Originally posted by: Samanalyse
Hey Nikkie,
@bold: That's what I was trying to say as well, but I think it might have gotten lost in the flow of the discussion so I'll try to clarify.
I didn't mean to imply that Mishti was wrong in any of these situations -- I completely agree with the explanations you've given above -- but rather to say that from Kuhu's perspective, without the knowledge that the audience has about Mishti's intentions, these actions are very confusing and contradictory. And rather than communicate with one another, the sisters each see the other as the enemy to their success and happiness in the house, which is exactly what Meenu wants.
Basically, Meenu is using her knowledge of how Mishti and Kuhu will naturally react to situations to plant seeds that bring out the worst in their relationship. Both with the haar and the sleeping pills, Meenu said some pretty horrific things to Kuhu that induced her anger, but Mishti isn't aware of that and when Kuhu tried to share some of her knowledge (during Mishti's not-a-lecture), Mishti dismissed it as Kuhu's bad behaviour, talking ill of her MIL. Kuhu knows that she crossed a line and she is guilty, but also scared of the implications of backing down and admitting she was wrong because that means Mishti wins. That's why she called Jasmeet for reassurance -- she just wanted someone who would tell her she was right to help her mash that guilt down.
So my point is that both sisters, where they can't understand the motivation for the other's actions are filling the blanks by assuming the worst. Kuhu can't understand why Mishti's words and actions contradict each other so she assumes that Mishti is trying to make a fool of her while she silently takes over the entire household and reduces Kuhu and Kunal to servant status, and Mishti can't understand why Kuhu keeps indulging in these petty, destructive acts, so she assumes that Kuhu hates her and will stop at nothing to destroy her life, even at the cost of her own family and relationship. Meenu is happily catalysing these dangerous assumptions for her own ends.
In truth, these girls have always been on the brink of a great relationship, but first the bade Maheshwaris and now Meenu are holding them back. I still say their relationship is much healthier than the brothers because the problems between them are solely caused by unfavourable external circumstances. Put them in the right environment, where they each have enough breathing room, and where their insecurities aren't being provoked constnantly, and they will be just fine. The brothers are different because the very foundation of their relationship is inequality and compromise and it only works because of their external circumstances and the particular scaffolding of the Rajvansh family.
Sam, loved what you said about Meenu understanding KuShti the best. You really hit the nail right on the head. It's so funny that Meenakshi is the only one who has understood their relationship, like neither the mighty Maheshwaris nor AbiNal have. She uses this knowledge to her advantage and pushes all the right buttons.
Imagine that. Meenu GETS KuShti.
i completely agree about Mishti calling Kuhu out for criticising Meenu. Just because she is the MIL doesn't mean she is automatically deserving of respect after pulling all the stunts she has. I don't agree with this philosophy of 'elders are to be respected no matter what'
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