Reality check: Platonic relationship Vs Fake Marriage

So its been more than a week of us watching Abhimanyu coparenting Roohi with Aru. Why Abhi has to pick sole responsibility of the child when they live in a joint family is not open to discussion at this juncture. I understand Abhimanyu made a promise to Neil on his death bed. And Abhimanyu's seriousness and intensity in any job that he picks is commendable and scary. Intensity and aggressive has a thin line in between.

while Akshara is living with Abhinav in a nuclear setup alone away from family. Their family equation with their son is adorable. While Nav is a friendly fellow who pampers and is playful with Abhir. Akshara is the driving force in the family. She manages the schedule of Abhir, the house, runs a jam canning business and is studying for law.

But in all this we cannot ignore the intimacy of the household. To bring up a baby is like a well oiled car and cannot be done with just anyone. Respect, trust are the main ingredients and if those are available love cannot be far away.

sometimes love is followed by trust n respect which strengthens Love and intimacy. And if not then love disappears in thin air.

Sometimes, trust and respect arrive before love. And when this happens love appears in a much stronger form for a couple. Especially when it comes with a baby project. Trust, respect, Love and intimacy are the four wheels of a proper happy family.

AKshara living with Nav for 6years bringing up Abhir while sharing a house and room with him and still showing they have no intimacy is as unrealistic as it can get.

Abhir is shown to be an intelligent child and his mother separates the bed at night and he never knew all his life? ITV drama can get unrealistic and illogical but don't we know how much an elastic can be stretched?

I would have preferred they had shown Ak living a married life not faking for the child. At least something in the kid's life would be real.

Abhir got fake father, fake name, fake family only because Akshara went into a shock after Abhi divorced her and she did not want to face her family.

But I guess this is what the writer want to mess with both the protagonists Abhi and Akshu.

Once the fake news comes out everyone will once again blame Ak for the trauma to the kid, to Nav, Abhi and complete clan of Gorillas. Noone can defend the magnitude of lie she has spread in 6yrs.

Abhimanyu's behavior was terrible and blamed on uncontrolled emotions, but Akshara's actions look well thought out, deliberate and aimed to hurt not just Abhimanyu but all of Birlas, even Goenkas who are kept away from loving and bonding with Abhir. Its a plan to hide her child from everyone but also deprive him of the love and his true legacy.

Its a crime worse than what Aarohi has ever done. And Abhimanyu Birla's aggression, madness, intensity, abuse, outburst seems minuscule in front of Akshara's camouflaged dollhouse family life which is a criminal activity since a child is involved.

It's scares the hell out of me to think how they are going to redeem both. Or one of them will have an upper hand and will be given a chance to roast the other.

Any thoughts?

Please indulge me here and post your comments.

Akshu has been very irresponsible. When she found out one of her children are alive and it’s still a high risk pregnancy, she should have gone back to her house, to the Goenkas, ti safety and a place where she and her unborn child would get the utmost care needed Instead she chooses that moment to be … “independent.” Isn’t that risky? Nav was practically a stranger and she chooses to put her and her high risk baby’s life in such uncertainty. Doesn’t make sense logically. Sure in the moment she was reeling and high on emotions. But afterwards she could have taken a rational decision.

Right now also she is playing God with her son. By depriving him of knowing his real father and family. Even in cases where parents divorce , it doesn’t give the right to one parent to separate the child from the other parent unless that latter parent has exhibited dangerous behavior.

(But atleast she is less worse than Naira who made all her loved ones mourn her death! Along with hiding her child.)

Both mother daughter are angry/disappointed in their husbands but they choose to punish everyone for it. Even their children.

Your last paragraph hits home for me, it is come down to does two wrongs make a right or does it. In order to legitimize abhimanyu abuse they have upped Akshara cruelty. I would say cruel because akshara knows in her heart of hearts that this illusion won’t last and in doing so she will hurt the two innocent people in this story. I can sympathize with Akshara initial reaction of shock but in these 6 years she never considered the consequences of her actions. She has created this fake world where nothing is legal and legitimate.

If akshara legally married abhinav then giving abhir abhinav last name and making her son believe that she is happily married in a traditional family unit isn’t a crime regardless of whether this marriage is romantic or not. If akshara owed loyalty to one person it is abhir her son, if she decided that another man to be his father she owed abhir legitimacy so that regardless of blood his existence is tethered to some truth.

So my question is why doesn’t akshara just marry abhinav if she is truly putting her past behind her, is it because she lost faith in the institution of marriage which can be erased with a pen and naive enough to believe her word is good enough to keep this doll house together. This compounds her stupidity even further, if she is studying law she should know words alone doesn’t win you a case.

Abhinav is an empath like akshara who lives for others so akshara thinks it is ok for him to sacrifice his life because that is what people like them do. But akshara forgets just because you can exploit someone doesn’t mean you should. How is she any different from arohi, akshara has found a more sinister method than arohi to accomplish her temporary goals. Akshara has even the nerve to ask him is he content in this fake marriage, just like how she shoved the birth certificate papers for him to sign, she puts abhinav in impossible situations where he has no choice but to comply because to say no I am not happy with these lies would not fit the sacrificing nature or abhinav character. Akshara is doing to abhinav what arohi did to akshara which is gas lighting,

So the future what grenades of accusation will abhimanyu lob at akshara will it stem from truth or hate and will akshara rejection of abhimanyu legitimize abhir abhinav bond father son bond. For a man to lose his wife is one thing, but to lose rights to his child is a blow to his ego. This fight is going to be who can sink the lowest or who takes the high ground. This relationship is not of equals, abhimanyu decides akshara must follow, when akshara decides abhimayu rejects.

Originally posted by: Illuminatus.

So its been more than a week of us watching Abhimanyu coparenting Roohi with Aru. Why Abhi has to pick sole responsibility of the child when they live in a joint family is not open to discussion at this juncture. I understand Abhimanyu made a promise to Neil on his death bed. And Abhimanyu's seriousness and intensity in any job that he picks is commendable and scary. Intensity and aggressive has a thin line in between.

while Akshara is living with Abhinav in a nuclear setup alone away from family. Their family equation with their son is adorable. While Nav is a friendly fellow who pampers and is playful with Abhir. Akshara is the driving force in the family. She manages the schedule of Abhir, the house, runs a jam canning business and is studying for law.

But in all this we cannot ignore the intimacy of the household. To bring up a baby is like a well oiled car and cannot be done with just anyone. Respect, trust are the main ingredients and if those are available love cannot be far away.

sometimes love is followed by trust n respect which strengthens Love and intimacy. And if not then love disappears in thin air.

Sometimes, trust and respect arrive before love. And when this happens love appears in a much stronger form for a couple. Especially when it comes with a baby project. Trust, respect, Love and intimacy are the four wheels of a proper happy family.

AKshara living with Nav for 6years bringing up Abhir while sharing a house and room with him and still showing they have no intimacy is as unrealistic as it can get.

Abhir is shown to be an intelligent child and his mother separates the bed at night and he never knew all his life? ITV drama can get unrealistic and illogical but don't we know how much an elastic can be stretched?

I would have preferred they had shown Ak living a married life not faking for the child. At least something in the kid's life would be real.

Abhir got fake father, fake name, fake family only because Akshara went into a shock after Abhi divorced her and she did not want to face her family.

But I guess this is what the writer want to mess with both the protagonists Abhi and Akshu.

Once the fake news comes out everyone will once again blame Ak for the trauma to the kid, to Nav, Abhi and complete clan of Gorillas. Noone can defend the magnitude of lie she has spread in 6yrs.

Abhimanyu's behavior was terrible and blamed on uncontrolled emotions, but Akshara's actions look well thought out, deliberate and aimed to hurt not just Abhimanyu but all of Birlas, even Goenkas who are kept away from loving and bonding with Abhir. Its a plan to hide her child from everyone but also deprive him of the love and his true legacy.

Its a crime worse than what Aarohi has ever done. And Abhimanyu Birla's aggression, madness, intensity, abuse, outburst seems minuscule in front of Akshara's camouflaged dollhouse family life which is a criminal activity since a child is involved.

It's scares the hell out of me to think how they are going to redeem both. Or one of them will have an upper hand and will be given a chance to roast the other.

Any thoughts?

Please indulge me here and post your comments.

This is the first post that has made sense to me in this leap and it explains exactly why I'm so upset with the makers.

You summed it up perfectly, both have done such horrendous acts that I don't even wish to see Abhira as endgame anymore. I actually want Akshara to stay away from Birlas and Abhi to have his own family with someone else.

I'm very sad that Abhi did what he did because I can't defend it. Even if he didn't throw Akshara out himself, he didn't think about her physical and mental health considering she just had a miscarriage. One can't blame Akshara for wanting to keep away from that family.

On technical terms, I'm more annoyed with the writers for doing this because I can't understand how fast Abhi changed in the span of 2 or 3 episodes.

I was all for Akshara until I saw leap episodes. My problem is that she is lying. @Bold You summed it up. I mean it's kinda pathetic to see her do this and quite shocking too considering she herself was lied to about her biological mum. Sirat never told her until she was 10 and that truth had a devastating impact on Akshara. Such was the impact that she never really recovered and I guess that explains her vulnerability and needy nature. So taking this into consideration, I feel even more uncomfortable with all this father jee nonsense because well, she clearly didn't learn from her own experience. Abhir is going to have hella trust issues in the future.

However, I believe people are letting Manajri go Scot free. She is the Kay Kay in this Ramayan.

Originally posted by: Gundamwing

Your last paragraph hits home for me, it is come down to does two wrongs make a right or does it. In order to legitimize abhimanyu abuse they have upped Akshara cruelty. I would say cruel because akshara knows in her heart of hearts that this illusion won’t last and in doing so she will hurt the two innocent people in this story. I can sympathize with Akshara initial reaction of shock but in these 6 years she never considered the consequences of her actions. She has created this fake world where nothing is legal and legitimate.

If akshara legally married abhinav then giving abhir abhinav last name and making her son believe that she is happily married in a traditional family unit isn’t a crime regardless of whether this marriage is romantic or not. If akshara owed loyalty to one person it is abhir her son, if she decided that another man to be his father she owed abhir legitimacy so that regardless of blood his existence is tethered to some truth.

So my question is why doesn’t akshara just marry abhinav if she is truly putting her past behind her, is it because she lost faith in the institution of marriage which can be erased with a pen and naive enough to believe her word is good enough to keep this doll house together. This compounds her stupidity even further, if she is studying law she should know words alone doesn’t win you a case.

Abhinav is an empath like akshara who lives for others so akshara thinks it is ok for him to sacrifice his life because that is what people like them do. But akshara forgets just because you can exploit someone doesn’t mean you should. How is she any different from arohi, akshara has found a more sinister method than arohi to accomplish her temporary goals. Akshara has even the nerve to ask him is he content in this fake marriage, just like how she shoved the birth certificate papers for him to sign, she puts abhinav in impossible situations where he has no choice but to comply because to say no I am not happy with these lies would not fit the sacrificing nature or abhinav character. Akshara is doing to abhinav what arohi did to akshara which is gas lighting,

So the future what grenades of accusation will abhimanyu lob at akshara will it stem from truth or hate and will akshara rejection of abhimanyu legitimize abhir abhinav bond father son bond. For a man to lose his wife is one thing, but to lose rights to his child is a blow to his ego. This fight is going to be who can sink the lowest or who takes the high ground. This relationship is not of equals, abhimanyu decides akshara must follow, when akshara decides abhimayu rejects.

To be very honest, if we are talking about the makers then technically, they upped Abhi's cruelty to pave way for this track and bring sympathy her way. Just few episodes before the leap, Abhi was a doting husband to Akshara and all that changed.

Exactly! Abhi and Akshara were divorced so how difficult was it for Akshara to happily move on in her life. Having a real marriage, living with her son who knew his parents got divorced and she remarried. Abhir would have the same amount of love for Abhinav as he does now but imagine what that child will have to go though once he finds out?

I hope during the custody drama, Abhir chooses Abhinav over both Akshara and Abhi. That will be a reality check for both.

Originally posted by: Noorain13

Exactly! Abhi and Akshara were divorced so how difficult was it for Akshara to happily move on in her life. Having a real marriage, living with her son who knew his parents got divorced and she remarried. Abhir would have the same amount of love for Abhinav as he does now but imagine what that child will have to go though once he finds out?

I hope during the custody drama, Abhir chooses Abhinav over both Akshara and Abhi. That will be a reality check for both.

ITV writers still not comfortable with FL moving on n getting married to someone else. They r ok with ML marrying or having a child but not vice versa. That's the reason we r seeing this stupid fake marriage n fake family setup. N akshara was a music therapist, after her initial shock n all they could have showed her move to bigger city like Mumbai or Delhi n then work hard to build her career. She could have provided better for her son. She could have pursued better jobs or any other degree. Abhinav might be from a village..but you need not go n settle with him in his same village. She should have atleast thought about abhir . I guess this is also writers twisted thinking. They want FL to struggle for her daily expenses by raising kid n all..where as ML n his family r super rich enjoying everything. When truth is revealed they will be more than guilty

Even though i don't follow on regular basis. It makes me wonder the show where ppl show how a family loves each other to the extent they can give life for each other on contrary shows one daughter is staying in some random unknown place and nobody bothered to check on her.

They all are happy with arohi and her kid instead of avoiding functions to say we can not celebrate when our daughter is no longer here. They all are okay to speak to abhi as if abhi was sane. They should atleast shown as ppl who will go and find their daughter and ask her ti attend atleast few functions or may be give respect to your so called fake jamai but rather they are so biased towards arohi they are worried abt her more than akshara.

This show is definitely does not represent any family. No family would be sane to celebrate when their daughter is away and just declared she married some random guy.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

Even though i don't follow on regular basis. It makes me wonder the show where ppl show how a family loves each other to the extent they can give life for each other on contrary shows one daughter is staying in some random unknown place and nobody bothered to check on her.

They all are happy with arohi and her kid instead of avoiding functions to say we can not celebrate when our daughter is no longer here. They all are okay to speak to abhi as if abhi was sane. They should atleast shown as ppl who will go and find their daughter and ask her ti attend atleast few functions or may be give respect to your so called fake jamai but rather they are so biased towards arohi they are worried abt her more than akshara.

This show is definitely does not represent any family. No family would be sane to celebrate when their daughter is away and just declared she married some random guy.

Rather than Abhi Akshara reunion, I'm looking forward how Gorillas will face her after all the things they did to her.

Leave abt birlas, the Goenkas are least concerned about her. See the last episode of pre leap they're happily celebrating instead of thinking about the daughter who left the home..

I completely agree with you. The amount of nonsense they are showing with respect to Akshara and Abhimanyu is unforgivable! I was heartbroken when Abhimanyu bursted on Akshara and spouted all the nonsense because even though there are a few mistakes she made, circumstances and others were more responsible for those repercussions more than herself. And he hit a new low when he kept throwing stuff around when she was continuously pleading him to stop, and sirat comment shouldn’t have been spoken at all! Considering all this she still tried contacting him coz he is the only one she trusted the most, even after he hurt her. Now looking at this point of view I think if Abhimanyu is deprived of the truth then no one else deserves the truth not Goenkas not Birlas. Abhi regrets all that he did but he also has a lot of pent up anger. Anger that stemmed from all that he lost, all that he could have had had Akshara been a little more careful (from his pov). This will all be addressed when the truth comes out.

Coming to Akshara, I have never hated her decisions so much! Not even when she decided to sacrifice her love for her sister coz it was atleast justified by the promise that haunted her all her life. But making Abhir call Abhinav father is a next low. Hiding from everyone can be justified. But all this fake life was a conscious decision to shut her past life off completely. If it were the old Akshara she would know that truth never hides. The old Akshara knows the consequences of lies. That is the reason for many conflicts between Arohi and Akshara. But this Akshara believes Arohi is right because she lost everything being herself and Arohi still got everything she wanted at the end. Thats why she is now striving to be number 1 like Arohi used to do and teaching her son the same. Akshara is completely lost. The main evidence is her loss of music.

Everyone is going to be hurt once the truth is out. But they can also get over it. Abhinav has been living a dream which he knows is not his. He is going to be hurt but it was his decision that he should be ready to face. Akshara is going to be hurt but she will also find herself. Abhi is going to be hurt but he will find something that he lost and always craved for. He will also see the true colours of everyone including his mom. Abhir will be the most hurt of them all because his life till now was a lie but come on he is six yrs old! How much do we remember what happened when we were six? They won’t suddenly announce Abhi as his dad but they will bond first and then the truth will come out which will make the blow softer!