To whom should we inform first if we face workplace harassment? - Page 2

Originally posted by: suger_genius

i totally agree with you and if kinjal tell this matter to toshu what will be his reaction he either tell her leave her job or become angery and nothing else he is not going to understand what she going through and kinjal knows this thats why she didn't tell him

Exactly! That means husband wife has no emotional bond that’s why they couldn’t confide in each other during sensitive times of life. It’s sign of bad marriage.

Originally posted by: QNefertiti

We have a letter box in school where girls can write letter addressing Principal and president of women cell 🤔 in case they face any kind of harassment 😬 I did it once against my teachers who made remarks about me and other boy in my class...Principal ne sabko bulaya and he tried to hide the matter....fir merko teacher boli ki I should go to block officer or district officer.. I wrote letter to both and went to collector office too 🤨 DO ne team bheji thi school me aur fir action hua aur merko ek written apology mili..Sabse pahle maine mammy aur Papa ko bataya tha aur my Papa supported me everywhere

Ye to meri baat thi 😬 Kinjal ke liye Toshu is just a method to be with Anupamaa

Woww you did fab job 👍👍

I have faced workplace harassment . Not just me other colleagues were also suffering.We had complained about it to top management and after coming back to hostel, I had called my father immediately to share my experience. I was ready to resign but top management took some actions and things were better after that so I continued my job . My father listened my bad experience on call and asked me to take actions against it. Mere papa ne bhi acha support kiya tha😬

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Event sequence for today's episode:

Kinjal faced workplace harassment, She came back home in cab, she hided it with the reason fight with toshu, she received TOSHU'S VOICE MESSAGE which was for her no reply to his msgs and calls and about to end the fight. Toshu sent voice message because kinjal is not replying to his msgs or calls.

Next sequence is seems like entire night is passed and next morning kinjal will inform anupama about harassment.

Now as a working woman and being married, i have a question in my mind. It's true couples do fights, can shout on each other, disagree with each other, can be unhappy with each other everything is ok but when you feel such harassment at workplace, how can you stop yourself from informing it to your life partner at very first place!!!!!

How can a woman choose to inform any third person first than her life partner?!!! Whatever bond you share with third person , how can you forget you share some bond with your life partner too and with all the due respect to your marriage, at least you should attempt to inform him first.

Anupama is rock star, anupama will do all fight for kinjal against dholakia, whatever it is. I know this is one more track to glorify lead but in process to glorify female lead more and more, you are butchering someone's marriage and kinjal's character too.

Anupama's monologue... "dholakia ko khoon ke aansoo.... " we need to brace ourselves for her maa ka mamta drama on this topic too I wish Kinjal had dealt with this herself, shown how she resolves this and comes out of it stronger. I'm sure she is very capable of it.

btw, Dholakia looks like her grandpa!

This was in the start of my career and I told my bro first.

This person uses to pass dirty remarks and if I am in the cafeteria come behind and stand too close

I tried to handle it by avoiding that person since he belonged to a different team. He felt that this silent serious and quiet person will not do anything. My bro told me to confront him. I took another male team colleague who I knew from before personally along who has heard him pass this remark since that person is his team. I told him I don't appreciate this and if he does not stop I will go the committee. This warning is only due to the little kids that he has. I did keep my immediate boss in loop too.

Another time it happened at a office party the said person tried to force me to dance and was drunk. I lot my cool and pushed him away. I reported it to my immediate boss along with two other female. Another male team leader who saw the incidents supported us. He was immediately terminated since he already had some other warning which I had no clue about. But it did scare me a little enf to for a refresher self defence class

I have seen the opposite too, I was one of the witness in the case where a female teammate was obsessed with one of teh team leader. The said guy is handsome and soft-spoken. He is quite the silent type. Has come up with great difficulty and slightly hesitant with females to talk beyond work. The gal used to force h.to come for tea and lunch. Once he told her that he can't like her since he uncomfortable with all her attention and he feels uncomfortable with her gaze. I know this guy since he was my bro batchmate so he approached me to help him he told her again by calling her to a nearby cafe with me her him and another friend of his. She said she would teach him a lesson. The person also happened to live in the same floor as us and most at work were not aware. The next day she raised a official complaint that he physically harassed her in the conference room late evening previous day. At the said time we had been at the cafe. Luckily he still had the cafe bill with his name. His card showed the payment. Plus we said the cafe owner was ready to give the cctv footage of necessary. This was my first time where I realised even men can be harrassed the said guy took a lot of time to get over this

If it happened after marriage yea I would keep my husband in loop.

Originally posted by: QNefertiti

We have a letter box in school where girls can write letter addressing Principal and president of women cell 🤔 in case they face any kind of harassment 😬 I did it once against my teachers who made remarks about me and other boy in my class...Principal ne sabko bulaya and he tried to hide the matter....fir merko teacher boli ki I should go to block officer or district officer.. I wrote letter to both and went to collector office too 🤨 DO ne team bheji thi school me aur fir action hua aur merko ek written apology mili..Sabse pahle maine mammy aur Papa ko bataya tha aur my Papa supported me everywhere

Ye to meri baat thi 😬 Kinjal ke liye Toshu is just a method to be with Anupamaa

Kudos to u r courage

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

I was surprised too. There are some things you would rather confide with your spouse first. That Kinjal did not confide with Toshu speaks volumes about how disconnected both of them are in their marriage! 🤔

Anupama's monologue... "dholakia ko khoon ke aansoo.... " we need to brace ourselves for her maa ka mamta drama on this topic too I wish Kinjal had dealt with this herself, shown how she resolves this and comes out of it stronger. I'm sure she is very capable of it.

btw, Dholakia looks like her grandpa!

@bold : They are not at all emotionally connected with each other. First i thought matter is limited to husband-wife is unable to coming on same page while taking decisions and now i am seeing another side of this marriage where wife couldn't confide in her husband during sensitive times of life. Staying at different place can't be reason here. No matter how much disagreements you have or how far your spouse lives from your place, Your inner feelings will push you to confide in your spouse first.

Tomorrow if this marriage crumbles then reason is crystal clear, it's love marriage without any emotional connection in between husband and wife. Let's see how much this marriage will survive.

regarding anupama's monologue, woh kuch bhi blabber kiye ja rahi thi!

Main toh anupama jab bolna start Karti hai tab 15sec wala skip button he press kar deti hu

Har baat mai motherhood kyon bich mai laana faltu mai?!

Molestation is about womanhood and not belongs to motherhood only.

Kya kachra hai matlab vanraj ko danda le kar office mai pitne jaana hai! Anupama ko dholakia ko khoon ke aasu rulana hai?! Aise kaun action leta hai!

Humne bhi action liya tha apne office mai but papa aise danda lekar office nahi aye the aur mummy bhi anupama jaise motherhood zone mai nahi ghusi padi thi

TBH, I don't know how it works out but shouldn't Kinjal had informed the HR people or management of her company regarding her getting molested? I'm assuming they are corrupted despite a stringent policy & Dholakia controls the upperhand in the company? There is a a reason (at least in the US) to fill out the voluntary EEOC. Not sure how it is done in India. Please feel free to correct me.

Secondly, her partner (if she's not married, then her family members particularly parents and/or siblings) primarily should be informed of this & case should be filed while aside from thinking of quitting the job (if it starts to become the norm or something).

Originally posted by: Myrah_2020

TBH, I don't know how it works out but shouldn't Kinjal had informed the HR people or management of her company regarding her getting molested? I'm assuming they are corrupted despite a stringent policy & Dholakia controls the upperhand in the company? There is a a reason (at least in the US) to fill out the voluntary EEOC. Not sure how it is done in India. Please feel free to correct me.

Secondly, her partner (if she's not married, then her family members particularly parents and/or siblings) primarily should be informed of this & case should be filed while aside from thinking of quitting the job (if it starts to become the norm or something).

Did you watch today’s precap? it’s hilarious 🤣

Neither kinjal informed the management of the company nor anupama advised her to be brave , go to office next day and do the complain to senior authorities. In place of that blabber queen was all busy with her lecture to that Kavya 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Tomorrow shah household mahila morcha will reach to office 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Originally posted by: Myrah_2020

TBH, I don't know how it works out but shouldn't Kinjal had informed the HR people or management of her company regarding her getting molested? I'm assuming they are corrupted despite a stringent policy & Dholakia controls the upperhand in the company? There is a a reason (at least in the US) to fill out the voluntary EEOC. Not sure how it is done in India. Please feel free to correct me.

Secondly, her partner (if she's not married, then her family members particularly parents and/or siblings) primarily should be informed of this & case should be filed while aside from thinking of quitting the job (if it starts to become the norm or something).

Actually here in the show, they have chosen a tikdam way. Without allowing the company to take actions, they have already assumed that nothing could be done in this matter and hence they have taken law in their hands. I Don't have any experience in this matter in my office (thank God), that's why I don't know how actually the actions are taken. But we do have anti ragging and anti harrasing committee, also every week our HR and management discuss the problems we have in the company, we as in ladies. So yes in MNCs there is a proper way to file these harrasment actions.! I don't know if I am talking sense or not.?

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Did you watch today’s precap? it’s hilarious 🤣

Neither kinjal informed the management of the company nor anupama advised her to be brave , go to office next day and do the complain to senior authorities. In place of that blabber queen was all busy with her lecture to that Kavya 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Tomorrow shah household mahila morcha will reach to office 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Less said about anupama, the better. 😂 Her lectures & expressions bore me lol. Her lecture when Kinjal fought with Baa over Baa's demand to making roti getting glossed over was such a terrible way to give the track a closure. 😆