I can understand this to some extent as similar thing happened to me. I was the oldest kid in my maternal side and was pampered very much. But slowly slowly with my cousins' birth it started dividing.Originally posted by: vardhinirosid
I was like kuhu when i was kid so after mishbir i liked kuhu charcter as she is insecured jealous kiddo so i thought how i changed n seeing life in different perspective they will show kuhu like that
But nah they made her dark charcter
I faced similar situation like kuhu
I was younger in my family till my sis born( maasi daughter) there is difference of 5 yrs between us
Till then i was pampered a lot by my grand ma n pa..i was their princess but later my sis born she took my place
I felt so upset , jealous , when every one were excited to play with baby i never showed interest
Later for my family i used to be good with her
I think when i was 15 means 9 yrs back all of my relatives met at one function
All asked children to dance
Im not so good dance but yeah i can manage it
And my sis also not so good dancer at that time but she has that grace
Even i danced well but no one complimented me but all praised her lot
I really felt bad
I went away from that place and went to some room n started crying
Then its my life changing moment came
My bro came to me
Convo btwn me n my bro is like
Bro: why are you crying
Me: dont you see what happened outside, no body complimented me all praised your younger sis
Bro: she is your sis too
Me: no i dont like her
Bro: why?
Me: becz after she born no body cared me
He laughed
Me: why r u laughing
Bro: so in that case i should dislike u
Me: y
Bro: after you born mom n dad attention shifted towards you,
Me: that is different u should not hate me U have to love me
Bro: yeah i will always, becz you r my little sister, n i didnt feel jealous for u any time becz when u were born then itself mom n dad told me that i should take care of you as ur younger. n younger ones needs attention
In same way after our sis born we should love her care her, we should not hate her
By the way tell me one thing did our mom dad ever treat you ill,r shifted their attention to sis after she born
Me: no they only love me
Bro: yeah when our family i e mom dad n me loves you so much why you are thinking about others , so many r not getting parents love n you r lucky as u got parents who treats u like angel
n stop being jealous with our sis, she is kid she needs our care n love
Give love n get love
My bro is 3 yrs elder to me but that day he changed my thought process he might have told those just to make me comfort for that minute but he dont know those words have long lasting impact on me
This is not story its my life changing situation
I started giving Love to my sis guess what now my sis became my best friend♥️ now we r so close to each other
Yeah still some times i feel jealous if i get to know any of my frnds r cousins in better position than me
its human tendency, but that is just for few secs later i remember my brother words n i just brush it off those unnecessary thoughts n get into my work
What i want to say is jealous insecurity fear these all r common human traits but if we cant work on it, if we cant have control on our feelings then there will be no progress in our life, every one will move forward in their life but still we stay there itself with jealous n anger as our companions n those companions r worst as they will let you do worst things ( like kuhu pushing human pyramid to harm misthi ) which we cant defend ourselves ( if i pushed my sister with anger at that second , if my mumma ask abt that can i defend my self saying i did out of jealous ? A big No )
In my case i cant do anything which i cant defend myself
I hope i didnt bored u guys with my life story😄