Are only women allowed to show their emotion? - Page 8

Originally posted by: MishBirStruck

🤣🤣🤣ha na Yaar, they love to do shaadi all the time ,kuch nahi hua to Chalo break up Karte hai, Kyuki 6 mahine Baad waapas shaadi karni hai

Ummmmm🤔🤔🤔🤔 for mishbir I am betting for atleast 5, minimum, Max to jab tak show chalega Tab tak hoti rahegi, unke bacche bhi unki shaadi karayenge

They are going to keep marrying till one of them doesn't die... And I mean actual wala die, not "memory loss, face exchange"... Woh sab ke baad bhi hogi shaadi😆

Originally posted by: ingenuity

They are going to keep marrying till one of them doesn't die... And I mean actual wala die, not "memory loss, face exchange"... Woh sab ke baad bhi hogi shaadi😆

🤣🤣🤣🤣can't agree more

i think it is more of the soft corner towards Shaheer that is making most of fans safeguard the character flaws in Abir Rajvansh ... no offense anyone !!!

I would like to fully credit the writers and creatives and give them a BIG HANDS DOWN for what is being dished out especially w.r.t Abir n Mishti post break up ...utterly lazy writing !!

Abir was really well crafted until before leap or even before break up scene is my personal thought ....

Let us take a middle stand and analyse what Abir has done post break up :

he learnt the truth from Big Ben he broke the rishta with mishti

he intentionally hurt mishti and asked her to stay away

he wore shades and started hiding his feelings

but then the minute mishti returned he has been lousy as a character ...he jumped into pool to save her he went on top of the bus he went to their offsite meeting started dancing boozed up showed some intense hugs n eye locks n wanted to kiss her then backed off...went again runnign into forest helped her saved her then in hospital he totally had a meltdown and almost wanted to start it again with mishti but now his bhai has all priority for he is adopted !

Having said the sloppy writing continues with Mishti as well .... she almost accepted Abir broke up with her then went to London came back running in 2 months with nannu her bhai or friend whatever it is .....thought she can show up as a jodi in front of RV bros so that she can gain Abir back ....stupidity period

in the process of making Abir jealous she ended up giving random hugs n thoughts to nannu that he started sensing something for her as well ....finally after almost forcing Abir to accept her back by running into the forest fires now not able to digest what has happened to nannu she ends up spilling d beans to kunal and abir is going to let her go again ....but looking at her IV mishti is going to fight back for her love.... seriously

haddh hain yaar ...if any girl or guy is taking any sort of tips for their relationship they better stay away from this show ....

no guy has any right to push/pull manhandle the girl be it his girlfriend or wife whatever be his frustration or the situation NO is NO

and no girl should keep running behind the guy even after getting humiliated more than a couple of times by the man ....period

True love comes with true respect about one another's feelings priorities families secrets and even short comings ...if all these are not there it is no more love and not worth your life full stop!!!

sorry for big rant ....

Originally posted by: ingenuity

Going to drop in my two cents here. Abir and Mishti are both making mistkes because they are not in the correct head space. The situation they currently are in, is a result of their own doings, none to be blamed more than the other. Mishti chose to not tell Abir she was investigating Baba because she thought Abir was not too strong to handle it and it might affect their relationship. Abir didn't try to work around Meenakshi's blackmail because he couldn't think of a way to. He was put in a spot, he had little to no time. He has known Kunal for all his life and Kunal took great pride in being Meenu's son. So yes, the truth is going to shake him. So Abir decided he had to protect his brother. At the cost of his relationship with Mishti. They were both wrong and they are both suffering.

Currently, I don't know about Abir not deserving Mishti but I do know Mishti should stop pining for Abir. Bringing in a third character was cute for the first two seconds but out of character. Abir's jealousy has always been in a cutesy shade, Mishti decided to 'weaponize' it. Which was... Wrong? She constantly tried doing it when not necessary and that was a mistake. Mishti needs to stop fighting for them when Abir doesn't want her to. We know that he does, he isn't telling her. She is assuming and being happy and then she again needs to 'test' it. Stupid moves. But, he is taking his time, when he tells her she should move away, she should. It is not only for Abir's sake. Meenakshi gets yet another chance to taunt Bade Papa which is terrible. Mishtu should think of the family who is so concerned for her. They are so tensed for her well-being, hoping she moves on. BP wanted her to be a strong lady who is capable in and of herself. That is what Abir admired about her, not she isn't behvaing that way. She loves him. I know. We all know but I hate to see what they do to her character when they let her be crazy behind him.

Also, Mishti asking "Did Abir ask you to do it?" was a pretty natural reaction. The guy who has been super supportive of her belief that Abir still loves her, who has been living in the guilt of hurting his family, striving for a better life for the last ten years was given alcohol, literally poision for him. It pu ten years of his life to trash, also put his life in danger. Mishti didn't know Meenakshi knew she was back. Mishti only knee that she has tried to make Abir jealous. Mishti only knew that if Abir (being the person that he is) wanted to make a move on her he would want to know she was available. She doesn't know Abir thought "She took my name as soon as she woke up." she doesn't know anything about his side of the story except that he broke up with her first publicly, then privately, both being very hurtful. It was a moment of pani, of almost losing a friend, of ruining his life for her love. It was okay that it slipped from her mouth. We all say things that we regret later.

And all of this that is happening just goes on to prove that Abir and Mishti really needed a break from each other. Their story is beautiful but they were ready to get married too soon. There was no 'knowing' each other. There was just knowing what they other was feeling. They didn't share secrets, they didn't share trust. Mishti has always feared being left alone. Abir promised to never do that. When she finally believed him, (we could see that when she reassured him that she'd fight for their love always) he left her. Which is terrible in and of itself. Abir was never loved unconditionally, Mishti did that but Abir's selfless love for Kunal proved to him, again, that he couldn't have unconditional love. These two have a long way to go. They need to work around a lot of extwrnal issues but that can only happen when they take care of the internal issues. They are not irredeemable or ruined as characters. It is not surprising that they are doing things that they are. Him saying that he hates the fact that he loves her, valid. Because he currently does. If Kunal tried to kill himself, Abir is going to be upset about it. Expecting blind trust is expecting him to be God. He will come around, he is still the same man. He'll think it through when he is not surrounded by panic. They need room to grow and I would love to watch that. Expecting a flowery fluff is stupid, we are watching a real relationship (as real as they come on ITV). I want the growth and the development and I know that they'll come out stronger that ever. You don't automatically 'deserve' people by doing a few things. It's a constant process.

So yes, Abir will deserve Mishti as long as he gives her reason to trust himself and Mishti will deserve Abir as long as she loves him unconditionally. That is what their entire relationship is based on and removing any of those messes things up. Sometimes, it's in excess and that messes it up to but as long as they want to be together, as long as they are willing to, it's all good.

“If soulmates do exist, they are not found, they're made. People meet, they get a good feeling, then they get to work building a relationship.”

Maybe the post got just too heavy. I have a lot of thoughts about the leap, sometimes I get angry at Abir, sometimes at Mishti but I guess that's just the process of loving them, I want them happy. That doesn't mean I won't let them make mistakes and grow.

Loved ur post👍🏼

Originally posted by: ingenuity

Going to drop in my two cents here. Abir and Mishti are both making mistkes because they are not in the correct head space. The situation they currently are in, is a result of their own doings, none to be blamed more than the other. Mishti chose to not tell Abir she was investigating Baba because she thought Abir was not too strong to handle it and it might affect their relationship. Abir didn't try to work around Meenakshi's blackmail because he couldn't think of a way to. He was put in a spot, he had little to no time. He has known Kunal for all his life and Kunal took great pride in being Meenu's son. So yes, the truth is going to shake him. So Abir decided he had to protect his brother. At the cost of his relationship with Mishti. They were both wrong and they are both suffering.

Currently, I don't know about Abir not deserving Mishti but I do know Mishti should stop pining for Abir. Bringing in a third character was cute for the first two seconds but out of character. Abir's jealousy has always been in a cutesy shade, Mishti decided to 'weaponize' it. Which was... Wrong? She constantly tried doing it when not necessary and that was a mistake. Mishti needs to stop fighting for them when Abir doesn't want her to. We know that he does, he isn't telling her. She is assuming and being happy and then she again needs to 'test' it. Stupid moves. But, he is taking his time, when he tells her she should move away, she should. It is not only for Abir's sake. Meenakshi gets yet another chance to taunt Bade Papa which is terrible. Mishtu should think of the family who is so concerned for her. They are so tensed for her well-being, hoping she moves on. BP wanted her to be a strong lady who is capable in and of herself. That is what Abir admired about her, not she isn't behvaing that way. She loves him. I know. We all know but I hate to see what they do to her character when they let her be crazy behind him.

Also, Mishti asking "Did Abir ask you to do it?" was a pretty natural reaction. The guy who has been super supportive of her belief that Abir still loves her, who has been living in the guilt of hurting his family, striving for a better life for the last ten years was given alcohol, literally poision for him. It pu ten years of his life to trash, also put his life in danger. Mishti didn't know Meenakshi knew she was back. Mishti only knee that she has tried to make Abir jealous. Mishti only knew that if Abir (being the person that he is) wanted to make a move on her he would want to know she was available. She doesn't know Abir thought "She took my name as soon as she woke up." she doesn't know anything about his side of the story except that he broke up with her first publicly, then privately, both being very hurtful. It was a moment of pani, of almost losing a friend, of ruining his life for her love. It was okay that it slipped from her mouth. We all say things that we regret later.

And all of this that is happening just goes on to prove that Abir and Mishti really needed a break from each other. Their story is beautiful but they were ready to get married too soon. There was no 'knowing' each other. There was just knowing what they other was feeling. They didn't share secrets, they didn't share trust. Mishti has always feared being left alone. Abir promised to never do that. When she finally believed him, (we could see that when she reassured him that she'd fight for their love always) he left her. Which is terrible in and of itself. Abir was never loved unconditionally, Mishti did that but Abir's selfless love for Kunal proved to him, again, that he couldn't have unconditional love. These two have a long way to go. They need to work around a lot of extwrnal issues but that can only happen when they take care of the internal issues. They are not irredeemable or ruined as characters. It is not surprising that they are doing things that they are. Him saying that he hates the fact that he loves her, valid. Because he currently does. If Kunal tried to kill himself, Abir is going to be upset about it. Expecting blind trust is expecting him to be God. He will come around, he is still the same man. He'll think it through when he is not surrounded by panic. They need room to grow and I would love to watch that. Expecting a flowery fluff is stupid, we are watching a real relationship (as real as they come on ITV). I want the growth and the development and I know that they'll come out stronger that ever. You don't automatically 'deserve' people by doing a few things. It's a constant process.

So yes, Abir will deserve Mishti as long as he gives her reason to trust himself and Mishti will deserve Abir as long as she loves him unconditionally. That is what their entire relationship is based on and removing any of those messes things up. Sometimes, it's in excess and that messes it up to but as long as they want to be together, as long as they are willing to, it's all good.

“If soulmates do exist, they are not found, they're made. People meet, they get a good feeling, then they get to work building a relationship.”

Maybe the post got just too heavy. I have a lot of thoughts about the leap, sometimes I get angry at Abir, sometimes at Mishti but I guess that's just the process of loving them, I want them happy. That doesn't mean I won't let them make mistakes and grow.

wow loved reading this dear... 👏👍🏼 so different perspective even with similar thoughts at many point i got clarity on some aspects.. thank you for this post dear... 🤗

Originally posted by: MishBirStruck

Exactly, and the channel and makers still not getting it ki leap ke Baad waala 2.0s kisi ko nahi chahiye tha, sabko purane MishBir hi saath chahiye the, atleast 1 saal to unko bina koi itvgiri kiye saath rehne dete, ek shaadi unki dekh Kar fir show chodti main, but nahi ye faltugiri karna zaruri tha

haha after shaadi vaishu i think thats why they are postponing shaadi for atleast 300 episodes 😆 but forgot they cant compensate with such illogical track viewers will easily loose interest now than after shaadi drama

Originally posted by: ingenuity

The baba track is like, the downfall of the show. Whatever did they do when they were writing that one.

very true krishi its like they left their brain n started writing after baba entry..

Originally posted by: LetThereBeLight

haha after shaadi vaishu i think thats why they are postponing shaadi for atleast 300 episodes 😆 but forgot they cant compensate with such illogical track viewers will easily loose interest now than after shaadi drama

Exactly

Originally posted by: clarity

On the contrary, male leads get away with almost anything on TV from abusing female leads to committing crimes. So, it's not true that only female leads lecture the male leads and the male leads just take it. Indian TV is legendary for female leads silently enduring abuse from male leads and their families.

Coming to Mishti asking Kunal if Abir put him up to it, I don't get why we're expecting that girl to trust Abir after he broke her heart. Yes, we know why Abir did it but she doesn't. To her, he humiliated her on their engagement. Why should she trust Abir after that? He hasn't given her any reason to. She believed Kunal once he said it was not Abir. She only revealed Kunal's truth to him because of his despicable actions. If Mishti lost her composure in a situation where she thinks Nannu could have died, I don't blame her for it.

Sorry for using your post. But this is also my reply to the TM's post. You have explained it really well.

Bold- Bang on.

Originally posted by: LetThereBeLight

very true krishi its like they left their brain n started writing after baba entry..

I know right... They are trying to stuff tooo much of story when they can't handle it. They should recognize their strong points, if they can't handle multiple storylines, don't have them