Exactly..excessive of anything puts you in trouble ..excessive honesty , empathy ..everything..it's OK to be selfish at times..it's OK to be mean at times , not help at times , not be caring at times.. everyone has their good & bad days ..it won't make them a bad person..
I can't decide on aksharas char either..I think she falls into the gray zone completely ..I believe as long as your actions harm you in anyway or they're beneficial to you , it's fine , it's neither good or bad ..but if they harm somebody else then it becomes a problem..she wanted to save those kids but Neil died & one of her babies died ..the ripple effect of her actions was huge ...whatever in happened in between I won't comment on that but the last one of taking blame of arohis death , deciding to marry abhim and running away from udaipur was her lowest low ..
Ruhi is scarred & she's scarred badly since childhood..as long as she was fighting for arman , she was an impulsive selfish brat but she let him go n the tamasha that happened on shadi , it put a lid on her desires for good ..but after the IR , now she's stuck in the same space as her most hated person & I feel now there's nothing that can placate her ..if abhira really loves her behna and wants her to heal , she should stay away from ruhi , as far as possible ..but hota hai uska ulta ..
Her full character is based on "everything which is dear is taken away from me " , n it's a fact ke pehle akshara and now abhira are directly or indirectly responsible ..if there's anybl char in yrkkh I feel sympathy for, it's ruhi..
All her fears proven true , Ruhi's last and only hope her baccha also snatched from her that to keep Abhira's smile intact ...Such a pathetic creature Armaan is who has a heart of stone .seriously disgusting 🤮
The power of her voice is no joke...but her tendency to help others is more fearful 
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