Dear Agony Aunt: I feel soo insecure.

Dear Agony Aunt,

I feel so insecure in my relationship, i love my boyfriend so much but he doesn't love me, i know that. At the start of our relationship he lied to me on me and i only found out 3 months ago, he has assured me that he would never do it again, but i don't know, i love him so much that i can't imagine my life without him, but recently hes been text by his ex girlfriend, who has made him think about the age gap between us, i'm 21 and hes 31, i don't think about the age gap cause it honestly doesn't bother me, it should but it doesn't. it bothers him now.

So today i split up with him because i was too scared of being hurt all over again. I am fed up, and dunno wheter i should trust him or not as he has lied to me before. I don't know what to do, i love him and i want to spend the rest of my life with him but i think i've blown it!

Love Priyankaa.

(advice letter - Courtesy of myagonyaunt webby - changed slightly)

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Dear Priyanka,

Understanding your situation might be alittle tough.

Everyone needs to be loved! but u just might be looking for love at the wrong corner. Relationships are made with love from both sides and trust. without these everything else is a lie.

Since u dump him I would suggest to wait a few months for him(2 months) to come back if he doesn't just look at it as it was never ment to be.

Good Luck!👍🏼

i'm not taking sides here, not your side, his or his ex. the thing is.. are you ready for a relationship? because of the 10 year gap. it is a bit complicated lol. he's fully an adult! he's experienced and almost jaded. you, you're young and still experiencing. nobody wants to get hurt. for now i would say.. "even lovers needs space" so give it a time.

Thanks Guys,

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-Saira.

well well well you write at the beginning of the relationship he lied to you so ur relation started with a lie.you are just 21 and believe me there is a guy out there made for only you who is going to love you unonditionally.you took a bold step of breaking up...now wait and watch...if he begs to come back you better lay out some rules and facts...if he doesn't he was never meant to be with you....look ahead there is a very handsome,good hearted guy somewhere there....and not 31 but in his 20's hopefully.

Agony Aunty.......Dont marry the person you love......marry the person who loves you......

just chill

vinu

Originally posted by: Believe

Agony Aunty.......Dont marry the person you love......marry the person who loves you......

just chill

vinu

for some reason this cracked me up ^^ it seems like a fake laugh lol >.< but i'm really laughing ;)

hey priyanka...

Your situation is one which makes you vulnerable. Though ur relation started with a lie it is love that brought you and him together for some time. You felt you had to ditch him because of his irresponsible nature and you had made a good decision.

Right now, if he bothers to think about his attitude and admits he did wrong, and comes back, you would be more than elated. However if he doesn't, let your pain of love heal naturally. Remember whatever that happens, it does for a good cause.

Somewhere in your destiny, there could be someone who is more mature and responsible who's just waiting for you.. And thatz when the entire universe will help you in finding him.

I wish you all the best!!! 😉

Dear Lovelorn,
As hard as you might feel right now, for more reason than one, you have done the right thing. To begin with, no relationship can sustain once it begins with a lie. It always comes back to bite. Now that you have found out the lie, you will have difficulty trusting him fully all over again and hence you will not be giving 100% of your self and trust to the relationship, which never works out.
Secondly, the guy seems to lack self confidence and a mind of his own. If it takes his ex to make him think about your age difference, well girl, there is something terribly wrong right there. Find out if you can why they broke up, also find out if you can, how much they are in contact and if they have actually completely gotten over each other..if not, you might be in for a shock, that it's his rebound relationship with you.
Lastly, break ups are always hard...I would say, stick your ground, and see if it affects him as much as it does to you. See if he wants to get back fresh, and on the right grounds. If he does not, let it go and try to devote time for yourself. Always remember this "What goes around, comes right back around!"
Good Luck
Agony Aunt.