With an intent to close one debate

So recently came across a debate point that one AbhiM goes like Akshara married a stranger and all

Nav k fans goes like AbhiM k 75 flaws and all.

One statement i came across was- yeah you go marry a guy you met in a festival.

So I thought to make a post coz I was free 😂

Why marriage with AbhiM is okay(let's not talk about the outcome cox that's beyond control for anyone in reality)

You met a guy in a festival, you heard about him, know about his family, almost same social circle.

You interact with him and like him...

Now his family sent a rishta(let's assume no misunderstanding and all here- coz that was just to intensify Abhira ka pyaar and all that ITV situations) i am comparing it with real life scenario.

Your family is involved now- they know Ladke ka history now. I find this completely safe and that's how mostly things work type of situation.

Now XYZ reason but you met a guy in a bus who kinda intrude your space. Agreed that he is helping and all and you are in distress. You started living with him while you have a complicated pregnancy, he is caring, genuine, nice and everything and after knowing him for 6-7 months, after the birth when you see how he cares about your child you marry him.

So yes Akshara didn't marry a stranger but what is unbelievable is that she agrees to stay with a stranger over her family.

And i personally would be okay of her not contacting her family if she was not this involved now.

If eventually you have no grudges with anyone in your family why did you choose a stranger.

Here you no nothing about him, in reality it can turn out dangerous. That guy can be a drug dealer, human trafficker, anyone.

I don't think it was a wise decision. I understand she was in trauma but still it's the reality.

Share your povs.

Because they made her feel she's the problem..they made her feel unloved.. They couldn't make her feel secured.. honestly if i was in her situation,i would've left too instead of being people who hardly stand for me and behave like I'm curse..maan lete hain she did wrong for not going to them,why they didn't go after her? Woh log toh bade hain,bohot Caring hain,unlogo ne kyun chor diya akshara ko aapne haal pe? Yeh karke unlogo ne prove kardiya she's just naam ki beti.. a stranger looked more genuine and trust worthy then her own family..and she don't have any expectations from them looks like

Also Abhinav itna d dangerous ho sakta tha yeh woh ho sakta tha but hua nehi..toh it was not stupid of her..she was proven right..

And her family who chose accha,ghar baar wala Abhimanyu divorce her two time and sooooioooooooo many lafda bazi before and after marriage..

I said this in another post and I'll repeat it here ..

Life is not a matrix where calculated decisions are made everytime with possibilities and risk analysis. Even those who do it can fail multiple times or succeed accidently ..its all destiny . Then there is god there are instincts there is faith there is individuals capability to deal with adversities ..

Akshu went to a woman's hostel , there also she was arrested . On one hand we talk of women empowerment on the other we take away her authority to take decisions for her life. On one hand we talk of single woman raising her child on the other we want her to go bk to her family for safe secure environment .

an alliance fixed by the family can also be a bad decision , as proved in Dr birlas case . And a decision to be a part of some "strangers" life can turn out to be a blessing as proved in abhinavs case...

she did contact her family, they knew her whereabouts , she was in touch with them incase anything went wrong they would be there but nothing went wrong ? A trafficker wouldn't wait for 6 years nor save a strangers baby or care to take akshu to a hospital even . An ill intentioned psycho won't let her keep contact with her family..nor will he put up an act of taking care of a newly born , trust me it isn't easy ..it requires a lot of patience which can't be faked...abhin also had his job, neighbour's to vouch for him .

Lastly , if these women empowerment talks r meant only to keep akshu single so that she's available for dr Birla , then it's complete nonsense. Rest we will talk when abhin takes an exit and akshu is again on cross roads . Will she become a single mother or go bk to goenkas or to her ex.

Many of us are not able to understand Akshara's POV in choosing a stranger over her family during a complicated pregnancy. What if she had complications throughout her pregnancy. Did she even think about his financial conditions, would he be able to provide all the medical facilities needed for her and the baby?

Also when she realised that she couldn't help him financially during her pregnancy, she could have taken Goenka's help instead of being a burden to Abhinav and then giving him the father rights out of gratitude.

Sorry I don't mean to offend you but nothing personal....

In the topic , not mentioned about the outcome of marriage with manyu but the issue now is possible outcomes of trusting Abhinav

Also can mention many instances the outcome of marriages where families involved....that too in same show...

Akshara don't have grudges on her family neither now nor earlier....She moved away from them because they looked at her like murderer and made her feel unwanted....

Originally posted by: chaipaani

So recently came across a debate point that one AbhiM goes like Akshara married a stranger and all

Nav k fans goes like AbhiM k 75 flaws and all.

One statement i came across was- yeah you go marry a guy you met in a festival.

So I thought to make a post coz I was free 😂

Why marriage with AbhiM is okay(let's not talk about the outcome cox that's beyond control for anyone in reality)

You met a guy in a festival, you heard about him, know about his family, almost same social circle.

You interact with him and like him...

Now his family sent a rishta(let's assume no misunderstanding and all here- coz that was just to intensify Abhira ka pyaar and all that ITV situations) i am comparing it with real life scenario.

Your family is involved now- they know Ladke ka history now. I find this completely safe and that's how mostly things work type of situation.

Now XYZ reason but you met a guy in a bus who kinda intrude your space. Agreed that he is helping and all and you are in distress. You started living with him while you have a complicated pregnancy, he is caring, genuine, nice and everything and after knowing him for 6-7 months, after the birth when you see how he cares about your child you marry him.

So yes Akshara didn't marry a stranger but what is unbelievable is that she agrees to stay with a stranger over her family.

And i personally would be okay of her not contacting her family if she was not this involved now.

If eventually you have no grudges with anyone in your family why did you choose a stranger.

Here you no nothing about him, in reality it can turn out dangerous. That guy can be a drug dealer, human trafficker, anyone.

I don't think it was a wise decision. I understand she was in trauma but still it's the reality.

Share your povs.

Originally posted by: AKHIAWAL

Because they made her feel she's the problem..they made her feel unloved.. They couldn't make her feel secured.. honestly if i was in her situation,i would've left too instead of being people who hardly stand for me and behave like I'm curse..maan lete hain she did wrong for not going to them,why they didn't go after her? Woh log toh bade hain,bohot Caring hain,unlogo ne kyun chor diya akshara ko aapne haal pe? Yeh karke unlogo ne prove kardiya she's just naam ki beti.. a stranger looked more genuine and trust worthy then her own family..and she don't have any expectations from them looks like

Also Abhinav itna d dangerous ho sakta tha yeh woh ho sakta tha but hua nehi..toh it was not stupid of her..she was proven right..

And her family who chose accha,ghar baar wala Abhimanyu divorce her two time and sooooioooooooo many lafda bazi before and after marriage..

See i understand this. My point is because when Akshara herself have no problem with her family now

Why risk your health then.

For the baby she married him, for the Baby she lived. What would have happened to the baby if she died.

What if Nav too left the baby then you never know a person and you are dead too

Consistency of her emotions makes her a fool.

These points all i know

These are the points i go and raise when people call Akshara names. But now watching her doing hey bro with Kairav makes me think

Guys I would really like you all to read my post again and see I mentioned that in real life scenerio.

We all know how stupid that decision is and if the family is that bad no she should not be supporting Muskan ki wedding in that house let alone celebrating.

No one said sorry to her, no one redeemed they're all same people.

And yes guys i know all this if you know me or read my comments I am a pro Akshu supporter.

Dr Birla ka mudda hi nahi mereko.

But I read this and thought to make a post on how these two situations are not comparison worthy.

Meeting someone like Nav and started living with him and meeting AbhiM in a festival and how.

Only this situation.

What happened how we all know.

Obviously Nav didn't turn out to be a psycho or anything coz its a show they decided to make him this goody goody person.

Tell me how many of us as women will go and start living with Nav under similar conditions?

Hope I am making my point clear and better now

Originally posted by: R.G.C

I think Ak as a character pre leap was quite emotional, and she overheard her BP complaining to her friend about Ak’s part in Neil’s death and that triggered it, as all the blames from Arohi’s to Manjari’s to Abhim’s to now her BP, she would be burdened by all the guilt, and then she leaves. So her, not being able to go back to family is understandable. I am bummed that she did not go to Singhanias but I guess they were low on budget to have a whole family other than Goenkas and Birlas enter, lol, thus Abhin the orphan was an easier option for the writers. About Ak marrying Abhim, I don’t believe their relationship was natural either. Old Abhim was creepy, he fell in love with Ak just by her voice, personally I don’t see that as love at all, thats just infatuation. He emotionally blackmailed her to confess, creepier. He did take his profile to her family but then also she chose her sister over him, which many people blame Ak for, but any normal person would do. If I have to choose between my sister who I know for 20+ years and a random guy I met at some random music festival, I’d always choose my sister too. Though I agree Ak was dumb enough to let go of every bad thing Ar did to her, that I wont do lol. Now coming to Abhin, she did not get ready to stay with him from the start, she started after the whole BP complaining about Neil’s death thing happened. She did not marry him immediately too, and ideally 6-7 months mein its natural that you start moving on. Again I am saying I would love to see a strong, single Ak, but her character from the beginning has been written as someone who craves for a family. Thats why she continues to repeat that humne apni choti si zindagi banayi in Kasauli almost every third day. This is what she wanted, a family, not everybody feels successful by thriving in a profession, some people might just like a little homely stuff too. Where it went wrong is the execution of this whole arc, because the writers just said that this much time has gone by, they did not try to show Ak opening up and accepting this life gradual, because the shift was so sudden, I believe people are just perplexed on when it happened and how it happened. I can still not be sure about Ak loving Abhin or not, but even if she does, personally I am okay with that

Agreed with your pov. Also thanks for not typing in a passive aggressive way. 😂

@bold This is what I am saying alot these days too. The execution is so bad that I stopped liking Nav too.

I am okay with anything that's going to bring entertainment now.

Yeah coz my post is not about the outcome.