With an intent to close one debate - Page 2

So dear ladies who think it’s fine and safe that Akshara married a stranger who she knows since only few months without any feeling of love, the question is for you : if you were Akshara, will you marry this random sweet stranger whom you met in the bus.Yes, he cares you and the baby. He seems like a good soul too good to be true actually. He has no family and much is not know about his background.will you feel okay and safe to marry him after knowing him for only few handful of months? Think of the dangers too of marrying practically a stranger. Remember it’s marriage of convenience without any form of love its just based on few months of friendship.after coming out of a divorce and miscarriage will you take the risk of a loveless marriage adjustment to hurt yourself further ?what is guarantee you will eventually fall in love?think about it is it better to marry a stranger or be independent,self reliant (this word a few of you think as overrated I felt) think and answer frankly guys dont go Mahaan Mode when answering. We all have different opinions and that’s fine 😊❤️

Ek hi jagah tape fasa hua hai subah se.

In real life , Are we all new to the concept of arranged marriage where the girl meets a guy once and gets married or they get to interact for a month and then they get married.

In comparison, Akshara got nearly 7 months to gauge the character of abhinav before she got married.in no point did abhinav stop Akshara from reuniting with her family. Is it so hard to understand this?

In real life, any woman would go back to her family, she doesn't have to live with them if she doesn't want to, she has a huge amount of inheritance to her name from her mother, grandmother etc, she comes from a family of generational wealth. She could have moved to another city and delivered her child there, met Abhinav and could have married him for love

Running away from family when you are pregnant, risking your child's life again and again, the fact that she didn't even have proper vehicle to reach a hospital tells you about the life she chose for herself. They glorify this to an extent that I wanna bang my head because people are prepared for situations like this. She was pregnant, hospital should have been the first thing in her mind 😆

After delivering a child, most women goes through something called postpartum depression. There's a scene in FRIENDS where Rachel agrees to marry Joey because she panicked and didn't think anything through and told Ross that she would have said "YES" to anyone and Ross told her that he doesn't want to be "ANYONE". One has to understand psychology of a woman who is in that situation, Abhinav took advantage of the situation knowingly or unknowingly and got a family for himself which he always wanted. He is benefactor of the situation not a victim. His life changed from working in a tourist company to owning one, having a wife and a child to come home to, someone to call your own and live a happy life with them.

Originally posted by: --Priyaa--

So dear ladies who think it’s fine and safe that Akshara married a stranger who she knows since only few months without any feeling of love, the question is for you : if you were Akshara, will you marry this random sweet stranger whom you met in the bus.Yes, he cares you and the baby. He seems like a good soul too good to be true actually. He has no family and much is not know about his background.will you feel okay and safe to marry him after knowing him for only few handful of months? Think of the dangers too of marrying practically a stranger. Remember it’s marriage of convenience without any form of love its just based on few months of friendship.after coming out of a divorce and miscarriage will you take the risk of a loveless marriage adjustment to hurt yourself further ?what is guarantee you will eventually fall in love?think about it is it better to marry a stranger or be independent,self reliant (this word a few of you think as overrated I felt) think and answer frankly guys dont go Mahaan Mode when answering. We all have different opinions and that’s fine 😊❤️

I wouldn't marry someone I know for years let alone a stranger 😆 I have issues with commitment but if there's love you can marry anyone you want to marry, it doesn't matter if she knows him for a few days or few years

Originally posted by: focus7

In real life , Are we all new to the concept of arranged marriage where the girl meets a guy once and gets married or they get to interact for a month and then they get married.

In comparison, Akshara got nearly 7 months to gauge the character of abhinav before she got married.in no point did abhinav stop Akshara from reuniting with her family. Is it so hard to understand this?

In arranged marriages usually parents and relatives who love their daughter do a thorough background check of the man to make sure he is good.If they dont later bada pachtaoge if the guy turn outs shady and it does at times.

When landlord asked them to move out for living together without getting married, Ak said she would move out then AbN asked her if she didn’t want to live with him that’s alright with him but she had to promise that she would go back to her family as it was dangerous for her to live alone in that condition. And Ak chose to live with AbN and moved to Kasauli.

AbN never held her back and repeatedly asked her to reconcile with her family. It was Ak’s choice to stay with him and as such we have to respect whatever decision she took no matter how irrational or illogical it may seem coz this is Ak’s story whether you like it or not.

Originally posted by: --Priyaa--

In arranged marriages usually parents and relatives who love their daughter do a thorough background check of the man to make sure he is good.If they dont later bada pachtaoge if the guy turn outs shady and it does at times.

Don’t worry Ak had ample time to check his nature and character during her pregnancy and see she never had to regret her decision.😇

Originally posted by: --Priyaa--

In arranged marriages usually parents and relatives who love their daughter do a thorough background check of the man to make sure he is good.If they dont later bada pachtaoge if the guy turn outs shady and it does at times.

She got to know him when she stayed with him for all these months. Plus as you said parents and loved once do a background check, then did she suddenly become unloved that her family didn’t follow up with her after she left the house, and let her be even after she reassured them over phone. Clearly bade papa supposedly went and checked in with her all these years, and had no problems with abhiN

I find goenkas very weird. If Akshara was being impulsive under extreme stress, what were her fam members doing who are supposedly so worldly and wise and loving.

And if I was in aksharas position the only thing I would change is ensure that I have enough money ( her inheritance or her savings) , cos I wouldn’t want to stay with the goenkas who are always gonna be confused with who to support, arohi or Akshara.

anyways this is my perspective. Let’s agree to disagree

Originally posted by: NoraSM

I wouldn't marry someone I know for years let alone a stranger 😆 I have issues with commitment but if there's love you can marry anyone you want to marry, it doesn't matter if she knows him for a few days or few years

Same, If I was Akshara or anybody I wouldn’t marry a stranger without knowing him in detail and without doing a clear background check. As Akshara, I would get to know the person for an year Atleast and if love happens then marriage is safe. I will see him as a supportive friend till then.

Also imagine marrying a stranger you met months back and you have not much idea of his past. what if he is like a killer like Chucky doll or just a criminal. 😁