Why indian needs maid and non-Indians doesn’t??

I read other post and I have specific points regarding Indian household so in place of hijacking other thread, I thought to make separate post.

Why indian needs maid and non Indian doesn’t?Below are the points which push every working women who stay in joint family to bring maid in the house though not 24/7 like kavya did because everyone doesn’t like to have maid in the house at night time.

Difference 1:

In the Canada and USA, in most of the house men and women BOTH does domestic job . In india sadly mostly boy moms ar like anupama and Leela who never push their son for domestic works.

Difference 2:

In Canada , Europe , USA , men’s does bring grocery to house when coming house after job since BOTH the people are working. Here minority house has system . Even though both are working, in majority houses grocery shopping, dusting and cooking all the things done by only women because boy mom’s never push their sons like anupama and Leela never did.

Difference 3 :

About finance/cost : if I compare charges, it’s like 50 times more cheap here. Getting maids, carpenters, plumbers on cheap price is huge benefit in India. Cost is like upper middle class people can afford. You have not to be supremely rich to have maid in India.

Difference 4 :

My best friend lives in Bay Area California, I am seeing their life culture where they don’t make 4 type of aachar like typical Indian houses, they bring ready aata packs to home unlike India’s typical houses where in the summers we brought wheat from the markets, clean it on our on etc . Canadian/Americans are not making 4/5 types of aachar, neither does brings wheat at home to clean/grind and they don’t cook 5-6 items in lunch and dinner. In typical joint families, lady asks everyone about their choices of cooking so there is no general cooking system in the house unlike Canada /America where people practically cooks only 2-3 items in kuch and dinner.

Difference 5 :

Practicalities: Term is very short but difference is huge. In Indian households nobody treats working women with practical thought like if she is working let’s bring ready aata pack in the house or pickle bottles in the house or in place of making food of every single members choice, let’s try to make general 2-3 items in the morning -evening. This same things can be possible in nuclear families but definitely not in joint families.

Different 6 :

In America/Canada 2-3 generations doesn’t live under the same roof. Everyone have their separate house and they meet and greet each other either on weekends or on occasions that’s it. In india and in traditional families, 2-3 generations lives together and all wants to maintain their choices in the house without thinking practically which is huge hurdle and make domestic jobs more complex.

Agree to your points.

W.r.t Kavya's case, Anupamaa ne kavya ur kinjal pe decision chhor diya of keeping a maid or not, infact baa ko bhi jaake kavya ka point of view samjhaya and how she has right to decide if ahe wants to work at home or not. And what did kavya do, she was smirking when Rakhi called anu as maid. Thats the difference. And anupamaa was right maid se kaam karvana ek bada task hai, my mom also sometimes feels that ki maid ko samjhane se acha hai main khud hi kaam kar lu. She just said the real practical thing. What's wrong in that. She didn't tell kavya not to hire a maid for herself

But hiring a full time maid for 2 people is too much. We are family of 5 and 4 members earn in my family, even after that we don't have full time maid. Bcoz they charge too much. Maid comes for cleaning rooms and washing utensils once in day time and once at night and then leaves

Full time maid ka koi matlab hi nahi hai for 2 people. For kavya and V she has to just cook breakfast and at the same time prepare their lunch and after that clean their room and leave. And for dinner she can come in evening and make food and wash utensils and go. It saves lot of money and since Vanraj is not earning shouldn't she be thinking of saving money? A full time maid are costly. She is not wrong in hiring maid, but I feel hiring full time maid for 2 people is waste of money.

Originally posted by: neo7

Agree to your points.

W.r.t Kavya's case, Anupamaa ne kavya ur kinjal pe decision chhor diya of keeping a maid or not, infact baa ko bhi jaake kavya ka point of view samjhaya and how she has right to decide if ahe wants to work at home or not. And what did kavya do, she was smirking when Rakhi called anu as maid. Thats the difference. And anupamaa was right maid se kaam karvana ek bada task hai, my mom also sometimes feels that ki maid ko samjhane se acha hai main khud hi kaam kar lu. She just said the real practical thing. What's wrong in that. She didn't tell kavya not to hire a maid for herself

But hiring a full time maid for 2 people is too much. We are family of 5 and 4 members earn in my family, even after that we don't have full time maid. Bcoz they charge too much. Maid comes for cleaning rooms and washing utensils once in day time and once at night and then leaves

Full time maid ka koi matlab hi nahi hai for 2 people. For kavya and V she has to just cook breakfast and at the same time prepare their lunch and after that clean their room and leave. And for dinner she can come in evening and make food and wash utensils and go. It saves lot of money and since Vanraj is not earning shouldn't she be thinking of saving money? A full time maid are costly. She is not wrong in hiring maid, but I feel hiring full time maid for 2 people is waste of money.

“Full time” made idea is wrong but maid idea is not wrong since no boy moms of the house is asking their sons to do some domestic work.

Shah household have around 10 people in the house .10 is huge number.

Personally I don’t like maid after working hours in my house. Kaam karo or apne ghar jao and neither we have cook in my house because we are family of only 4 people . But I have joint family of more than 12 people in my maayka so I am seeing the difference of work load which I carry and workload which my mother/chachis carry. It’s a huge difference 4 vs 12.

I agree with you and I am in favour of house maid when it comes to such a big family but I personally don’t like maids in my house after working hours so full time is too much.
Kal se yeh log dikhayege full time maids kitne bekar hote hai😃 Puri labour community ka name khabrab karega .

Aj kal sab agency se aati hai full time mids and they are very professional unlike they showed in the precap.

local kamvali neighbors se hire ho jati hai but full time maids ahmedabad mai mostly agency through aati hai and they are very good to work and extremely professional unlike the precap.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

“Full time” made idea is wrong but maid idea is not wrong since no boy moms of the house is asking their sons to do some domestic work.

Shah household have around 10 people in the house .10 is huge number.

Personally I don’t like maid after working hours in my house. Kaam karo or apne ghar jao and neither we have cook in my house because we are family of only 4 people . But I have joint family of more than 12 people in my maayka so I am seeing the difference of work load which I carry and workload which my mother/chachis carry. It’s a huge difference 4 vs 12.

I agree with you and I am in favour of house maid when it comes to such a big family but I personally don’t like maids in my house after working hours so full time is too much.
Kal se yeh log dikhayege full time maids kitne bekar hote hai😃 Puri labour community ka name khabrab karega .

Aj kal sab agency se aati hai full time mids and they are very professional unlike they showed in the precap.

local kamvali neighbors se hire ho jati hai but full time maids ahmedabad mai mostly agency through aati hai and they are very good to work and extremely professional unlike the precap.

Ahmedabad ka I have no idea, but yahan mumbai mostly sab local maids hi hoti hai I have not seen anyone hiring maid from agency, mumbai main mostly people stay in flats, so here having a maid who stay back is also difficult. You don't get privacy at all then.

Gujrat main most people have duplexes, so it is still manageable for them if they have full time maid if there are many people in house, but for 2 people its too much.

Originally posted by: neo7

Ahmedabad ka I have no idea, but yahan mumbai mostly sab local maids hi hoti hai I have not seen anyone hiring maid from agency, mumbai main mostly people stay in flats, so here having a maid who stay back is also difficult. You don't get privacy at all then.

Gujrat main most people have duplexes, so it is still manageable for them if they have full time maid if there are many people in house, but for 2 people its too much.

My friend has hired from agency. You have to fill form with your requirements and timings and they send accordingly.

She has hired maid for morning 8:30 to 10 and evening 7:30 to 9 . Per day 3 hours of service and pays charge according to hours. In ahmedabad, bartan jadu pocha wali neighbors se hire ho jati hai but if you have trust issues and want some professional for fix hours, you have agency option which is damn good.

I myself had hired maid from agency just for 10 days because I was going to my maayka and nobody was there to take care of home or to cook in my absence . My husband can cook small small things but not meal so for those 10 days, I contacted agency and give them timings and list of work which they need to do in my absence and paid them for 10 days service. That was good experience.

10 days or 365 days , doesn’t matter for agency , they will provide you services as per hours of your choice. Kavya asked full time but I had asked for only 3 hours. Morning 1.5 hours and evening 1.5 hours.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

My friend has hired from agency. You have to fill form with your requirements and timings and they send accordingly.

She has hired maid for morning 8:30 to 10 and evening 7:30 to 9 . Per day 3 hours of service and pays charge according to hours. In ahmedabad, bartan jadu pocha wali neighbors se hire ho jati hai but if you have trust issues and want some professional for fix hours, you have agency option which is damn good.

I myself had hired maid from agency just for 10 days because I was going to my maayka and nobody was there to take care of home or to cook in my absence . My husband can cook small small things but not meal so for those 10 days, I contacted agency and give them timings and list of work which they need to do in my absence and paid them for 10 days service. That was good experience.

10 days or 365 days , doesn’t matter for agency , they will provide you services as per hours of your choice. Kavya asked full time but I had asked for only 3 hours. Morning 1.5 hours and evening 1.5 hours.

I somehow feel local maid are more trustworthy bcoz they work at multiple Neighbors and thus they do not risk their work by creating and trust issues. And you get the feedback from neighbors before hiring, its better than calling someone totally stranger at your place. This is my pov, some may feel agency maids are better.

Originally posted by: neo7

I somehow feel local maid are more trustworthy bcoz they work at multiple Neighbors and thus they do not risk their work by creating and trust issues. And you get the feedback from neighbors before hiring, its better than calling someone totally stranger at your place. This is my pov, some may feel agency maids are better.

I do believe the same but problem is humare yaha local maids apne time ke hisab se aati hai and humare time ke hisab se nahi aati hai. Like agar muje or mere husband ko 10 am office Jana hai and we want room cleaning before going to job so muje koi aisa chahiye jo 8 - 9:30 mai aa kar kaam kar de but local maids normally 9:00 ke baad humare society mai aati hai.

So apne choice ke time slot ke liye local maid search karne mai bahot problem hoti hai.

Abhi ek marwadi Bhaiya mila hai , he is ready to do cleaning in between 8 am - 9 am so it’s helpful otherwise I would have contacted agency for someone who can come on that time.

There one of my aunty ( mausi) woh job karti hai unke ghar mein bhi around 6 member hai lekin unhone maid nahin rakhi

Why because pehle woh log nashta nahin karte woh log bus roti aur daal bante hai subah and daal mein tadka bhi nahin lagta

Bina tadke wali daal khaate hai to jahaan poore din mein daal roti ke kaam chalata jaa raho aur bus raat mein roti sabji to aise main bina maid ke chal jaata hai

But jahaan roj subah gobhi ke parathey aaloo ke parathey ban rahe ho to kahan se bina maid chalega with 7 family member

Wahaan foreign mein toh log subah cornflakes daliya butter toast sprouts ya fruit khaa ke khaa ke bhi kaam chala lete hain isliye wahaan pur maid ke bina kaam chal jaata hai . Yahan pur agar roj roj daliya ya cornflakes do koi nahin khayega subah mooh banaye

But yahan india ko subah mote mote gobhi ke aaloo ke parathey chahiye

Originally posted by: surabhi01

But jahaan roj subah gobhi ke parathey aaloo ke parathey ban rahe ho to kahan se bina maid chalega with 7 family member

Wahaan foreign mein toh log subah cornflakes daliya butter toast sprouts ya fruit khaa ke khaa ke bhi kaam chala lete hain isliye wahaan pur maid ke bina kaam chal jaata hai . Yahan pur agar roj roj daliya ya cornflakes do koi nahin khayega subah mooh banaye

But yahan india ko subah mote mote gobhi ke aaloo ke parathey chahiye

Hehehehe you are so on point. In logo ka nashta bhi gobi ke parathe, aaloo tikki, aaloo ke parathe jaise hai. lol gobi ke paratha nashte mai, fir roti sabji dal chawal lunch mai, that means subah subah kitna heavy khana khate bhi hai and banate bhi hai ...i can't believe!😆 Itna capacity and willingness sabke pass nahi hota ki 10 logo ka gobi ka paratha banao and then full meal roti sabji bhi banao. Main to mostly poha, upma , chille se breakfast mai kam chala leti hu and fir direct full mean banana hota hai.

Foreign mai to aaloo ke parathe and gobi ke parathe and aaloo tikki nashne mai to kya lunch dineer mai bhi nahi hota because of working life😆as you said toast, sprouts, daliya ,cornflakes se he kam chalana padta hai breakfast mai.

Inn logo ki food habits and life style ke wajah se they need cook and husband/men toh inke ghar ke raja maharaja jaise hai. sab ke sab nashte mai parathe and aaloo tikkis khate hai but ek chai bhi khud se nahi bana sakte or na he grocery la sakte hai 🤢

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

I read other post and I have specific points regarding Indian household so in place of hijacking other thread, I thought to make separate post.

Why indian needs maid and non Indian doesn’t?Below are the points which push every working women who stay in joint family to bring maid in the house though not 24/7 like kavya did because everyone doesn’t like to have maid in the house at night time.

Difference 1:

In the Canada and USA, in most of the house men and women BOTH does domestic job . In india sadly mostly boy moms ar like anupama and Leela who never push their son for domestic works.

Difference 2:

In Canada , Europe , USA , men’s does bring grocery to house when coming house after job since BOTH the people are working. Here minority house has system . Even though both are working, in majority houses grocery shopping, dusting and cooking all the things done by only women because boy mom’s never push their sons like anupama and Leela never did.

Difference 3 :

About finance/cost : if I compare charges, it’s like 50 times more cheap here. Getting maids, carpenters, plumbers on cheap price is huge benefit in India. Cost is like upper middle class people can afford. You have not to be supremely rich to have maid in India.

Difference 4 :

My best friend lives in Bay Area California, I am seeing their life culture where they don’t make 4 type of aachar like typical Indian houses, they bring ready aata packs to home unlike India’s typical houses where in the summers we brought wheat from the markets, clean it on our on etc . Canadian/Americans are not making 4/5 types of aachar, neither does brings wheat at home to clean/grind and they don’t cook 5-6 items in lunch and dinner. In typical joint families, lady asks everyone about their choices of cooking so there is no general cooking system in the house unlike Canada /America where people practically cooks only 2-3 items in kuch and dinner.

Difference 5 :

Practicalities: Term is very short but difference is huge. In Indian households nobody treats working women with practical thought like if she is working let’s bring ready aata pack in the house or pickle bottles in the house or in place of making food of every single members choice, let’s try to make general 2-3 items in the morning -evening. This same things can be possible in nuclear families but definitely not in joint families.

Different 6 :

In America/Canada 2-3 generations doesn’t live under the same roof. Everyone have their separate house and they meet and greet each other either on weekends or on occasions that’s it. In india and in traditional families, 2-3 generations lives together and all wants to maintain their choices in the house without thinking practically which is huge hurdle and make domestic jobs more complex.

I would like to add to the list

In west people generally use dishwashers vaccum Cleaners etc

I saw a show on Netflix where they used to tell ways for working mothers to reduce their cooking time by making stocks of pasta etc and storing in fridge

They do hassle free cooking so utensils are also less cleaning is done not daily and children are responsible for there own mess