Insecurity [DT NOTE PG 2,8] - Page 8

Originally posted by: chaipaani

How i know it coz mere cousin ka 18th se phele passport nahi ban paya. I was out of the country and my cousin wanted to visit me but he couldn't you know why coz his parents are divorced and guess what his parents were divorced in 98 and he was born in 2000. Coz during that time they reconciled. Around 2005 ny aunt remarried my uncle.

Now coz it's been years not many people know that he is not my uncle's real son but legal papers do.

During the passport thing he needed signed from both his parents so to avoid too much work we were like baad mein bna lenge.

Don't come at me k ban jaata passport and all thoda laziness mein bhi nahi banwaya k ab kaun uske papa k pass jaaye sign laaye and all.

It happened bec the real fathers name was put in the bc column.

If suppose ur aunt was remarried at the time her baby was born and ur uncles name was put there , in all documents in future , only that name will be valid Nd nobody will question it. I am not sure how common are pregnancy divorce remarriage within 9 months cases so the complications in such cases will be more..however , nothing is illegal , something for which a criminal case can be filed

Mujhse ek point par aake galati se mistake hogya tha

Phir yeh kahan agaye hum yun hi saath chalte chalte mujhe bhi nahi pta 😂

Originally posted by: Krinya

It happened bec the real fathers name was put in the bc column.

If suppose ur aunt was remarried at the time her baby was born and ur uncles name was put there , in all documents in future , only that name will be valid Nd nobody will question it. I am not sure how common are pregnancy divorce remarriage within 9 months cases so the complications in such cases will be more..however , nothing is illegal , something for which a criminal case can be filed

See jaise thappad mein have you noticed divorce proceedings k time she got to know.

Ek toh ITV mein room mein divorce krlete hain

Hum log apna start hojaate hain

Let it be ✌️

Originally posted by: Krinya

It happened bec the real fathers name was put in the bc column.

If suppose ur aunt was remarried at the time her baby was born and ur uncles name was put there , in all documents in future , only that name will be valid Nd nobody will question it. I am not sure how common are pregnancy divorce remarriage within 9 months cases so the complications in such cases will be more..however , nothing is illegal , something for which a criminal case can be filed

Yaar aise cases thode dhoondhne na mushkil ho jayenge irl coz divorces aise room mein baithe nhi hojate h....so it's probably a moot point

Originally posted by: chaipaani

And for being Abhir's father no it doesn't go like

Marry the mom. That's why I told you my family ka story coz below 18 unfortunately kuch hojata aunt ko bacho ka custody mere uncle ko nahi milta.

Aese nahi hota hai. Father in this case Abhimanyu mna krde that's a different case. But we know that Abhimanyu wants Abhir so at the moment AK dies Abhir pe first right Abhimanyu ka hoga na ki Abhinav ka.

But AK k hote huye na abhimanyu ka first right hai na Abhinav ka.

Maine ek point rkha tha that in case AK goes out of the picture somehow.

This is completely wrong.

There seems be confusion in this forum about the difference between biological and legal father.

Abhimanyu is simply the biological father, a glorified sperm donor. Abhinav is the legal guardian and father. If something happens to Akshara, the first right is Abhinav's.

It's not about who marries Abhir's mom.. This is about who is LEGALLY the father. It's Abhinav. On the birth certificate.

Abhimanyu can fight for custody on the grounds of biology but given that Abhir has stayed with Abhimanyu throughout his life and is his legal guardian, he will be given Abhir. After 18 he gets to choose.

Now it would come down to money and financial status too. That would be the only way to prove Abhimanyu would be better for Abhir. Now if AbhiN proves he can take care of the expenses, AbhiM won't have any chance.

The Courts don't just handover kids to biological parents. They see who's a better fit, who the child is attached too and growing up be given a familiar environment. Its not black or white 😆

Now during the proceedings the court will ask why AbhiM was kept away from his son and as soon as the truth comes out, AbhiM will never get Abhir lmao. Not in any lifetime, in any court.

I mean i know all this discussion is fun and games, but I see such nonsense about paternity fraud and bacha chor and all that crap about Akshnav, I just have to set the record straight.

Paternity fraud flies out of the window and becomes a complete moot point the moment spousal domestic abuse comes into the picture. No court would even consider it.

I still remember laughing in disbelief when AbhiM was screeching 'mera haq mera beta how could you do this to me' 😳🤔😆 like... what beta, what haq.. You think you can abuse the mother and get haq. Delusional much? Gaslighting much? Get help 😆

Edited to add : Apparently newbies have post limits so i can no longer quote or give replies for the time being... but wanted to comment on the post below which points out the correct legality.. hence adding this.

quoted from JustaFan13.

"Even after divorce, both parents have legal rights on the child. It's only after the custody case, the rights are either shared or given to a single parent based on the situation"

Correct and the parents as in the ones on the birth certificate. Not the biological parents.. The legal parents which have always been Akshara and Abhinav.

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

Yesterday, someone was saying that Ak had no right to ask AbN to be father of her child when the real father was alive and he could only be his step father.

Once she got divorced, she had every right to do what she wanted with herself and her baby as well.

Even after divorce, both parents have legal rights on the child. It's only after the custody case, the rights are either shared or given to a single parent based on the situation.

Originally posted by: OnTheBlock

This is completely wrong.

There seems be confusion in this forum about the difference between biological and legal father.

Abhimanyu is simply the biological father, a glorified sperm donor. Abhinav is the legal guardian and father. If something happens to Akshara, the first right is Abhinav's.

It's not about who marries Abhir's mom.. This is about who is LEGALLY the father. It's Abhinav. On the birth certificate.

Abhimanyu can fight for custody on the grounds of biology but given that Abhir has stayed with Abhimanyu throughout his life and is his legal guardian, he will be given Abhir. After 18 he gets to choose.

Now it would come down to money and financial status too. That would be the only way to prove Abhimanyu would be better for Abhir. Now if AbhiN proves he can take care of the expenses, AbhiM won't have any chance.

The Courts don't just handover kids to biological parents. They see who's a better fit, who the child is attached too and growing up be given a familiar environment. Its not black or white 😆

Now during the proceedings the court will ask why AbhiM was kept away from his son and as soon as the truth comes out, AbhiM will never get Abhir lmao. Not in any lifetime, in any court.

I mean i know all this discussion is fun and games, but I see such nonsense about paternity fraud and bacha chor and all that crap about Akshnav, I just have to set the record straight.

Paternity fraud flies out of the door and because a completely moot point the moment spousal domestic abuse comes into the picture. No court would even consider it.

I still remember laughing in disbelief when AbhiM was screeching 'mera haq mera beta how could you do this to me' 😳🤔😆 like... what beta, what haq.. You think you can abuse the mother and get haq. Delusional much? Gaslighting much? Get help 😆

Edited to add : Apparently newbies have post limits... so adding a reply to the comment below which points out the correct legality.

quoted from JustaFan13.

"Even after divorce, both parents have legal rights on the child. It's only after the custody case, the rights are either shared or given to a single parent based on the situation"

Correct and the parents as in the ones on the birth certificate. Not the biological parents.. The legal parents which have always been Akshara and Abhinav.

Okay Abhinav won the case 🎉 Abhimanyu toh bus jab surgery krna tha tb tak important tha.

But Maybe he can stop crying now atleast over the comments of a woman jisko khud nahi pta kya chahti hai.

Coz as per you he has legal rights i believe more than Abhimanyu and more than Akshara too. And emotional rights he should be sure of his son atleast ya chalo nahi hai toh AK asurity deti hi rehti hai.

What's the problem exactly smjh nahi aarha 🤔

Originally posted by: Priyrabha

Also Abhira should not happen because it will make both bad. If Abhinav die AK should lead her life as single mother or just co-parenting with Abhi.

Exactly what most of us are trying to explain that akshara should have been independent after the 2nd leap. And all are going gaga on the word "independence". 🤷🏻‍♀️

Originally posted by: JustaFan13

Exactly what most of us are trying to explain that akshara should have been independent after the 2nd leap. And all are going gaga on the word "independence". 🤷🏻‍♀️

यह मत भूलो

यह बाज़ार है

सभी आए हैं बिकने

राम राम कहो

और माखन मिश्री घोलो।

व्यंग्य मत बोलो।

- सर्वेश्वरदयाल सक्सेना

Originally posted by: chaipaani

Okay Abhinav won the case 🎉 Abhimanyu toh bus jab surgery krna tha tb tak important tha.

But Maybe he can stop crying now atleast over the comments of a woman jisko khud nahi pta kya chahti hai.

Coz as per you he has legal rights i believe more than Abhimanyu and more than Akshara too. And emotional rights he should be sure of his son atleast ya chalo nahi hai toh AK asurity deti hi rehti hai.

What's the problem exactly smjh nahi aarha 🤔

Did you not bring in real-world legality to argue that Abhinav doesn't have any legal rights over Abhir because Abhimanyu hadn't consented to the adoption? And two lawyers told you that in real world legality, the birth certificate matters and Akshara was well within her rights to write Abhinav's name there legally.

Problem toh kisi ko bhi kucch nahi hai