Originally posted by: iheartChai
As much as we complain about the CVs/writers doing this and that. Sometimes they do show things in a subtle manner. Particularly the differences between how Roohi and Abhir are being raised. Not the just the physical and materialistic things such as the type of home and what type of toys, clothes, and things they own. But their fundamental understanding of right and wrong behaviors.
I do not doubt Abhi's love for Roohi. She has become one of the things that keeps him hanging on. But still contend there is mixture of burden due to Neil. The issue is Abhi's extreme attitude, over attention, and the almost immediate gratification of her ever want is what is setting Roohi unfortunately up for heartbreak and jealousy in her future. Her expectation has risen so high that one miss and she will crumble, cry, and be hurt.
As much as Mahima isn't the greatest parent either and she is most definitely a gray character. She usually tells the practical truth. Roohi is spoiled by Abhi, Manjari, and Arohi.
Examples:
1) She get pancakes with chocolate syrup (maybe this is a cultural thing but these types of breakfasts are usually reserved on the weekends and occasional where I come from)
2) She told Abhi he wasn't allow to make friends or if he was going to he would have to call her first
3) She doesn't like it when Abhi's attention strays on their video calls and throws mini attitude towards his way when he does
4) She wanted a notebook and Abhi immediately agreed. But because he was at conference she decided she could use Manjari's phone and attempt to order notebooks for herself which causes his card to get blocked for a few days
5) When she took Mahima's stethoscope and then threw it in the water. Now, Mahima should not have yelled at Roohi like that. She did wrong there but the way Manjari tries to brush Roohi's action aside by saying but she’s just a kid. Sorry, Roohi should not have taken the stethoscope and she should not have thrown it. I can look past the taking depending on where she found it. But the throwing not acceptable behavior. We never saw a scene where Roohi was told why her behavior was wrong and why should not do it again.
6) When she was sick because her mother was in the hospital Manjari offered all sorts of snacks to the child first. Understand the child won't eat and so they are trying to entice the kid with things she likes. But why not show the scene where real food is offered and gradually move to snacks and sweets?
There are more examples and if you look at the entirety of it you will start to slowly see they are showing Roohi is being raised by the Birlas to have unrealistic expectations and desires. Abhi has been overly excessive in his love. We have seen this behavior before from him. In the beginning he was like this with Akshu just before they got married and he was annoying the elder Birlas with his Akshu jaap. But in the end there was some re-balancing that happened so Abhi toned down his behavior.
We are going to see Roohi go through the same thing once Akshu and Abhir are in the picture again.Her jealous, insecurities, and tantrums will start.
We may have to agree to disagree on this subject but just trying to explain the point of view I am seeing this through.
there is stark differences between Ruhi and abhir. I don’t know if the differences are written with some thought.
- abhir has only one major tantrum moment wanting a separate bedroom. Akshara immediately puts her foot down, she didn’t use this to teach her son they have less money or small house, rather she took this opportunity to show how important his father is to them. Akshara is teaching values and not creating inferiority in him that he has less materialistically so should not have desires because that is not important and she doesn’t tell abhir how to make it up to abhinav, son knows how to thank his father.
- when abhi is going out of town, Ruhi acts like he is an object she owns don’t do this don’t do that and is feeling abandoned. Ruhi even tells arohi that she only shows maternal affection when abhimanyu isn’t around. So despite all the spoiling affection that is showered on her she is a very lonely insecure abandoned child.
- akshara is going out of town to udaipur to meet her extended family. Abhir is naturally curious and wants to meet them, but he doesn’t pester his parents on why he can’t go. Abhir has a understanding that he is a kid and decisions are made by parents that is the natural order, not in ruhi world she will throw a tantrum and she get what she wants so who is the final boss. Also abhir doesn’t feel insecure if akshara leaves, he even wishes her good luck, because he feels safe taken care of by his father alone. He lives in a 2 parent household with less people but he is not lonely, in ruhi world even if abhimanyu is physically there he is not giving the child the security she needs.
- abhir sense of identity and morality. There is no scene we are shown abhir is disappointed in his parents profession. Abhir knows how to come number 1, it is not an ego boost but to be the best you can. Akshara tells him no job is shameful as long as it is honest work. He wants to become a doctor to help his parents when they are sick, ambition that stems from love for his parents. Ruhi is told by ahimanyu she will be a doctor because that is what is expected of her, eventhough he knows she has no interest in studying or medicine. Where akahara is letting abhir discover his own future, abhimanyu is destroying ruhi natural abilities.
- abhir care for this parents. This is the starkest difference between them. Abhir is a nurturer, his parents give him selfless love and he knows how to give it back. Abhir putting the money in his father piggy bank to get him a new car, washing his father car after his misbehaviour, when akshara or abhinav are physically hurt he immediately goes in doctor mode, abhinav sweater is ripped he wants his father to wear new one. I know everyone assume abhir will go crazy when truth comes out, but the way he is written so far he defends his parents happiness. I can’t see him hurting either askhara or abhinav if anything he will only want to protect them more. Ruhi had one scene where she gave abhimanyu a scarf, and it felt like she was putting a noose around his neck not a gift. Ruhi cries over matashree which should be heartbreaking, but another tantrum throwing make empty promises moment, ruhi like arohi cries over loss not because she loves them but lets use this moment to get what I want. What ruhi wants like arohi is attention not love.
- how many scenes we have so far where roohi is asking for promises. Abhir doesn’t have any such scene. For all this hulla bulla about how akshara gave abhir a fake life, it is ruhi that lives in a fake world that is why she is always plugging for promises to keep her doll house from exploding. Arohi is given a scene where she is taking a promise from ruhi to always be on her side, like mom like baby, why would your daughter not be on your side. On the other side akshara and abhinav are not making promises to each other or to abhir, they have what they have, they are what they are, what will happen will happen, you can’t stop fate by asking promises.
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