To whom should we inform first if we face workplace harassment?

Event sequence for today's episode:

Kinjal faced workplace harassment, She came back home in cab, she hided it with the reason fight with toshu, she received TOSHU'S VOICE MESSAGE which was for her no reply to his msgs and calls and about to end the fight. Toshu sent voice message because kinjal is not replying to his msgs or calls.

Next sequence is seems like entire night is passed and next morning kinjal will inform anupama about harassment.

Now as a working woman and being married, i have a question in my mind. It's true couples do fights, can shout on each other, disagree with each other, can be unhappy with each other everything is ok but when you feel such harassment at workplace, how can you stop yourself from informing it to your life partner at very first place!!!!!

How can a woman choose to inform any third person first than her life partner?!!! Whatever bond you share with third person , how can you forget you share some bond with your life partner too and with all the due respect to your marriage, at least you should attempt to inform him first.

Anupama is rock star, anupama will do all fight for kinjal against dholakia, whatever it is. I know this is one more track to glorify lead but in process to glorify female lead more and more, you are butchering someone's marriage and kinjal's character too.

Actually as per the Indian law, first you should inform the Complaints Committee in your organisation 😐

It’s a very sensitive topic that doesn’t get enough awareness in India. Makers better not butcher this.

Originally posted by: archanan14

Actually as per the Indian law, first you should inform the Complaints Committee in your organisation 😐

If you didn’t get a chance to inform the complaints committee, you can inform your life partner firsthand😐

We have a letter box in school where girls can write letter addressing Principal and president of women cell 🤔 in case they face any kind of harassment 😬 I did it once against my teachers who made remarks about me and other boy in my class...Principal ne sabko bulaya and he tried to hide the matter....fir merko teacher boli ki I should go to block officer or district officer.. I wrote letter to both and went to collector office too 🤨 DO ne team bheji thi school me aur fir action hua aur merko ek written apology mili..Sabse pahle maine mammy aur Papa ko bataya tha aur my Papa supported me everywhere

Ye to meri baat thi 😬 Kinjal ke liye Toshu is just a method to be with Anupamaa

It's a very sensitive issue. I feel a woman should inform someone who she feels would understand. It's not necessary that all husband understands what workplace harassment means.

Many ppl feel that the women has over reacted and such things are common in workplace and u have to avoid such things otherwise u will be difficult in job and will not achieve success and not hired by other firm too. In govt organization there is still union etc and safety of Job but in private no one listens.

Few days back an IAS officer filed complaint about sexual harassment. When such high ranking govt official can face such things what about common ppl.

Kinjal may not have trust on toshu because he doesn't understand her and her emotions. And telling someone in phn is also not comfortable. Anupama is around her and asking same thing again and again so obviously kinjal would blurt it out to her.

right so Anupama will solve this problem and rest of the family and her students and people around her because she is going to taking place of lat IANDRA GHANDI soon ?

It should be more of who she is comfortable telling first, it can be Toshu, Anupamaa or Rakhi or any of her friend also. There is no rule who should be informed first. Many time girls even don't tell their parents, but confide in their friends first, doesn't make them stupid. Also as per precap, it seems she was still gonna hide it, but Anupamaa sensed something is the issue and she directly asked the question if Dholakia did anything, so obviously she told her. Otherwise I think she was still trying to process what happened with her. I don't see that her character is butchered here, just because she told anupamaa first and not Toshu. I don't think there was an issue in whoever she tells first, telling is important rather than who should be told first.

i totally agree with you and if kinjal tell this matter to toshu what will be his reaction he either tell her leave her job or become angery and nothing else he is not going to understand what she going through and kinjal knows this thats why she didn't tell him

Originally posted by: neo7

It should be more of who she is comfortable telling first, it can be Toshu, Anupamaa or Rakhi or any of her friend also. There is no rule who should be informed first. Many time girls even don't tell their parents, but confide in their friends first, doesn't make them stupid. Also as per precap, it seems she was still gonna hide it, but Anupamaa sensed something is the issue and she directly asked the question if Dholakia did anything, so obviously she told her. Otherwise I think she was still trying to process what happened with her. I don't see that her character is butchered here, just because she told anupamaa first and not Toshu. I don't think there was an issue in whoever she tells first, telling is important rather than who should be told first.

There is no rule but some feelings are unsaid and husband-wife bond should be enough strong to confide in each other , to find solace in each other’s arms through thick and thin.

Friends/Relatives/Family nobody can come near to the bond of husband-wife atleast for me.

If I try to imagine, God forbid if my husband suffered something bad and he choose to share with me later than anyone else , I will definitely feel like why our marriage is not enough strong and my husband couldn’t confide in me for his pain/suffering !! I will not ask him anything but it will tore me from inside.

May be every person is different. May be kinjal-toshu has not strong emotional bond that’s why she couldn’t confide in her husband.