I don't get how akshara and aarohi share a "toxic relationship"

Note- This is not an Aarohi support thread. This is a thread for solution of akshu and aarohi's sister problems and my understanding of abhimanyu's character.

From the beginning of the story, we've been shown that aarohi does not like akshu and has asked akshu to stay away from family for 3 years---- Aarohi 's immaturity. Is sisters living away a long term solution for the strained relationship between the sisters? None of the goenkas intervened.

I can't believe they are showing aarohi and akshara who are mature adults in late 20's dealing with teenage problems. The writers could have come up with a better plot than a sister blaming other sister for the death of their mother that happened so many years back and akshara for the sake of a promise is the overly good sister with no life of her own than to babysit her sister which is not the case at all. In real life, sisters may fight, they can even share a relationship like aaru akshu do ( me and my sister do - we are really irritated by each other's personality and fights used to be like hitting each other- but we do care deeply and stand by each other in tough times, hang out, spend family time together, it's like we dont like each other's personality and our not fan of each other but we are sisters end of the day and love each other) In aaru akshu also i see a similar relationship where aaru is shown to be extremely immature for a late 20's girl to blame other one for the death of her own mother and akshu is also extremely immature as elder sister show us the right path instead of backing us for stupid deeds. Both the girls lack common sense and need therapy. There problems are not something huge that cant be solved and can be easily be resolved if they visit therapist. They have everything - loving family ( as in the families celebrate with them in their happy occassions are also ready to back up their grave mistakes like hit n run so you can understand the extent of love n pampering the goenka girls get) Both the girls come across as super bratty. Despite getting everything, they are stuck up in stupid teenager issues of siblings. They behave like kids fight for stupid reasons. This sirat ma ki death tere wajah se hui and i will back you up because sirat ma gave me promises are extremely stupid things and these girl's life revolve around this. How stupid!! Cant believe girls in late 20's have nothing else to do, have not moved on from this incident. Late 20's is the age of securing finances, building independent life, finding loving partners( akshara sacrifcing for aaru is immature and aaru wanting abhi as if he is the only topper surgeon) In real life, even a cunning girl ( if she is evil like people in forum makes it) like aarohi would want to marry a successful surgeon but she would want the respect n love, like genuine appreciation by the other surgeon towards her that she is doing so well in life and is nice not just for her marks but personality too . No one would want to marry abhi just for the sake of top surgeon and he is handsome. Girls like aaru who is pretty n successful knows she deserve better than an abhimanyu who doesnt even know how to respect the relationship. It's good abrohi didnt happen, aarohi deserved better. 👍🏼 if a girl is bitchy and looking name fame money of a guy , she would also want the guy to pamper her like crazy. akshu aaru are not only ruining their lives with their cat fights despite having everything, they are also ruining the life of their grandparents who gave them such a beautiful life by doing kaands everyday.

Now comes the second part- a random guy who i met 2 months back comes in my life and interferes with the relationship i share with my sister, no matter how " toxic " it is by saying things like "meri akshu ka dil mat dikhana", " i wont let you steal akshu" , by potraying my sister like a vamp for her immaturity and stupid fights that happened with me or even if she is the worst sister ever and asking me why do i love my sister and prioritize her above him - i am straightaway gonna dump such a guy 👍🏼 This guy doesnt consider the possibility of grey in relationships and know that there is scope of every relationship to improve just like akshu aaru relationship has a lot of scope ( a bond between sisters is not something ordinary-it is something very deep) . Aaru was right when she said to akshu tht abhimanyu mujhe meri behein ko leke suna raha hai even though we can clearly see changes in aarohi- she was trying to move on from a broken marriage fiasco and even if she is not happy with akshu's wedding with abhi, she wasnt making a fuss out of it. I think abhi's words were definitely hurtful in tilak and mandir. She is a girl and needs to be talked to with respect. I get she manipulated to marry him but i dont think it so big a mistake that abhimanyu would actually make her a vamp. As a mature surgeon and someone who is senior to her, he should be the one to be sensible and look past her immaturity. Was a scene really needed at the mandir? He is indirectly triggering her more. He could have easily asked a family member to talk to her and politely ask her not to do these types of silly kaands like changing the wedding card. Turns out aaru didnt even do that kaand 🤣 The way he is talking to aaru even if she is the worst person is just not done. He is blaming her for everything. First he was using a girl as an object without thinking of how she would feel being in a loveless marriage( now dont tell me aaru is a mature adult - she herself agreed to such a proposal), and was after her own sister and he was ready to dump aaru just with akshara's one yes even after believing aaru saved him from and his career shows kind of a person he is. Doesnt he think of aarohi as a human being? All the time after her- he is treating her like a gold digger instead of an immature sali, why doesnt he have respect of the fact that she is younger to him? After whatever happened between aaru n abhi, abhi reallly needed to talk to her politely no matter whose fault it was and guide her like an elder brother how the relationship between the two would be unhealthy if they ended up marrying? Is it necessary for him to treat her like a vamp and shout at her? In such a situation i'd be sweet and explain the other person my reasons for backing out, explain that person to move on by saying the difference between obsession and love and tell the other person that you too deserve genuine love too happen to you instead of setlling with a guy who wont even love you. Even in tilak he told her " jija sali ka rishta waise hee rehne dena", "theek se rehna khush rahogi" as if its only aarohi's fault for the wedding to take place, even his own family members, his own mom wanted the marriage to happen between the two for the same reason that aaru wanted the marriage to happen that both of them are doctors. He was behaving like aaru is characterless and would be after him even after he is hitched to akshu and even shouted at her outside his hospital cabin Aaru told him right- mai aapki intern hu, deewani nai. This guy is so self obsessed i tell you 😵 what a great favour he was doing by marrying aarohi even though he too was using her for his maa!!

Aaru and akshu- both have been raised to be such bratty kids who run away from a hit and run and dont inform elders about such a huge thing even after knowing they've hit manjari,when it comes to hiding such things maturity comes inside both of them like a true criminal but khudke stupid issues ke liye they behave like kids. Akshu is praised to be so nice even though she supported her sister in covering up from a hit and run,informing abhi and his accepting the apology doesnt solve the case. Both sisters needed to come clean and this goenka family gives gyaan on sanksar- birlas are absolutely right. 👍🏼 Any family would be scared of taking in a bahu like that

They are not only ruining their lives with their cat fights despite having everything, they are also ruining the life of their grandparents who gave them such a beautiful life by doing kaands everyday.

Originally posted by: borntorule12

They are not only ruining their lives with their cat fights despite having everything, they are also ruining the life of their grandparents who gave them such a beautiful life by doing kaands everyday.

You don't have to be a child or teenager to be a in toxic or abusive relationship. Adults go through it all the time.

Related to this, I'm very disappointed that Abhi, who desperately wants the truth and honesty, doesn't actively look for it. I don't know if that's a part of his character sketch or the negligence of the writers but there are many matters that Abhi didn't investigate even when the truth was unknown.

Two prominent example:

1. Mahima knew about the bride swap but didn't tell anyone, in effect, causing the Tilak 1.0 Fiasco. He didn't investigate how that confusion happened nor was he honest about Aarohi deleting his messages. I understand that he didn't want to embarrass her in front of everyone but he could have shared that information privately with Akshu or Kairav, or talked to Aarohi about it later (explain yourself Aarohi).
2. The card kaand. Who did it? We don't know, especially because everyone there assumed it was Aarohi, no one investigated it.
   

The instances where I remember him being active about it is Manjari's accident and asking if Akshara did abandon him at the camp. I loved him in both these contexts because of how direct and thorough he is.

I understand why Abhi warned Aaru on the Tilak 3.0. I don't advise it because I think, if Akshu saw that happen, she'd be unhappy, but I'm not against it. I actually think his communication with Aarohi is far better and that's because he draws fine boundaries at every point.

I have come to a conclusion that I do not like aarohi and will probably will never like her. I did however give her a lot of benefit of doubts earlier - but now I outright ignore. Yesterday I skipped the entire police scene.

So I will not bother indulging into any conversation that relates to aarohi because they will be very biased hence I will refrain from talking about Aarohi.

Originally posted by: Baarish_Sim

Related to this, I'm very disappointed that Abhi, who desperately wants the truth and honesty, doesn't actively look for it. I don't know if that's a part of his character sketch or the negligence of the writers but there are many matters that Abhi didn't investigate even when the truth was unknown.

Two prominent example:

1. Mahima knew about the bride swap but didn't tell anyone, in effect, causing the Tilak 1.0 Fiasco. He didn't investigate how that confusion happened nor was he honest about Aarohi deleting his messages. I understand that he didn't want to embarrass her in front of everyone but he could have shared that information privately with Akshu or Kairav, or talked to Aarohi about it later (explain yourself Aarohi).
2. The card kaand. Who did it? We don't know, especially because everyone there assumed it was Aarohi, no one investigated it.
   

The instances where I remember him being active about it is Manjari's accident and asking if Akshara did abandon him at the camp. I loved him in both these contexts because of how direct and thorough he is.

I understand why Abhi warned Aaru on the Tilak 3.0. I don't advise it because I think, if Akshu saw that happen, she'd be unhappy, but I'm not against it. I actually think his communication with Aarohi is far better and that's because he draws fine boundaries at every point.

The card khaand at the pooja? I think ti was just a servant who saw the card and picked it up. So no one was paying attention and just placed everything there in front of Lord Ganpati.

Regardless, for someone who insists on the truth, he should've investigated and then apologized to the wrongfully accused. Likewise, Aarohi apologizes to the wrongfully accused (Akshara in Sirat's death). But neither thing happened. Both characters just went along believing what they wanted to, at their convenience.

Originally posted by: Baarish_Sim

Regardless, for someone who insists on the truth, he should've investigated and then apologized to the wrongfully accused. Likewise, Aarohi apologizes to the wrongfully accused (Akshara in Sirat's death). But neither thing happened. Both characters just went along believing what they wanted to, at their convenience.

All these characters are at their convenience in all honesty. Anyone not remotely butchered yet by the writers is because they are either so insignificant to the storyline or they have yet to be butchered 🤣

I dnt agree wid vrythng u said..... I thnk Aarohi's tretmnt of akshu is a bit mor dan harmles sister rivalry......

She causes damage 2 Akshu's mental health......but d thing is so does, Abhimanyu.......

and in my opinion, her relationship wid Abhi is more toxic dan d 1 she has wid Aarohi. Bcoz, ri8 nw she is replacing her abuser in aarohi with a much wrse & obsessed & toxic Abhimanyu.......

Aarohi's relationship wid akshu is to use her for aaru's benefits........not contrl akhsu.....whereas Abhimanyu is gonna force himself in2 vry aspect of Akshu's relationship.......the 1 she has wid her family....., her in laws.....even her job......(remember d music room).....he is keeping her on a tight leash.....

No doubt, Aarohi is a bully......but Abhimanyu is like Akshu's own personal jail warden or sumthng.....

Originally posted by: Baarish_Sim

Related to this, I'm very disappointed that Abhi, who desperately wants the truth and honesty, doesn't actively look for it. I don't know if that's a part of his character sketch or the negligence of the writers but there are many matters that Abhi didn't investigate even when the truth was unknown.

Two prominent example:

Mahima knew about the bride swap but didn't tell anyone, in effect, causing the Tilak 1.0 Fiasco. He didn't investigate how that confusion happened nor was he honest about Aarohi deleting his messages. I understand that he didn't want to embarrass her in front of everyone but he could have shared that information privately with Akshu or Kairav, or talked to Aarohi about it later (explain yourself Aarohi).

The card kaand. Who did it? We don't know, especially because everyone there assumed it was Aarohi, no one investigated it.

I think it was arohi only. Its just that it was not intentional. Basically a servant did something due to which it got swapped. They showed it arohi remembering that i guess. As far as i remember.

The instances where I remember him being active about it is Manjari's accident and asking if Akshara did abandon him at the camp. I loved him in both these contexts because of how direct and thorough he is.

I understand why Abhi warned Aaru on the Tilak 3.0. I don't advise it because I think, if Akshu saw that happen, she'd be unhappy, but I'm not against it. I actually think his communication with Aarohi is far better and that's because he draws fine boundaries at every point.

I think for abhi they have made him like a person who has gone through all this right from childhood. So he just forgets and move on than cribbing about it. Like he says he tells whatever is there in his heart. He is not a person to keep something and investigate about it unless its really important or doubtful. And he trusts the words of the people he adore or love. Like he was trusting arohi untill he got to know about her deeds.once the trust is broken its very hard for him to trust them again unless that person is so important to him.

1. Like when abhi saw a bracelet in his room he ensured to make akshu realize her mistake. But akshu was stubborn with her decision

2. When akshu saved him he tried to talk to her but when she said its for courtesy he accepted it.

3. When akshu said she does not love him he accepted it untill he realized it was all her sacrifice.

So to summarize.

1. He trusts peoples word.

2. He only investigates only when its too necessary for him to investigate

3. He ignores if that matter is no more important