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Last week, everyone discussed the infamous slap and the reasons behind it but no one talked about the heart-wrenching scene where Kuhu cries out for her mother to stop and listen to her. During the build up towards the final divorce day, Kuhu had mentioned her mother not being able to handle the truth multiple times. The most prominent one being after the NishMish roka: "Meri mumma daadi jitni strong nahi hai").
That "Mumma!..Maa!" scene was discussed in the KuKu AT because of the following Instagram post.
https://www.instagram.com/p/B8l_QmGheWk/?igshid=w6vjb0tk9j0w
Originally posted by: PureDrivenSnow
The post below prompted me to think the reason why Kuhu doesn't share her inner feelings completely with her mother including this marriage secret is because somewhere she is protective of her bond with Varsha (and family, I guess). She knows how difficult it must have been for Varsha to accept her (I didn't watch those yrkkh episodes when she found out but I'm told it was difficult for Varsha). Hence #keepitseperate.
And then @samanalyse came with her theory and analysis of their relationship (which I shared with Kaveri in an Instagram message). The theory is as follows:
Originally posted by: Samanalyse
I fell in love with Kuhu and Varsha's relationship very early in the show and it prompted me to go back and watch as many bits and pieces of YRKKH as I could find with the two of them, as well as the early days of the show, to try and get an idea of Varsha's story. The more I watched, the more I loved sweet, sorted Varsha and all her relationships -- I think her abiding friendship with Akshara has to be my favourite though! I love that they always gave their friendship priority over the bhabhi-nanad relationship.
I wrote this analysis in a PM to a friend around September, and that heartbreaking "mumma--ma" scene reminded me of it so I thought I'd share it here as well.
I really believe the key to Kuhu's character is Varsha. She loves and admires the heck out of her mom, and emulates her behaviour as much as she can. Varsha not only forgave her husband's infidelity with time, but even accepted Kuhu as her own child. That takes someone with a really big heart. On top of that she fought for Kuhu all her life. In my eyes, Varsha is the sole reason Kuhu is the confident, self-assured girl she is today, and for that reason Kuhu totally idolises her mother. So part of her resentment also comes from seeing how her mom, who is actually much more down to earch and sensible, is constantly treated as subordinate to her grandparents.
And this is where Mishti comes in, because of this really unusual situation, where the grandparents and parents have children of the same age. Mishti, in being the daughter of BM and BP automatically gets a higher position in the family hierarchy with less accountability -- as we see, she only has to answer to BM and BP. Kuhu, is answerable to her parents who are in turn answerable to theirs. I think most of Kuhu's resentment towards Mishti comes from these underlying inequalities -- their clashing personalities added fuel to the fire. Is it Mishti's fault directly? Not always. But does she rile up Kuhu's anger against this underlying inequality and bring out the worst in her with her patronising attitude? Definitely.
Now, if we observe the details closely, we can see that Varsha mostly raised Kuhu to tolerate the inequality in her family for as long as she had to and then get out of it as soon as possible (through marriage). Other than her occasional outbursts, Kuhu did just that in pretending to have this sisterly bond with Mishti. Varsha, for the most part, is extremely pragmatic. She sees that there isn't much scope to challenge BM and BP's authority or their hypocrisy without tearing the whole family apart, so she grits her teeth and pretends to be okay with it, all while equipping Kuhu to really shine once she is free of this household. This is why Varsha and Kuhu were so eager for her marriage right from the beginning of the show -- they lived their lives, trying not to raise their voices, not rebelling, pretending everything was great, with the single goal to get Kuhu out of this toxic environment as soon as possible (it's a totally different set of questions as to why marriage was the only way to do this, but I am thinking here within in the universe of the show, where that seems to be a given).
This is why Kuhu can't just walk out on this marriage so easily. She knows this wedding is the culmination of Varsha's lifetime of work, tolerating inequality and fighting for her, and this relationship with the RVs breaking would essentially render all of that work obsolete. That is also why both of them, in full acknowledgment that it was wrong to separate lovers, tried to keep Mishti and Abir apart -- that is just how important this marriage is to both of them: it's supposed to be Kuhu's escape and Varsha's peace of mind. And the thing is, Kuhu was ready for an arranged marriage, meaning she was ready to do the work of getting to know both her husband and his family over time -- so other than Kunal's antagonism (which is not even constant, with all the promising moments), what she is experiencing is exactly what she was prepared for, and so she is shining.
I think this is where the extreme reaction of the slap came from. The one thing Kuhu was most terrified about was hurting her mom or giving her any sense of failure -- she said so to Kunal multiple times. Kuhu would have done just about anything to protect Varsha and just when she thought she would succeed, she had to watch her mom's heart break for absolutely no reason.
Every time Kuhu tries to sort things out slowly and carefully, Mishti comes tearing through with an impulsive move that ends up in the very destruction Kuhu was trying to avoid. It's not hard to see why she finally lost her patience, especially when that destruction involved the person she loves and admires most in the world this time around.
Kaveri being the cutie she is responded back after reading it.
Kumkum Bhagya
