look...she will feel lonely ....kisiko bhi uski padi nahi hai aur na hi uske akele pan ki sivaye devika ke ...i m sure by the way she acted in today's episode she has hopes to be cupid n make anu get second chance in her love life as she know how much love she deserves ....see devika is also alone but purre akele rehne mein aur jodo ke beech akele rehne mein bahut farak hai ....I hope i m making sense

@ bold - perfectly !

I have been experienced it myself - I had to wait for visa process for 3 -4 months and my husband had to go earlier than me.

I was living with 4 couples in my in-laws home !

it is NOT only about living with couples around - worst of all is living alone where you have memories of your partner (meant - living in my husband's home where we lived together - have memories - was worst of all)!

I was feeling a lot lighter/better at my parents home - in short - away from those memories.

- that's why I say no one can stay so easily in front of all ex in-laws and in ex house!!!!!!!

Originally posted by: A4Anjie

@ bold - perfectly !

I have been experienced it myself - I had to wait for visa process for 3 -4 months and my husband had to go earlier than me.

I was living with 4 couples in my in-laws home !

it is NOT only about living with couples around - worst of all is living alone where you have memories of your partner (meant - living in my husband's home where we lived together - have memories - was worst of all)!

I was feeling a lot lighter/better at my parents home - in short - away from those memories.

- that's why I say no one can stay so easily in front of all ex in-laws and in ex house!!!!!!!

@bold : Damn true! I can totally understand this feeling !

Originally posted by: waiting

When Anupama's friend asked her to to go for the reunion why was Anupama so scared ?? Why is she is waiting for Baa's approval ??

And what business does baa have stopping her from going?? I mean, Anupama is no longer Baa's daughter in law. So baa really needs to focus on restricting Kaavya instead of Anupama.

It's so damn weird - asli bahu is Kaavya but expectations are from Anupama.

And mahaan doormat Anupama is ready to tolerate. Anupama really needs to move out of that house and start leading her own life without vanraj and baa trying to run her life!

Vanraj! He was the first one to interrupt Devika. The gall of this man!! I wish Anupama had turned around and given him a fitting reply, instead of Devika prompting Kavya to shut her man up. I like how Devika's indirect jibes at V. And his egoistic looks are classy! 😊

Baa thinks she owns Anupama. I wish Anupama had retorted to her too. I dont understand why Anupama continues to take trash from baa. Stupid woman, never learns.

Vanraj, after expressing jealousy, ego, he is seen beaming with a smile when he sees Anupama dressed up for the party! 🤔

Hamne kae baar suna hai ke kuch time abusive behavior sehne ke baad inshan iss ka itna addi ho jata hai ke wo har baat pe uspe depends ho jata hai like adat pad jati hai anupama ne 26 saalo tak yehi dekha aur bhugta hai aur abb Anupama jab tak inke sath rahegi har baar yehi hoga

Originally posted by: dipali13

Hamne kae baar suna hai ke kuch time abusive behavior sehne ke baad inshan iss ka itna addi ho jata hai ke wo har baat pe uspe depends ho jata hai like adat pad jati hai anupama ne 26 saalo tak yehi dekha aur bhugta hai aur abb Anupama jab tak inke sath rahegi har baar yehi hoga

Yep! She needs to leave the house ASAP. That is the solution to all problems. Sigh!