Trapped please help!

I hate my life i feel like im in prison I am not allowed to do anything. My parents wont let me put whenever I see a guy and say hi my mum gets angry.I hate life.

Like last week i went to the fun fair wit 2 of my mates n my parenst n sisters. I saw this guy frm skool n we started talkin.My mum called me n took me home.She was angry I felt so embarrased n my mates came home with me.i felt i ruined it for them and I felt so guilty.The worse thing was one of my mates werent allowed to talk to guys n was terrified my mum mite tell her parents when they came to pick them up.I felt like crying I felt so guilty.

Its thing like this that makes me wanna do more stuff behind there bak.I am terrified each time I lie I mite get busted and i dont want them to feel disappointed or like complete failures.I try not to but feel like theres no choice.I told them how i feel but they keep sayin that they would thank me in dthe furture.

Help me please.

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oooo so you have talked to them about it and they say that dont worry, you will thank them in the future?

Ok, first thing is, don't do stuff behind their back...i mean you will do it to get back at them, but at the end of the day, you will be hurting yourself in the process. It's like saying, "i will fail my subjects, just to piss them off"...at the end of the day, ur hurting urself.

btw, how old are you?

next time ur mum gets angry about u talking to a guy, just ask her point blank, "mum don't you trust me? you know i would never do anything to betray ur trust". asking her directly and on the spot, may get ur mum to think about it and instead of saying "it's good for u" she may actually re-think.

or u cud say, "i feel that you don't trust me" instead of "mum dont you trust me?"

and r u the eldest child? so many times, parents get scared...coz of girl and coz eldest.

but yeh, next time this happens, just talk about her trusting you and that u will NEVER betray their trust and go behind their backs.

but also, if ur young, then don't worry about it, she'll loosen up as you get older, when she gets more used to the idea that guys also go to ur school. maybe when u talk to mum how ur day at school went, just mention a thing or two about sumfin funny a guy did. (no, at the start do not say that u were talkin to him. just what ur class clown said to the teacher in class that day lol)
and den slowly she'll start gettin used to guys names being chucked into convo and then realise that u go to a co-ed. (u do i hope?)

but yes, dont worry about it, things get better with time, u may not realise it yet, but they will.

my parents do the same darn thing...its so pathetic of them...but i say the same as what bewafa wrote...

Im 15 n the elderst buh

i did ask dont you trust me buh they keep sayin that other people might get the wrong idea and start gossiping.

same thing...but my parents dont interuppt or take me home..maybe talk to me later{yell actually} like "who was that?" or "why were you talking to him" and stuff like that....but what you shud do is look straight at your mom...and say "i've never broken your trust{i hope you never have lol} and i never will...i dont want to do anything behind your back so you have to trust me" etc.

I would let the guy friend talk to your mom... Might make your parents see how nice the guy is... But let your mom know, "I have guy friends too".....But i think talking helps, even when some parents dont want too..

Originally posted by: AsliiGuy

I would let the guy friend talk to your mom... Might make your parents see how nice the guy is... But let your mom know, "I have guy friends too".....But i think talking helps, even when some parents dont want too..

awww don't hate your life sweetie, I was in this position once and my mom also used to tell me the samething as your mom tells you. Just as bewafa said, don't do things behind their backs and don't lie as it's going to hurt you not them. I pretty much agree with bewafa.

Originally posted by: Babi_angel

Im 15 n the elderst buh

i did ask dont you trust me buh they keep sayin that other people might get the wrong idea and start gossiping.

:(

fanxs 4 da advice.