Bade Papa - The backbone of the Maheshwari family - Page 3

Originally posted by: LoLo

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You have said it perfectly. The four people at the center of this are diametrically opposed. Mishti and Abir are mature individuals who put their families as well as what’s best for all, first. Kuhu and Kunal are selfish and self-centered and that’s why Bade Papa dealt with them differently. That’s also why they are happily in love and Kuhu Kunal are unhappily married.

Exactly !

The dynamics are very different here, bade Papa was very much satisfied with abir's answers hence the early decision

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Very rarely I make posts like these, but today just couldn't stop myself from writing this. Actually wanted to write this on weekends, but was too lazy to write, but thank god today I got one more point to add to my post.

I thought of making a seperate post for this wonderful human being who is actually goals in every sense, husband goals, father goals, human being goals. I remember once Mishti asked him playfully"aapko sab kaise pata chal jaata hai " and bade Papa said "meri teesri aankh hai" that was said in a fun way but it actually signifies the thinking and understanding capacity of this man, he always analysis the situation from all angles, just because he loves mishti or kuhu or rajshri or any other member of the family, that dosent mean he will favour that person, he looks at things with a 3D lense not a 2D one, not at all a biased lense which has a backdrop of some assumptions and presumptions , always asking the right questions , having the patience to hear the answers and taking his own time to make the decisions. There are some scenes which never really were the highlights of the episode, but for me they were better than the actual highlights of the episode.

Going down the memory lane with Bade Papa:

"Lekin ek Ghar Ko maa Laxmi aur maa Saraswati , dono ki zarurat hoti hai"

There was a little jugalbandi between Varsha and badi maa regarding regarding who is better, symbolising kuhu and Mishti in the conversation, but it was bade Papa who interrupted and said we need both in the family thereby meaning we can't sacrifice one for the other. Just like universe needs Laxmi( wealth) and Saraswati ( knowledge) to move forward , in the same way, If we need kuhu, we need Mishti as well and vice versa, the family is incomplete without the two, and so the universe.

"Maa baap Apne bacchho ko pinjra nahi, pankh dete hai"

Another significant symbolism here, this was the time when mishti demanded courtship , but rajshri wasn't agreeing, she feared naman those days and felt RVs will not agree to the courtship condition , bade Papa then asks Mishti if she really wants to give up, even after mish says yes she is ready to give up her courtship condition, bade Papa makes her understand how right she is and shouldn't fear, also advices rajshri to support her daughter, he didn't agree to rajshri's demands just because she was his wife, and was under stress.

"Kabhi kabhi humeim samajh nahi aata konsi baat sahi hai, konsi baat galat hai Lekin jab kabhi aisa Lage, tab na logon ki sunni chahie na duniya ki, sirf apne dil ki sunni chahie, kyunki Dil hamesha sach kehta hai"

This was when mishti broke the gordhana and the same night kuhu in a confused state asks bade Papa, why is everyone against Mishti if she is right?, The above lines were answer to kuhu's question, notice carefully here, he says "sirf apne dil ki" he dosent say apne maa baap ki apne parivaar ki or anything, sirf "apne dil" ki , teaching them that your answer is within you, if your mind has raised a question, search the answer within your heart, it will answer you back, spend some "alone" time with yourself to find it. However good or bad you are, your conscience self always speaks the truth..Because dil ki voice is soul ki voice, soul will always give you the right answer. No wonder mishti and kuhu always follow their heart, kuhu kuch zyada hi literally leti hai, vo baat alag hai !

"Mishti un anath bachho ke liye gayi hai, hamare jhagde un baccho se zyada zaruri toh nahi ho sakte na"

This was when mishti wanted to go to champaner along with Abir but badima refused saying us ladke se ab koi rishta nahi rakhna, bade papa again takes the right stand, work is above everything, more than that we should keep our personal biases aside when it comes to helping the needy, it's nice to have emotions but very necessary to also know when to control your emotions, it's not at all an easy task to forget your differences and do something for people you don't even know. True sign of a good human being here.

"Jahan par log aapse yeh umeed rakhe ki aap hamesha sar jhuka ke rakhenge, vaha se sar uthakar laut Jaana hi behtar hota hai"

Never compromise on your self respect, self respect is definitely above your love, this he said to mishti when people were blaming her for the party date mismatch , no wonder bade papa never wanted kuhu to enter that kabootarkhaana, he can easily sense the kind of people out there, and that's why he was skeptical about kuhu going there, he even asked right questions to kuhu and Kunal both, but sadly had to give in for family's and kuhu's happiness , and no wonder, bade Papa though believed mishti but was still upset with her for the haldi fiasco, not because she was rude with her family but because she, to some extent, compromised on her self respect in the process.....again when there was a chance , he asked the right questions to Abir and mishti as well, this time much more satisfied with the answers. More than love, he wants that people respect his daughters for what they are, and his daughters respect themselves too. He even described Meenu as "vo mausam jo Roz badalte hain, uspe bharosa nahi kiya jaata" ..lol.

"Jab hum ghar ki chokhat ke bahar jaaye, toh hamare mann ek hone chahie"

This is the most significant thing for a family to be together, whatever the differences are, should stay internally within the family and shouldn't go outside, because there are people out there like meenakshi rajvansh who are waiting for that one chance to play the game, during this entire shaadi fiasco, she tried her best to break the maheshwaris firstly by using kuhu ,when she learns from Kunal that kuhu hates Mishti, her planning started in full speed. When she sensed Mishti feels indebted to mahs, she used her against mahs, and she would have been successful too agar neend mein bhi hoshiyar beta jaagta nahi....that's why when representing the family in the outside world, behaving as a strong unit is very important.

We have always seen bade Papa stand for the right, giving befitting answers to Meenu, and treating everyone with love and respect ,whether it's for kuhu or Mishti, he was never in the foreground but always in the background supporting everyone in the family, just like how our backbone supports our body, Maheshwaris without bade Papa would have been a scattered family, a family Jahan koi "asli saval karta nahi , Jahan koi asli jawab deta nahi, Jahan koi asli baat karta nahi" ...just like the RV parivaar.

The biggest takeaways from bade Papa are to concentrate on being a good human being rather than being a good father, mother, daughter etc, always analyse the situation from all perspectives, not just from the perspective of the person you love, and always try asking right questions, because asking only right questions will help you to find right answers and I really appreciate such characters like BP, very rarely you find them on ITV.

Abir calls Mishti badi ma ki parchayi, though Abir has his own set of flaws, but he is so much like bade papa, and definitely has a lot of potential to be bade papa's parchayi !!

So if you have managed to read this, thank you so much for your time, I would definitely like to read your thoughts on this.

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thanks so much uru for this!! bp definitely deserves a seperate post nd appreciations❤️

btw idk the name of the actor but he's definitely playing the role so gracefully nd perfectly..

nd ur last liness..killed it👍🏼🤗

Originally posted by: adni143

i was not saying about kuhu gave any ishara

i said if kuhu gave any ishara bp would have happily backed off with kuku marriage he wasthat unsure about the

i am just saying it partiality that doesnt mean i am saying he is doing partiality between mishti and kuhu

i was just saying that the partiality of agreeing and not agreeing for mishbir and kuku respectively because of he knows mishti and kuhu and believe in mishti but not in kuhu decision

anyway i was really shocked with the suj bhooj he agreed for mishbir just in few hours because i was thinking that he would not agree due to kuhu and kunal

anyway i loved it and bp once again prooved why he is loved the most

i was just shocked he took decision and that too with confidence with total green signal

as in kuku he said that we know how meenu is and he was skeptical for sending kuhu to meenu house not he was skeptical about kunal

but he agreed here despite knowing what meenu and kunal can do with mishti he took it very lightly

Because here the difference was the answers that Abir gave now

Both Mishti and kuhu are going in the same family, going to face the same mother in law , but the major difference is kuhu is there as Kunal's wife whereas mish as abir's wife

This makes a huge difference in taking the decisions and also the speed of taking the decisions

There is a seperate post in the forum about the parellels on how both rishtas were accepted by BP... Do read if time permits, the thread maker has done an amazing job in explaining the situation in both cases, you might get answer to your question in a proper way

Originally posted by: samyuktha0411

Uruuuu🤗 Beautifully written.

All the points highlighted are awesome ones, purple ones are my favorite.

@ bold - loved the way you mentioned Abir as BP's parchaayi.

BP tries to understand and analyses any situation as to what is right and what is wrong. There lies the difference. When your heart says it's not right then it's not right.

Thank you Samy 🤗😃❤️

Wanted to write this since a long time, there are so many scenes and dialogues which are underrated, I don't remember them now,whatever I could remember I wrote. I will try writing part 2

Of course he is bade ki parchayi, no wonder they bond so well and are fond of each other

Bold- absolutely, that is the best thing about him 😎

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Very rarely I make posts like these, but today just couldn't stop myself from writing this. Actually wanted to write this on weekends, but was too lazy to write, but thank god today I got one more point to add to my post.

I thought of making a seperate post for this wonderful human being who is actually goals in every sense, husband goals, father goals, human being goals. I remember once Mishti asked him playfully"aapko sab kaise pata chal jaata hai " and bade Papa said "meri teesri aankh hai" that was said in a fun way but it actually signifies the thinking and understanding capacity of this man, he always analysis the situation from all angles, just because he loves mishti or kuhu or rajshri or any other member of the family, that dosent mean he will favour that person, he looks at things with a 3D lense not a 2D one, not at all a biased lense which has a backdrop of some assumptions and presumptions , always asking the right questions , having the patience to hear the answers and taking his own time to make the decisions. There are some scenes which never really were the highlights of the episode, but for me they were better than the actual highlights of the episode.

Going down the memory lane with Bade Papa:

"Lekin ek Ghar Ko maa Laxmi aur maa Saraswati , dono ki zarurat hoti hai"

There was a little jugalbandi between Varsha and badi maa regarding regarding who is better, symbolising kuhu and Mishti in the conversation, but it was bade Papa who interrupted and said we need both in the family thereby meaning we can't sacrifice one for the other. Just like universe needs Laxmi( wealth) and Saraswati ( knowledge) to move forward , in the same way, If we need kuhu, we need Mishti as well and vice versa, the family is incomplete without the two, and so the universe.

"Maa baap Apne bacchho ko pinjra nahi, pankh dete hai"

Another significant symbolism here, this was the time when mishti demanded courtship , but rajshri wasn't agreeing, she feared naman those days and felt RVs will not agree to the courtship condition , bade Papa then asks Mishti if she really wants to give up, even after mish says yes she is ready to give up her courtship condition, bade Papa makes her understand how right she is and shouldn't fear, also advices rajshri to support her daughter, he didn't agree to rajshri's demands just because she was his wife, and was under stress.

"Kabhi kabhi humeim samajh nahi aata konsi baat sahi hai, konsi baat galat hai Lekin jab kabhi aisa Lage, tab na logon ki sunni chahie na duniya ki, sirf apne dil ki sunni chahie, kyunki Dil hamesha sach kehta hai"

This was when mishti broke the gordhana and the same night kuhu in a confused state asks bade Papa, why is everyone against Mishti if she is right?, The above lines were answer to kuhu's question, notice carefully here, he says "sirf apne dil ki" he dosent say apne maa baap ki apne parivaar ki or anything, sirf "apne dil" ki , teaching them that your answer is within you, if your mind has raised a question, search the answer within your heart, it will answer you back, spend some "alone" time with yourself to find it. However good or bad you are, your conscience self always speaks the truth..Because dil ki voice is soul ki voice, soul will always give you the right answer. No wonder mishti and kuhu always follow their heart, kuhu kuch zyada hi literally leti hai, vo baat alag hai !

"Mishti un anath bachho ke liye gayi hai, hamare jhagde un baccho se zyada zaruri toh nahi ho sakte na"

This was when mishti wanted to go to champaner along with Abir but badima refused saying us ladke se ab koi rishta nahi rakhna, bade papa again takes the right stand, work is above everything, more than that we should keep our personal biases aside when it comes to helping the needy, it's nice to have emotions but very necessary to also know when to control your emotions, it's not at all an easy task to forget your differences and do something for people you don't even know. True sign of a good human being here.

"Jahan par log aapse yeh umeed rakhe ki aap hamesha sar jhuka ke rakhenge, vaha se sar uthakar laut Jaana hi behtar hota hai"

Never compromise on your self respect, self respect is definitely above your love, this he said to mishti when people were blaming her for the party date mismatch , no wonder bade papa never wanted kuhu to enter that kabootarkhaana, he can easily sense the kind of people out there, and that's why he was skeptical about kuhu going there, he even asked right questions to kuhu and Kunal both, but sadly had to give in for family's and kuhu's happiness , and no wonder, bade Papa though believed mishti but was still upset with her for the haldi fiasco, not because she was rude with her family but because she, to some extent, compromised on her self respect in the process.....again when there was a chance , he asked the right questions to Abir and mishti as well, this time much more satisfied with the answers. More than love, he wants that people respect his daughters for what they are, and his daughters respect themselves too. He even described Meenu as "vo mausam jo Roz badalte hain, uspe bharosa nahi kiya jaata" ..lol.

"Jab hum ghar ki chokhat ke bahar jaaye, toh hamare mann ek hone chahie"

This is the most significant thing for a family to be together, whatever the differences are, should stay internally within the family and shouldn't go outside, because there are people out there like meenakshi rajvansh who are waiting for that one chance to play the game, during this entire shaadi fiasco, she tried her best to break the maheshwaris firstly by using kuhu ,when she learns from Kunal that kuhu hates Mishti, her planning started in full speed. When she sensed Mishti feels indebted to mahs, she used her against mahs, and she would have been successful too agar neend mein bhi hoshiyar beta jaagta nahi....that's why when representing the family in the outside world, behaving as a strong unit is very important.

We have always seen bade Papa stand for the right, giving befitting answers to Meenu, and treating everyone with love and respect ,whether it's for kuhu or Mishti, he was never in the foreground but always in the background supporting everyone in the family, just like how our backbone supports our body, Maheshwaris without bade Papa would have been a scattered family, a family Jahan koi "asli saval karta nahi , Jahan koi asli jawab deta nahi, Jahan koi asli baat karta nahi" ...just like the RV parivaar.

The biggest takeaways from bade Papa are to concentrate on being a good human being rather than being a good father, mother, daughter etc, always analyse the situation from all perspectives, not just from the perspective of the person you love, and always try asking right questions, because asking only right questions will help you to find right answers and I really appreciate such characters like BP, very rarely you find them on ITV.

Abir calls Mishti badi ma ki parchayi, though Abir has his own set of flaws, but he is so much like bade papa, and definitely has a lot of potential to be bade papa's parchayi !!

So if you have managed to read this, thank you so much for your time, I would definitely like to read your thoughts on this.

🤗

❤️

Absolutely splendid post Guruji👏👏👏.....Amazing post for one amazing character.....I am really short of words, you have covered everything so beautifully yaaraaaaa🤗

A husband like Bade papa

A father like Bade Papa

a father in law like Bade papa

a mentor like bade papa

Finally a human being like bade papa

the Maheshwaries are very lucky to have a mentor and family patriarch like Bade Papa. He is a very good example of how a family can be kept united even when every family member has different thoughts and perceptions. One strong guide can lead you to happiness, unity and towards your goals. And Bada papa has been that guide for his family. who has kep his family united with his cleart thoughts and guidance

Very rightly said dear that first we need to be a GOOD HUMAN BEING and the rest will follow, Walking that path is never easy, But why Bade papa makes it looks easy is because he is calm and clear headed person, a no nonsense no double faced man / human being. just like you said, he analysis the situation and then decides upon it...Be it anyone in the family. He does not jump the gun just because one family member is happy or sad or hurt, he does think and then tries his best to think sane and take right decision. His calm and observant nature is his strong point. The way he supports every one in the family is amazing.

I have always seen Bade papa very calm and composed, and I love this nature of his, for Mind to think clear and think straight and right it is very important to keep your mind calm and temper in check. and I have never seen bade papa go out in Temper or take rash decisions in anger or in impulse.

Exact opposite is Meenu, who is aggressive, Impulsive which does not allow her mind to think straight and right. And that is why even though her family claims she is the head of the family, she never can do things right and in turn is somewhere not even able to keep her family together.

though this is a show, I would really like to take some positives from Bade papa, because no one in real can be so good, but one can definitely try to be a good human being

One more thing is, Bade papa respects everyone's thoughts, he does not declare anyone wrong just because that person does not think like you.

Amazing post again Uru🤗👏

Originally posted by: Dotslover22

Wow. Wonderful post. Bade papa is definitely an example of how a father should be

Thank you dots 💚

Truly !

Maheshwaris are blessed to have him in their lives !

Originally posted by: Mimzy

Awesome post ..BP is probably one of the best father figures ever potrayed, who always asks the right questions, calls spade a spade, doesn't hesitate to take a stand for whats right. There is one dialogue of his that struck a chord with me( I don't remember which episode )He says its not difficult to choose between whats right and whats wrong. All the rest of the characters in show , have become emotional fools in one situation or the other because they are forced to choose between the happiness of two people. And most of the times they take the wrong decision. But for BP it doesnt matter to him who is standing infront of him, he never compromises on his ideals to suit another person. His decision making isn't swayed by the emotional blackmailing of anyone in the family. He won't do injustice to one person just to appease another. Also his understanding of Mishti is ❤. The convo he has with BM about mishti was appreciable. I don't think any father has understood his daughter as much as Bp does, you can understand the pride in his voice when he talks about Mishti. He is proud of the fact that his daughter is unconventional, is strong enough to stick by her decisions. I know you see Abir in him , but I also see Mishti in him too (haldi wala kaand chodke if u see) all the good qualities like unwilling to compromise her self respect, her candidness, her strength, her ability to stick by her decisions even when the world is against her. For me BP is a mix of both Abir and Mishti.

Hi mimzy, I don't see you posting here often but you really have a way with words, loved loved reading this. Well said 👍🏼

Very true, bade Papa is the only one who can't be emotionally manipulated, even Abir and mishti get emotionally fooled at times, but bade Papa knows it all, how well he deals with Meenu ... Without OTT drama shouting blaming, he keeps it subtle yet so impactful, yes he dosent compromise one for another, sign of a true family man

Yes, he is super proud of Mishti for what she is, I also remember the chasma scene where chotu mishti didn't want her chasma but bade Papa made her understand it so nicely.

You are absolutely right, mish is also bade Papa's parchayi... except haldi fiasco mish always what she feels is sahi ...

Italics - ahaa...that's a nice way to put it !

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Hi mimzy, I don't see you posting here often but you really have a way with words, loved loved reading this. Well said 👍🏼

Very true, bade Papa is the only one who can't be emotionally manipulated, even Abir and mishti get emotionally fooled at times, but bade Papa knows it all, how well he deals with Meenu ... Without OTT drama shouting blaming, he keeps it subtle yet so impactful, yes he dosent compromise one for another, sign of a true family man

Yes, he is super proud of Mishti for what she is, I also remember the chasma scene where chotu mishti didn't want her chasma but bade Papa made her understand it so nicely.

You are absolutely right, mish is also bade Papa's parchayi... except haldi fiasco mish always what she feels is sahi ...

Italics - ahaa...that's a nice way to put it !

@bold - 😳

Originally posted by: Mimzy

@italics - Aww...thats very sweet of you!!!..❤️....Eventhough I dnt post much, I go through all of your posts...and the different POVs are interesting. And all of you guys have a way with words...and the way you keep your point across is 👏.Vaise main real life main aise hi hoon....a more of a listener than a talker. Btw your creative brain and the ability to nautakify every episode is 🤗

@bold - 😳

Thank you so much dear, you are a sweetheart ❤️ such kind words ...thank you .. really means a lot 😳

Awwwww... Please join us in the AT na ?😃

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Thank you so much dear, you are a sweetheart ❤️ such kind words ...thank you .. really means a lot 😳

Awwwww... Please join us in the AT na ?😃