Akshara's motivations - Page 3

Originally posted by: verve

Ever since the 2nd leap happened, people have been divided in their opinions & have made valid arguments. This isn't a justification post for her actions (bcos frankly the writing isn't consistent and taut to find sufficient logic behind all motivations).. rather this is my understanding of the ckt's responses. (PS this is gonna be long post)

Why Ak didn't text Ab? Bcos she knew that Ab would come for the child, But she wanted him to come for her. When Ab in his anger said, "Nahi lena-dena usse ya bachhe se", it's true as some pointed out that you can't reject someone/something you don't know about. So in Ak's mind who was he basically rejecting? Her! Just like he did during the 1st call.

She wanted Ab to come for her and not just the child Bcos Ak was used to receiving the second hand treatment since childhood. She knows the hurt and suffocation that comes with it. Ab was the first in her life to make her a priority. In the initial days, she didn't face competition from mata. She herself had distorted idea of relationships, so she didn't really mind Ab's love tactics. For her with Ab everything was like the fairytale description of love - a prince charming coming to save a damsel in distress.

She understood that going back for just the child would effectively subjugate her again to a lifetime of second-hand treatment. She knew mata detested her & her only passkey to B mansion would be being the vessel of child birth or the prime caretaker. This wouldn't just be unhealthy for her but also the child.

Also, would like to add that Ak at that pt. didn't know of mata's panic attacks or Ar's pregnancy continuation dilemma. Had she known, being an empath, she would've kept their problems above herself & understood Ab's pov. But in reality she just heard Ab's words & the utter betrayal it was of all the promises and love they shared. She confessed that she kept waiting for Ab throughout her pregnancy & wanted him to be by her side. When he didn't come or even called, it broke her hope, and made her bitter towards all their memories. That's why she's still the most angry with him.

Now she could've reached out to her family to get help. But sadly she heard BP acknowledging her being indirectly responsible for Neel's death. Why this affected her so much? Bcos she had already faced the indirect accusations of murdering Sirat from the same family and was traumatized by it upto the extent that she left G house to live in hostel. In the state she was she had no will to face that unsaid trauma again.

Her then accidental meeting with Nav led to a series of events that provided her with an alternative of starting afresh. It opened up a possibility for her to live away from her past, build a stable life for her kid and live on her own terms. So she chose it.

Now the reason she never reached out to Gs in 6 long yrs or visited UD was bcos she believed whenever she went back tragic events occurred that eclipsed the happiness of people she loved n cared about. This belief arising due to her internal guilt, coupled with her desire to not rock her peaceful Kasauli life restrained her from contacting Gs frequently.

Currently what Ak is doing & thinking I would write in another post. I want to see how the next few episodes unfold.

PS few things I couldn't find logic to -

1. Why didn't Gs even once come to meet Ak despite knowing she suddenly married a random guy? Doesn't this make their claims of familial bonds dubious?

2. Why didn't BP if he'd once come to visit Ak in Kasauli got to know about Abhir's age? Or how come no one asks of Abhir's age?

3. What's with all the ckts. odd day - even day formula? It's seriously offputting.

Also, for Ak being shown penniless, I think gpay, phonepay, paytm nothing exists in yrkkh. When Ak left B mansion ofc in that state she wouldn't have remembered taking her purse & credit card, but phone to tha. So I guess yeh tech pahuchi nhi hogi uss universe mein.

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To the point and logical ...Post ..but who cares about logic in YRKKH....Goenkas are not a bit angry hearing Abhimanyu divorced Akshara on her miscarriage day...they are saying we will talk with Abhimanyu Beta....really?? someone kicked your daughter out at her lowest...

Badi Maa aka Suwarna is bff with Manjari..she is emotional and so talking like this . really??? Someone accused your daughter as khooni and you are saying she is emotional 😭🤣🤩

Ajeeb family hai yaar ....

And that budhiya MiMi....Naira ki zindagi destroy kar Di thi..ab muh mein dahi jam Gaya hai unka ..can't even speak a word in Akshara's favour...

If I try to put myself in Akshara’s shoes on the so called white day .. should actually be black day … everything related to that day was serious trauma .. and the one person from whom she expected some level of acceptance or understanding , so mercilessly threw her out without a backward glance .. I would have really found it very difficult to go back to that person even if I found out that the baby is alive .. like so many of us have pointed out , if there is at least some ego in you , which most of us have to varying degrees , it is very difficult to imagine being taken back just because the child is alive .. so I agree with you that most likely the phone calls - while only 2 conversations happened , it has been mentioned by both parties that she called multiple times - directly speaking to him was a way to reassure herself that she means something to him still .. a caring word from him or some concern would probably have made a world of difference to her in that state .. but she forgot her hurt and pain and trauma and called him again and again only to be categorically told not to call him ever again .. still she held out hope till her delivery that he will come .. even when she woke up from coma , she thought it was Sbhi holding the child .. and that was the point where she really accepted that she means nothing to him now and someone who had no rishta and much lesser means is the person who stood by her and her son when she really needed saath and pyaar .. Abhimanyu failed miserably as a human being and as a husband in how she treated her .. I don’t think any amount of extreme care he took during pregnancy can wash away the fact or make up for the fact that when it was testing time he failed .. his love did not stand the test of time and trials .. that was really the end of her belief in that kind of love or May be even things like soulmates etc.. and I do believe that gratitude for what he did selflessly for her and Abhir , the (kind of illogical) fact that Abhir owed his life to a practical stranger’s empathy towards her situation were all factors for her choosing to put down Abhinav as father because in real sense of the word , he became the protector of that child .. and she knew about his empty frames and his longing for a family and it was a mutually beneficial relationship that they entered into .. and unlike many Navra fans , I do believe she was a major factor in how his standard of living improved and also that she contributed to the finance of the family through her efforts as well ,. I don’t believe it was a parasitic relationship where he was the giver and she the taker .. she continues to be an empathetic person but who probably at least knows how her child should not be based on her experiences .. I really love Akshara the mother ..

Now coming to Goenkas .. I agree .. in spite of Abhi’s continued rejection , she was really open to going back to gfam.. till she heard that her family also thinks she is responsible for Neel and also that Abhimanyu does not even want to hear about her now .. that was a double blow probably and I don’t think she wanted to subject herself to that kind of trauma by placing herself in the midst of so many people who look at her as murderer and what is the guarantee that she will even get to keep her child in such a situation .. so although not the most practical decision, she decides to not go back .. but I will never understand or forgive Goenkas and bade papa for just returning without even seeing her just because she said she does not want to come back .. which father figure who is genuinely concerned does that? So everyone proved once again to her that she had no value in any of their lives although she lived for all these people and did her part so sincerely when any of them needed her .. I am sure she didn’t think through the how part of her decision .. but somehow Sbhinav stuck to her and they decided to marry for the kid after he was born..

I still feel bad that not a single person shows any mostly to her .. even Nav and Muskaan are like this is also right and that is also right as far as her treatment by Abhimanyu is concerned .. to me it feels a little like when you stay silent about the injustice , you become a party to it .. so they are both condoning Abhimanyu and thinking he had some justification on his part for treating Akshara the way he did? I don’t know .. but these are some instances where I find the goodness to be grating and too much .. if I was in her place I would have felt bad that even the guy who has seen my struggles thinks nothing much of it .. like it is just trivial and easily forgiven and lesser than bhaiji’s pain .. anyway .. about the financial

Situation etc I do understand it is a little difficult to really rationalise .. but I guess she wanted to do things by herself and her current circle .. and I agree again that I think she didn’t go back because she somewhere does hold herself responsible at least partially fit Neel and her child and also that she only brings pain to all of her near and dear ones .. she chose to remove herself from the picture so everyone else can lead a peaceful life..

I honestly don’t find Akshara that wrong except that I would have liked her to choose to tell Abhimanyu when his accident happened or when she came for surgery and to do it with grace and dignity without slinking around like some culprit .. although I understand her fear about disruption of Abhir’s life and her world that she so painstakingly built .. abd I wish she had learnt to communicate better …to be calmer in the face of adversity