I've started this topic is response to another post which is 'Stupid episodes' (https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/amita-ka-amit/3564096/stupid-episodes). In that, the TM /other supporters point out that 'Why it is always the girl's responsibility to save the marriage', 'Why Amit is not doing anything to save the marriage', 'I hate Amit blah blah'. But I would like to point out that it is far from the truth. We all are not born as a feminist but after seeing so much discrimination around us we automatically and quickly go into that mode. So the moment we see some girl shedding few tears, our heart melts, we start feeling for her and ignore the actual truth. This is the case with Amita too. Just because she sheds few tears and keeps saying 'Mein apani shadi ko bachane keliye kuch bhi karungi' doesn't mean she is working hard on their relationship. So wake guys up and open your eyes. I feel Amit is doing and has already done more than required for this marriage. And let me tell you the reason behind it. âď¸
Wedding: Yes, agreed it was Amit's big ego which dragged them into this mess. Both came to know about the facts and both had the option to back out. But Amita came and pleaded him citing her problems.đ She scarified her happiness but she had a motive and her selfishness behind it. The motive being her reputation, her family's prestige/happiness and her brother's wedding. Do you anywhere see Amit is that list, NO. Even for one moment did she think about his life, his happiness? And what right she had to expect that he does that sacrifice for her sake?? If it had been any other guy he would have backed out without any remorse. But Amit being a good person and a perfect gentleman felt the sense of responsibility for this mess and decides to marry her. Actually he is the one who has sacrificed his life and his happiness for sake of Amita and Amita's / his family. Even on the wedding night rather than thanking him, she scolds him saying 'Ek dulhan ko kaisa lagta hain '.blah blah'. Come on Ammu, at least acknowledge his sincere effort and what he has done for you!
Relationship: Amit guards his relationship and it related secrets like a true knight. đ Even when Phalguni forces him to confess, he doesn't utter a word. But what about Amita, the moment something happens she is on conference with her friends. Shadi ke pehle thak yeh sab tik tha! But if Amit doesn't want that his life to be an open book for all, why doesn't she respect his view? đ Also Amita goes out of her way to hide his faults or mistakes and thus gaining the praises of her in-laws. But if Amit's ego is getting hurt in this process, why does she have to do that?
Misunderstandings and fights: Yes agreed, during their fights Amit was very rude but Amita was not very sweet either. đ Amit felt that he was insulted twice once in front of her father and in front of her/his friends. In the first scenario, Amita was not at fault but did she take the initiative to clear this MU with Amit? Did she tell who was behind it? What is the point hiding that fact if the relationship itself is in danger?đ˛ The second time, yes she was guilty as she acted like a typical cry baby. She acted wildly/rudely and screamed at him in front of other and thus hurting him more. đ And yes, she reminded him of his past. But what is the point, after marriage I don't even remember a single instance where he let his ego creep into their relationship.đ˛ Even in Suraj's MU scenario, till date she has not clarified anything to Amit. Yes, they are in their early stages of their marriage and their bond has not reached a stage where she can say 'I like/ love you' but at least she can stop herself from saying negative statements like 'Mein apke liye sahi jeevan sathi nahi hun aur na aao mere liye!' and 'Muje tho yeh nahi samaj mein aa raha ki aapne shadi ka faisla kyu badla?'. After hearing such negative statement and getting negative vibes which guy would be happy to spend the rest of the life with her? đ¤˘
Taking care: Yes, Amita had taken care of him when he had toothache and made Kichu for him.đđź But Amit was not far behind in this either. Even though he kept on saying that he is doing it for the sake of humanity, we could easily see that this guy was genuinely concerned. He actually took extra care of her. He even set reminder to check whether she had medicines or not. He also bought some fruits for her and kept fasting on the day of pooja. Don't tell me, people do all this in the name of humanity. This guy has fallen for our Ammu but he is yet to realize this.đ I feel Amit is doing and has already done more than required for this marriage. Come on Ammu baby, grow up and think maturely. He is doing what he could but what about you?
Well after reading this you can easily see that Amit has equally got affected by all this. He has done more than what a normal husband would do. He is a simple ,good man and wants to spend a peaceful life. Even after doing so much for the relationship all he is getting to hear is rejection and negative statement. He does feel suffocated in this relation and feel dejected. No wonder, he has taken this extreme decision of going to US. I somehow feel there is nothing wrong in it.
(Though personally I still want them to patch up and spend a blissful married life. And of course I do respect your views and your right to hold on to it. I may be wrong in my analysis too but this was just a sincere effort to throw some light on what has actually happened. Just because I wrote this post doesn't mean that I've started hating Amita. I do like both of them- equally. It's just that at some point of time you need to take a stand and this was one of them. Seems like as the episode getting intense and intense my post is longer and longer đ. Dearies thanks for reading this post and bearing with me.)
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Veer Hanuman
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