Abhimanyu v/s Abhinav

First everything is went into opposite direction. I want to clear something. No one are saying Abhimanyu don't have any right on Abhir but the fact is he has to earn it. May be he can earn him by fighting Akshara, Abhinav, Mata, Aarohi, Ruhi etc etc. But he can't hold him for the long time if Abhir don't want. So he is badly trapped in his own anger. He have nothing to say if Abhir asked why he leave her mother? So please don't blame AK & Nav.

Second Abhimanyu has not right on AK. Stop this saying Nav is living his life. AK is legally married to Abhinav. They are couple.

Third more than Abhinav & Abhimanyu Akshara has complete right on Abhir. Only she can take decision for him. So Abhinav not hold any right if AK do not wanted to reveal it.

Exactly! AB need to earn it through his actions. For that he needs to realise his mistakes and should be able to control his anger first. You know like other's pain are also valid not just his and MJ's.But I don't have much hope for that tbh. As we all know when AK expressed her suffering over the years he showed two seconds of remorse then the next day plotted against her. And came with balloons to claim his rights. Nobody is denying his rights here. But this is not the way though. I hope some people understand this.

AB doesn't have any sort of right on someone else's wife. If anyone thinks he has any rights on AK and should claim it then you are expecting him to be a criminal at this point. And everything happend in the past is not Abhinav 's fault. He should be last one to be blamed for it. He just protected Ak and Abhir. But it has become a sin for many.

Originally posted by: Lavender25

Exactly! AB need to earn it through his actions. For that he needs to realise his mistakes and should be able to control his anger first. You know like other's pain are also valid not just his and MJ's.But I don't have much hope for that tbh. As we all know when AK expressed her suffering over the years he showed two seconds of remorse then the next day plotted against her. And came with balloons to claim his rights. Nobody is denying his rights here. But this is not the way though. I hope some people understand this.

AB doesn't have any sort of right on someone else's wife. If anyone thinks he has any rights on AK and should claim it then you are expecting him to be a criminal at this point. And everything happend in the past is not Abhinav 's fault. He should be last one to be blamed for it. He just protected Ak and Abhir. But it has become a sin for many.

He is just too good. I liked Abhinav because he is a sorted person. Usko pata hai kub kahan kitna kya bolna hai. He was trying to talk as he know how Abhimanyu feel but when Abhimanyu crossed his limit he would not listen him. Last time he gave back to abhimanyu when he wanted AK & now. It means ki beta main chha hun iska ye matlab nahi ki kisi ki bhi bakwas sun loonga.

It's actually AK who's saying that AbhiM has no right on abhir loud and clear and reiterating it any chance she gets....i agree with you that with abhiM having been absent from abhir life he needs to establish himself as abhir father but he can only do so if AK allows him...she seems to be adamant on keeping them as far as possible...nd the way to do that is being a good caring father for abhir...ak doesn't come into picture in this as long as both of them can behave civil

Obviously AK cannot suddenly introduce him as father .. she said he can be docman.. ideally he should have continued building on docman , May be twist her arm or talk to them about wanting to know Abhir better and after he grows up a bit more talk about the parental thing etc.. there are so many ways of doing it well .. she till date never stopped him from meeting Abhir even though she is scared about the truth .. Abhimanyu as always in his own world and not thinking a bit about anyone else .. he continues to be immature and egoistic in dealing with such a sensitive thing and is sort of in revenge mode by disrespecting Al and Nav , acting like that kid belongs only to him and taking unilateral decisions etc .. I hope he gets a good jolt soon from Abhir himself .. if he is so truthful let him tell the full truth to the child .. he should be thankful Akshara is not really manipulative like her sister or his mother .. else she could have brought that child up hating his father ..

Originally posted by: solembaum

Obviously AK cannot suddenly introduce him as father .. she said he can be docman.. ideally he should have continued building on docman , May be twist her arm or talk to them about wanting to know Abhir better and after he grows up a bit more talk about the parental thing etc.. there are so many ways of doing it well .. she till date never stopped him from meeting Abhir even though she is scared about the truth .. Abhimanyu as always in his own world and not thinking a bit about anyone else .. he continues to be immature and egoistic in dealing with such a sensitive thing and is sort of in revenge mode by disrespecting Al and Nav , acting like that kid belongs only to him and taking unilateral decisions etc .. I hope he gets a good jolt soon from Abhir himself .. if he is so truthful let him tell the full truth to the child .. he should be thankful Akshara is not really manipulative like her sister or his mother .. else she could have brought that child up hating his father ..

Abhimanyu knows this very well that Akshara doesn’t want him in abhir’s life except as docman/mausa that’s why he is bouncing like spring that already I have missed his 6 years of life due to whatever reason and now you are not allowing me to shower fatherly love on my child who belongs to me too alongs with you couple.

The thing is Akshara has to allow and accept Abhimanyu to shower love on abhir as a father keeping her trauma/grudges/pain everything a side for the sake of abhir.

As a mother, when I read here people writes like agar Abhimanyu abhir par haqq jayate toh abhir ko Abhimanyu kaisa hai woh pura sach batado uss bacche ko! I was like kaise log hai jo ek chote se 6 saal ke bacche ke dimag mai sach naam kachra/zeher daalna chahte hai. Yaha mai hu jo mere bete ko har ek negative baato se durr rakhti hu chahe woh orthodox saas ki ho yah dedhshani nanad ki ho.

Abhir ke fool se dimag mai zehrila sach daalne se acha hai , Akshara Abhimanyu ke sath apne bacche ke Khatir deal karle ki jitna fatherly love shower karna hai kare, abhir ke liye joint decisions le sakta hai uske and abhinav ke sath, jab chahe tab milne aa sakta abhir ko lekin uski age ko dhyan mai rakh kar usko yeh na bataye that he is his father. Agar Abhimanyu fir bhi batana chahe toh sab Mahadev par chod de.

Lekin aise he agar woh Abhimanyu ko abhir par as a FATHER love shower karne se, decisions mai participate karne se rokegi toh abhimanyu spring ke jaise aur zyada uchlega.

Ab sach ka khulasa ho gaya hai so Akshara chahe ya na chahe, usko middle ground lena hoga , co-parenting accept karna hoga, visiting rights dene hoge. Apne past/pain/grudges unn sab ko abhir se alag rakhna hoga.

Jab hum maa banate hai tab apne pain se uper uth kar bacche ke liye middle grounds lene padte hai. Aj ki duniya mai mostly divorcee kid wale couples isiliye middle ground he lete hai.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Today Abhimanyu was tying Mahadev chain on abhir’s neck because now he knows why this child is also Mahadev bhakt like him. Akshara was angry and all set to stop abhimanyu from tying Mahadev chain. It was abhinav who stopped her.

Abhimanyu knows this very well that Akshara doesn’t want him in abhir’s life except as docman/mausa that’s why he is bouncing like spring that already I have missed his 6 years of life due to whatever reason and now you are not allowing me to shower fatherly love on my child who belongs to me too alongs with you couple.

The thing is Akshara has to allow and accept Abhimanyu to shower love on abhir as a father keeping her trauma/grudges/pain everything a side for the sake of abhir.

As a mother, when I read here people writes like agar Abhimanyu abhir par haqq jayate toh abhir ko Abhimanyu kaisa hai woh pura sach batado uss bacche ko! I was like kaise log hai jo ek chote se 6 saal ke bacche ke dimag mai sach naam kachra/zeher daalna chahte hai. Yaha mai hu jo mere bete ko har ek negative baato se durr rakhti hu chahe woh orthodox saas ki ho yah dedhshani nanad ki ho.

Abhir ke fool se dimag mai zehrila sach daalne se acha hai , Akshara Abhimanyu ke sath apne bacche ke Khatir deal karle ki jitna fatherly love shower karna hai kare, abhir ke liye joint decisions le sakta hai uske and abhinav ke sath, jab chahe tab milne aa sakta abhir ko lekin uski age ko dhyan mai rakh kar usko yeh na bataye that he is his father. Agar Abhimanyu fir bhi batana chahe toh sab Mahadev par chod de.

Lekin aise he agar woh Abhimanyu ko abhir par as a FATHER love shower karne se, decisions mai participate karne se rokegi toh abhimanyu spring ke jaise aur zyada uchlega.

Ab sach ka khulasa ho gaya hai so Akshara chahe ya na chahe, usko middle ground lena hoga , co-parenting accept karna hoga, visiting rights dene hoge. Apne past/pain/grudges unn sab ko abhir se alag rakhna hoga.

Jab hum maa banate hai tab apne pain se uper uth kar bacche ke liye middle grounds lene padte hai. Aj ki duniya mai mostly divorcee kid wale couples isiliye middle ground he lete hai.

Akshara has to allow? Why? If someone leave u in tough situation because of some unfavorable circumstances then again behave like a despo will cannot be accept by anyone. She never said u can't love Abhir but u r not fit as father. The reason can she doesn't want any interference of her past life in her present, she doesn't want to hurt Nav, she don't want to explain all these things to Abhir. Jis tarah abhi ko pata chala hai Abhir ki bhi pata chal jayega to kuch bhi ho jaye wo ye to bardasht nahi karega.

Currently abhi behave like same person what AK thought. If he want to jamao haq then he have to realise his his mistake first, compassionate first then he can hold abhi warna abhir ko paane k chakkar main sub gawa dega. He have to learn balance his life. Kub kisko kitni priority deni hai ye to pata hi nahi hai. See last time he priorities Ruhi school test over Abhir checkup. Yes I know it was not his duty but if it not his duty then he shouldn't have fixed an appointment. Now he is ignoring Ruhi or some other surgery for his long lost beta. He have understand what he had lost due to his anger. Usko Abhir k liye kisi k samne gidgidane ki jarurat nahi hai. But he have to assure AK about not to worry. He would never snatch Abhir from her. He just wanted to the part of his life too as a real father without losing your HAQ. Kya itna bhi assurance nahi de sakta.

Originally posted by: Priyrabha

Akshara has to allow? Why? If someone leave u in tough situation because of some unfavorable circumstances then again behave like a despo will cannot be accept by anyone. She never said u can't love Abhir but u r not fit as father. The reason can she doesn't want any interference of her past life in her present, she doesn't want to hurt Nav, she don't want to explain all these things to Abhir. Jis tarah abhi ko pata chala hai Abhir ki bhi pata chal jayega to kuch bhi ho jaye wo ye to bardasht nahi karega.

Currently abhi behave like same person what AK thought. If he want to jamao haq then he have to realise his his mistake first, compassionate first then he can hold abhi warna abhir ko paane k chakkar main sub gawa dega. He have to learn balance his life. Kub kisko kitni priority deni hai ye to pata hi nahi hai. See last time he priorities Ruhi school test over Abhir checkup. Yes I know it was not his duty but if it not his duty then he shouldn't have fixed an appointment. Now he is ignoring Ruhi or some other surgery for his long lost beta. He have understand what he had lost due to his anger. Usko Abhir k liye kisi k samne gidgidane ki jarurat nahi hai. But he have to assure AK about not to worry. He would never snatch Abhir from her. He just wanted to the part of his life too as a real father without losing your HAQ. Kya itna bhi assurance nahi de sakta.

Akshara is Abhinav’s wife now. Ab usko kya lena dena ki ex-husband kitna balancing hai , kitna compassionate hai vagera vagera.

Abhimanyu and Akshara ka ekdusre ke life mai presence sirf aur sirf unn dono ke bacche abhir ke wajah se hai itna he rakkhna chahiye. That’s called co-parenting and visiting rights in between divorcee couple jo duniya mai divorcee couples with kid kar rahe hai.

Akshara ko kaha apne husband abhinav ko chod kar wapas Abhimanyu ko husband banana hai jo woh egotistic hai ki nahi, compassionate hai ki nahi, mamma’s boy hai ki nahi yeh sab nappa-tulla karne baithna hai.

Akshara apne fool se bacche ko Abhimanyu jaise aankh aadmi se bacha rahi hai. Uske nazar mein woh wahi aadmi hai jo apni 6 saal ki beti ke baare mein bhi bina soche , Akshara se apne pati aur bacche ko chodke uske paas aaneke liye bola. Ab aisi sanki aadmi ki paas koi bhi acchi maa apne bacche ko bhejna bilkul pasand nahi karegi.

Co parenting ka Matlab yeh thodi hai ki parent kaisa bhi ho uske paas bhej do aise hi. Compassion na Hona, anhpger issues hona personality disorders hain. Court bhi aise logon ko custody nahi deta. Woh kaisi maa hogi jo apne bacche ko insaan ke paas jaan bhuj ke bhej de?