Originally posted by: lagjagale
Manjari's trajectory has been interesting. She was always very adamant about her son's happiness and about him getting married and yeah I feel like she used her health and stress levels to influence Abhi in a LOT of cases. The whole debacle with Ak started with Manjari insisting that Abhi get married, then she messed up and thought he wanted to marry the topper Arohi instead of the singer Akshara. Its the reason people call her kaandmata cause she is the one who ends up causing a lot of issues for Abhi always.
But....her love for him was always superior to everything. She forgave Ak and Arohi for almost killing her and infact persuaded Abhi several times to make up with Ak when the fault was clearly Ak's. She was like a mother to Ak as well and really cared for her. Ak was another kaand person though and created a lot of issues in Birla house and esp in Manjari's life post marriage. This forced Abhi to choose between the two of the them again and again, even though both Manjari and Ak asked him to choose the other. Arohi was the reason that Neil's truth came out, but Manjari blamed Ak for it. Then later when Abhira relationship soured because of it, she herself made Abhi understand and to go make up with Ak. Finally there was the Manjari-Harsh divorce sequence as well.
After the first leap is when Manjari's behavior towards AK changed drastically. She saw Abhi in pain for a whole year and it was clear to her that Ak did it for her brother. She then went into a coma during which the whole sacrifice and then divorce narrative came out. When she got out of the coma she didn't care about the year separation or the reasons Ak had, she just wanted them to be together again and happy. It was only after their divorce news came out that Manjari hardened towards Ak. She didn't care much about the year long sacrifice I think which was a major surprise to us. And then for the reunion she was kind of annoyed with Ak for taking so long to say yes to Abhi. When they finally got back together she explained to Abhi that her fear was that Abhi loved Ak far more than she loved him and this was similar to her relationship with Harsh where she loved him, but he didn't love her.
So after the first leap, Manjari had already started equating Ak to Harsh in the fact that they both didn't care enough and only cared about themselves. While she and Abhi were the lovers who spent their whole lives trying to be enough for them. Then Manjari blamed Ak for Neil's death, which is a lot of the reason Abhi kicked her out cause he didn't want Manjari to get worse. Now with Ak having moved on from Abhi and having a kid from another man, the similarities between her and Harsh are increasing, plus they are entering a marriage of convenience from her end while Abhi hopelessly loves her. So its all ringing a LOT of alarms for Manjari from her own life.
That is why she is behaving like this.
What I might say could be an unpopular opinion. This is what I think.
I can understand her reasoning behind her decisions. She simply wants her son to be in a marriage where he is happy.
However, firstly, her percieved idea of happy family for Abhimanyu does not match with his idea for instance Arohi's marriage arrangement with Abhimanyu. Even when she very well knew that he couldn't still forget Akshara, she fixed the marriage alliance regardless. He would have still been unhappy with Arohi since he is a hopeless lover and Arohi herself said she couldn't love anyone after Neil. A person like Abhi will not fall in love with anyone with time. There are people who cannot forget their past love and live along with their memories unable move on. Back then also Manjitri's wishe would not have been fulfilled. It would have been worst as both Majiri and Abi would have been unhappy. Best option would have been let him live in peace for once by going away from the stressful environment. It is good for healing process. Like doing charity work or anything to get fresh air instead of fixing the marriage with Arohi. Mental peace is important more than anything.
Secondly, she seems to influence Abhimanyu's decision out of love and care but little does she know that it can hurt Abhimanyu to a greater extent as results of her actions for instance this suicide attempt; Abhi got so scared and he was worried sick. For how long is she gonna dissuade him from taking decisons on his own? If this had happened in actual scenario, he would have harmed himself out of impulse. It is not good to pressure a person even if that is done out of love. Understanding the reason behind the other party is important.
Also, I don't agree with Abhira marriage for obvious reasons. But he was persuaded to agree to the marriage. How can he back out now like that easily when he already made up his mind for his son's happiness? He took the decision to marry her by thiking over it thoroughly.
In this kind of situation, Manjiri cannot say anything because it is complicated. He is marrying her knowing the situation very well. It is his decision and he will have to live with consequences. Ideal option would have been co-parenting since it is not possible with current storyline there is no option left. He should have that freedom to take the decision because sometimes people have to take decision by thinking of their loved ones' happiness.
It is just that Manjiri still sticks to her idea of happiness. if Manjiri was in this situation she would have also taken the same decision that Abhimanyu took. After a person becomes a parent, especially in Asia, they tend to think about children's happiness.
This is why I am saying her actions cannot be justified nor is it right for Abhimanyu's well-being and peace of mind.
alag hi show chal ra hai post leap
...Those two are toxic to the core. Always Abhimanyu has come in between them to solve the issues. In the process of becoming peacemaker he has mentally gone down. If Manjiri really loves his son, she would have thought about her son's deteriorating health. She now creates dramas to bring Abhi back, making him more worries than before. Writers butchered her character as well. 
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