I don't get how akshara and aarohi share a "toxic relationship" - Page 2

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

I think for abhi they have made him like a person who has gone through all this right from childhood. So he just forgets and move on than cribbing about it. Like he says he tells whatever is there in his heart. He is not a person to keep something and investigate about it unless its really important or doubtful. And he trusts the words of the people he adore or love. Like he was trusting arohi untill he got to know about her deeds.once the trust is broken its very hard for him to trust them again unless that person is so important to him.

1. Like when abhi saw a bracelet in his room he ensured to make akshu realize her mistake. But akshu was stubborn with her decision

2. When akshu saved him he tried to talk to her but when she said its for courtesy he accepted it.

3. When akshu said she does not love him he accepted it untill he realized it was all her sacrifice.

So to summarize.

1. He trusts peoples word.

2. He only investigates only when its too necessary for him to investigate

3. He ignores if that matter is no more important

1000% Your points are so well-written and I definitely agree.

He's emotionally scarred from his childhood and I think he relates to Akshu in the sense that they've both been used by others. Parth mentioned it earlier, the Birla elders placed a lot of pressure on their kids to turn out a certain way and I think Abhi comes close to that image because Harsh has used Manjari to emotionally (i don't want to use blackmail or manipulate cause I know that wasn't Manjari's intent) convince Abhi. Abhi as the reputable surgeon became an asset of the Birla's rather than their son and he's expressed the same a few times (feeling like a toy).

Originally posted by: NikhatNur

I dnt agree wid vrythng u said..... I thnk Aarohi's tretmnt of akshu is a bit mor dan harmles sister rivalry......

She causes damage 2 Akshu's mental health......but d thing is so does, Abhimanyu.......

and in my opinion, her relationship wid Abhi is more toxic dan d 1 she has wid Aarohi. Bcoz, ri8 nw she is replacing her abuser in aarohi with a much wrse & obsessed & toxic Abhimanyu.......

Aarohi's relationship wid akshu is to use her for aaru's benefits........not contrl akhsu.....whereas Abhimanyu is gonna force himself in2 vry aspect of Akshu's relationship.......the 1 she has wid her family....., her in laws.....even her job......(remember d music room).....he is keeping her on a tight leash.....

No doubt, Aarohi is a bully......but Abhimanyu is like Akshu's own personal jail warden or sumthng.....

Abhi has never been abusive to her. If he was possessive or obsessive he never would have accepted akshu's decisions.

In the end during wedding he did accepted that he is going to marry arohi and even ignored akshu's call. As that was akshu's decision.

If he was toxic he would have tortured akshu to choose him over aru. But in today's scene he somewhere knew that she might choose arohi if you look at the flashback. But he still wanted her to take a stand for herself. Akshu needed that as she need to realize her love for aru is ruining her relation with everyone including abhi and goenkas. She can not choose aru eveytime.

If he was toxic he would have made her guilty for the accident by reminding her again and again that she is wrong.( like how arohi did to akshu by constantly reminding her about sirath's death)

I respect your POV. But we should not call some one toxic without looking at the characters. I feel he is much better ML compared to other shows. If he was worse i would have left the show long back. In all other shows ML's are in realtion with some one else or some bachpan ka pyar and fls are getting tortured mentally but here abhimanyu is very clear from the beginning that it is just akshu that matters to him. I agree abhi aru track was irritating but we cant do much as trp audience would like these dramas. So makers are forced to come up with such track.

Originally posted by: borntorule12

Note- This is not an Aarohi support thread. This is a thread for solution of akshu and aarohi's sister problems and my understanding of abhimanyu's character.

From the beginning of the story, we've been shown that aarohi does not like akshu and has asked akshu to stay away from family for 3 years---- Aarohi 's immaturity. Is sisters living away a long term solution for the strained relationship between the sisters? None of the goenkas intervened.

I can't believe they are showing aarohi and akshara who are mature adults in late 20's dealing with teenage problems. The writers could have come up with a better plot than a sister blaming other sister for the death of their mother that happened so many years back and akshara for the sake of a promise is the overly good sister with no life of her own than to babysit her sister which is not the case at all. In real life, sisters may fight, they can even share a relationship like aaru akshu do ( me and my sister do - we are really irritated by each other's personality and fights used to be like hitting each other- but we do care deeply and stand by each other in tough times, hang out, spend family time together, it's like we dont like each other's personality and our not fan of each other but we are sisters end of the day and love each other) In aaru akshu also i see a similar relationship where aaru is shown to be extremely immature for a late 20's girl to blame other one for the death of her own mother and akshu is also extremely immature as elder sister show us the right path instead of backing us for stupid deeds. Both the girls lack common sense and need therapy. There problems are not something huge that cant be solved and can be easily be resolved if they visit therapist. They have everything - loving family ( as in the families celebrate with them in their happy occassions are also ready to back up their grave mistakes like hit n run so you can understand the extent of love n pampering the goenka girls get) Both the girls come across as super bratty. Despite getting everything, they are stuck up in stupid teenager issues of siblings. They behave like kids fight for stupid reasons. This sirat ma ki death tere wajah se hui and i will back you up because sirat ma gave me promises are extremely stupid things and these girl's life revolve around this. How stupid!! Cant believe girls in late 20's have nothing else to do, have not moved on from this incident. Late 20's is the age of securing finances, building independent life, finding loving partners( akshara sacrifcing for aaru is immature and aaru wanting abhi as if he is the only topper surgeon) In real life, even a cunning girl ( if she is evil like people in forum makes it) like aarohi would want to marry a successful surgeon but she would want the respect n love, like genuine appreciation by the other surgeon towards her that she is doing so well in life and is nice not just for her marks but personality too . No one would want to marry abhi just for the sake of top surgeon and he is handsome. Girls like aaru who is pretty n successful knows she deserve better than an abhimanyu who doesnt even know how to respect the relationship. It's good abrohi didnt happen, aarohi deserved better. 👍🏼 if a girl is bitchy and looking name fame money of a guy , she would also want the guy to pamper her like crazy. akshu aaru are not only ruining their lives with their cat fights despite having everything, they are also ruining the life of their grandparents who gave them such a beautiful life by doing kaands everyday.

Now comes the second part- a random guy who i met 2 months back comes in my life and interferes with the relationship i share with my sister, no matter how " toxic " it is by saying things like "meri akshu ka dil mat dikhana", " i wont let you steal akshu" , by potraying my sister like a vamp for her immaturity and stupid fights that happened with me or even if she is the worst sister ever and asking me why do i love my sister and prioritize her above him - i am straightaway gonna dump such a guy 👍🏼 This guy doesnt consider the possibility of grey in relationships and know that there is scope of every relationship to improve just like akshu aaru relationship has a lot of scope ( a bond between sisters is not something ordinary-it is something very deep) . Aaru was right when she said to akshu tht abhimanyu mujhe meri behein ko leke suna raha hai even though we can clearly see changes in aarohi- she was trying to move on from a broken marriage fiasco and even if she is not happy with akshu's wedding with abhi, she wasnt making a fuss out of it. I think abhi's words were definitely hurtful in tilak and mandir. She is a girl and needs to be talked to with respect. I get she manipulated to marry him but i dont think it so big a mistake that abhimanyu would actually make her a vamp. As a mature surgeon and someone who is senior to her, he should be the one to be sensible and look past her immaturity. Was a scene really needed at the mandir? He is indirectly triggering her more. He could have easily asked a family member to talk to her and politely ask her not to do these types of silly kaands like changing the wedding card. Turns out aaru didnt even do that kaand 🤣 The way he is talking to aaru even if she is the worst person is just not done. He is blaming her for everything. First he was using a girl as an object without thinking of how she would feel being in a loveless marriage( now dont tell me aaru is a mature adult - she herself agreed to such a proposal), and was after her own sister and he was ready to dump aaru just with akshara's one yes even after believing aaru saved him from and his career shows kind of a person he is. Doesnt he think of aarohi as a human being? All the time after her- he is treating her like a gold digger instead of an immature sali, why doesnt he have respect of the fact that she is younger to him? After whatever happened between aaru n abhi, abhi reallly needed to talk to her politely no matter whose fault it was and guide her like an elder brother how the relationship between the two would be unhealthy if they ended up marrying? Is it necessary for him to treat her like a vamp and shout at her? In such a situation i'd be sweet and explain the other person my reasons for backing out, explain that person to move on by saying the difference between obsession and love and tell the other person that you too deserve genuine love too happen to you instead of setlling with a guy who wont even love you. Even in tilak he told her " jija sali ka rishta waise hee rehne dena", "theek se rehna khush rahogi" as if its only aarohi's fault for the wedding to take place, even his own family members, his own mom wanted the marriage to happen between the two for the same reason that aaru wanted the marriage to happen that both of them are doctors. He was behaving like aaru is characterless and would be after him even after he is hitched to akshu and even shouted at her outside his hospital cabin Aaru told him right- mai aapki intern hu, deewani nai. This guy is so self obsessed i tell you 😵 what a great favour he was doing by marrying aarohi even though he too was using her for his maa!!

Aaru and akshu- both have been raised to be such bratty kids who run away from a hit and run and dont inform elders about such a huge thing even after knowing they've hit manjari,when it comes to hiding such things maturity comes inside both of them like a true criminal but khudke stupid issues ke liye they behave like kids. Akshu is praised to be so nice even though she supported her sister in covering up from a hit and run,informing abhi and his accepting the apology doesnt solve the case. Both sisters needed to come clean and this goenka family gives gyaan on sanksar- birlas are absolutely right. 👍🏼 Any family would be scared of taking in a bahu like that

Abhi has every right to stop akshu getting abused from her sister. If tomorrow they get married and if aru kills manjari akshu can not support arohi. Akshu should decide what she wants to choose her sister who never learns from her past mistake or her future.

There are so many people in real life who are living with toxic family members where some parents are using there kids as money vending machine. There is a fine line between what is accepted and what is not accepted.

Parents genuinely loving kids and kids giving them back for the love they got is accptable.

Parents just using their kids to satisfy their greed is other thing.

If parents belong to catgeory 2 then the spouse has every right to interfere. Because somewhere even blood relatives should understand they cant misuse something.

I agree to one point that thank god abrohi did not happend 😆 arohi never deserved abhi and she never loved him. It was just her obsession to become number 1 that led to all this. In future if she would have married abhi and due to some illness if abhi falls sick she would have left him royally to die to find some other number 1.

I do not hate arohi. I am just waiting for her to turn positive. But that does not mean she is doodh peethi bacchi. She is not career oriented women. I have never seen her doing anything in hospital or even for md she took short route than putting her efforts that shows her obsession to achieve something quickly so that she can win the race. Her obsession is not her career. But her positiom of being number 1.

And not to forget arohi is emotionally manipulating akshu right from childhood. Akshu respects realtioms more than herself. Thats the major flaw which aru used to get all the things from akshu.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

i do not see abhimanyu as toxic. There is a difference between possessive and obsessive and abusive.

Abhi has never been abusive to her. If he was possessive or obsessive he never would have accepted akshu's decisions.

In the end during wedding he did accepted that he is going to marry arohi and even ignored akshu's call. As that was akshu's decision.

If he was toxic he would have tortured akshu to choose him over aru. But in today's scene he somewhere knew that she might choose arohi if you look at the flashback. But he still wanted her to take a stand for herself. Akshu needed that as she need to realize her love for aru is ruining her relation with everyone including abhi and goenkas. She can not choose aru eveytime.

If he was toxic he would have made her guilty for the accident by reminding her again and again that she is wrong.( like how arohi did to akshu by constantly reminding her about sirath's death)

I respect your POV. But we should not call some one toxic without looking at the characters. I feel he is much better ML compared to other shows. If he was worse i would have left the show long back. In all other shows ML's are in realtion with some one else or some bachpan ka pyar and fls are getting tortured mentally but here abhimanyu is very clear from the beginning that it is just akshu that matters to him. I agree abhi aru track was irritating but we cant do much as trp audience would like these dramas. So makers are forced to come up with such track.

Thnk u 4 rspctng my POV...I called Abhimanyu toxic by lukng @ his chrctr. I dnt want 2 compre him wid oder show leads. Accrdng 2 me Abhimanyu is abusive.....he physically abused/manhandled her wen he ws getng engegd 2 aarohi......

Pushng her 2 chuse btw her family & him, all d tym & figtng wid her wen she doesn't chuse him is emotional abuse........he even thrtnd 2 kill himself....way mor emotional abusive Dan aarohi

Aarohi is a bully......Abhimanyu is a brute.....

Dese thngs r enuf 4 me 2 see him as abusive & toxic.....

U might hv a higher threshold of wat is considered as abusive..... I use d same lens 2 like at all characters...... And accrdng 2 dat abhi & aaru r horrble ppl 2 hv in lyf.......

I respct ur POV but don't agree wid. Let's disagree.....😊