problem of thinking so much

inderjit cute thumbnail
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Posted: 16 years ago
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i knw frm topic u guys think hw stupid problem
but this problem is little big for me
my prob. is tht i m tell everything to all n sometime my personal lyf also . after 5 min i reconize i did mistake by tellin my things to others n i m get scared tht person tell tht thing to everyone .😕😕😕
this things scare me frm inside
any one suggest me to come out frm it

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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: inderjit cute

i knw frm topic u guys think hw stupid problem

but this problem is little big for me
my prob. is tht i m tell everything to all n sometime my personal lyf also . after 5 min i reconize i did mistake by tellin my things to others n i m get scared tht person tell tht thing to everyone .😕😕😕
this things scare me frm inside
any one suggest me to come out frm it

you do what i do, sometimes i dont think at all. I speak first,
The best thing to do is speak little and listen more..Try not to talk about yourself, and if youhave to, speak very little.
if someone asks hows your day, dont go into every detail...Just avoid the details...Also avoid personal info and try not to talk about your history.
At work i try not to blend personal and work life etc...I jsut breeze on the high broad points when im giving a story...
hope i helped,
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Posted: 16 years ago
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hey, so this seems like a tough problem since it seems like you maybe a very open person. but i would suggest if you have the erg to tell everything to someone try to change the topic to something completely different and hopefully it'll get easier where than you won't tell people everthing.


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Posted: 16 years ago
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Hmm... that's an different problem. Since I am an introvert person, anything I don't want to talk about rarely ever leaves my mouth, but it can be a genuine problem as in your case when you're afraid of sharing personal stuff with people that may not be trusted.

Whenever you think a topic is coming up that might get too personal either let the person know up front that you are not comfortable sharing all the information or diplomatically just change the topic.

Secondly, think and think before you say anything out loud. If things are getting too personal especially keep an eye or rather an ear out for what you might say that you don't want to know.

The simplest thing is to make it your habit that you think before you speak. Don't get carried away by the conversation or discussion. Think about what you're going to say and who you are talking to.

I hope you don't land in to any serious problem and all the best!

-Mahi

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Posted: 16 years ago
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^great suggestions

In your case, i have one of my own. Many times people who blurt out everything, even things that are very personal that they regret telling people later on, do this because they don't have some one that they could tell that you know you can trust.

I suggest that whenever you feel like there is something you really want to tell someone, but you don't know if you can trust it with others, try this:

write it in a diary or private journal. that way you got out what you wanted to say, and you no longer feel the need to tell someone about it.

or, if you really just want someone to know, other than yourself of course, try this:

~lets say, you have to do creative writing or something in class, then write a story and include whatever you wanted to say in that, but make it seem like it is some one else's story. that way, whoever reads it gets your message without you having to worry about someone blurting it out because it wouldn't embarrass you because no one know's its you.

hope i helped😃
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Posted: 16 years ago
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I think maybe you could keep a journal or something where you can let out personal things or frustrations. That way you might not have an urgent need to tell someone and it won't pop out accidentally. I know it's easier said than done to "think before speaking." Almost all of us have our occasional slip ups. It might also help if you find that one person you can share most of your feelings with, like your mom, a best friend, a significant other. That way you will have told someone and you won't have the urge to tell others about any personal information.
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Posted: 16 years ago
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thanks u guys to give me this wonderful suggestion
i will try to do all these thingsss
thanku very much
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Posted: 16 years ago
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what a fun problem. I think I have suffered from it most of life. If you need to get something out, get it out online or talk to people you know with a gurantee who won't talk about it.

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Have a little more faith in the people around you. Sometimes we do think the worst of people. And if you feel your secrets are not safe with the person why bother telling them anything? talk to them about a tv show or etc. Ask them about their side of the story😳
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Posted: 16 years ago
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I think just speak from your heart and have good intentions in everything you do and you'll worry and think less.
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Posted: 16 years ago
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1st inderjit...u are suffering from the same problem as i m ...I m like very very very open nd have often fallen in problem..I turst people too easily...nd a big thanks for posting dis thread..nd all for helping...u guyz helped me as well...I will try doing all dis....nd hope fall no more in trouble...

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