What attracted me initially to his character was his straight forwardness, honesty and devotion to akshara but with each new episode we got to see new shades of abhimanyu making him a character with 50 shades of grey ... Others may disagree as i know there are a lot of abhimanyu fans.. i will talk about his positives too...
1) He couldn't take NO for an answer and his rejection - A biggest flaw in a man is his inability to handle rejection and his MCP attitude. I get his feeling of hurt and that akshara kind of gave him mixed signals but there are a lot of scenarios like that in real life and people handle it with utmost dignity. You can love people from a distance too , there is nothing to be terribly upset about it. Even naira rejected kartik initially despite them knowing each other since a long time . Kartik accepted it by telling her graciously that she taught him love, it doesn't matter whether she loves him back or not, he will keep on loving her. It doesn't matter whether other person reciprocates our love or not - our love doesn't lessen but what did Abhimanyu did instead? I know this is the most talked about topic he chose to move on with the same sister of the girl he loves.. he gave her pain despite her constant help to him like birthday celebration and came and saved his name..instead of appreciating that gesture he became more angry considering it as a mixed signal ...it is the most humiliating thing to do that you know someone has feelings for you and due to whatever reason they are rejecting but in return you torture her by getting married to her sister itself and causing her life long pain..
2) His reason for getting married was as lame as a dog suddenly started barking.. he said he wants to get married for ma ki khushi.. he was ready to treat a girl like an object... He very well know what loveless marriage is like and resents his father for not loving his mother, yet he chose to ask aarohi for such a marriage...no matter what aarohi did... In no ways was Abhimanyu's proposal a decent thing to either of the sisters... And what made him think his mother would be happy with him treating aarohi like an object after marriage? Her son being in an unhappy marriage would definitely suffocate manjari more .. or don't tell me he was ready to do a fake show in front of the family when it comes to pujas, festivals with Aarohi.
Every girl deserves a guy who loves her and if not love respects the marriage - but he was behaving like a typical jerk by being involved with her sister .. he expected akshara the same girl whom he knows loves her family a lot and for the same reason of family rejected him would suddenly speak up for abhimanyu by saying i want to marry abhimanyu while Abhimanyu's marriage rituals was going on with Aarohi ..what made him think like a girl like akshara would speak up for him by going against the same sister whom he knows she loves a lot?? He wasn't even ready to offer aarohi a bike ride despite thinking she saved him from fire and all..isn't he being selfish?? Just because he is in love with akshara he is depriving his would be wife or basic things?
All those maa aayegi ki toh shadi karunga on his wedding day and all that crap , it's like a 2 year old boy is talking.. he could have easily convinced his mom he doesn't want to get married and he is okay the way he is living since these many years.. he doesn't really need any support as he is doing quite well professionally .. a lot of surgeons choose to remain unmarried due to lack of time for personal life.. but he was behaving as if he is being made to do something out of so much torture...
3) He didn't own up his mistake of bringing Aarohi's proposal properly or felt guilty... He was resenting aarohi just for the sake of a stupid fire incident truth she hid but in return she was subjected to all sorts of humilation..what he did was far more worse than what aarohi did, yet there was no genuine apology on his part.. a man who claims to love me but chooses to move on with my sister is not an ideal man in my eyes .. he knew the pain akshara was going through and at the end when he discovers akshara saved him, he dumped all blame on her for hiding this stupid fire incident truth instead of asking apology for getting married to her same sister and hurting her..which proves he is self righteous...he thinks he can do whatever he wants...
4) He didn't behave in a dignified manner with bade papa... He knew bade papa is not okay with abhira meeting after this fiasco happened but instead of waiting and showing patience kept on finding ways to meet akshara.. i know it was both sided..but i think in such a situation you should respect your elders.. when you know such a big kaand has happened in family... Yet he openly threatened bade papa that they will run away if he doesn't agree for the alliance
5) He doesn't respect elders at all....the way he talked to mahima because manjari fell ill when that kheer incident happened is not at all done...such situations happen in family but that doesn't allow children to talk to elders like that.....a lot of family feuds happen in real life but that doesn't mean kids interfere.. in fact opposite should be done to calm such situations...he is indirectly making everyone's akshara enemies ..he has gone totally mad in her love to think rationally.
5) abhimanyu doesn't respect Akshara's career if akshara isn't his.. If he really believed in music therapy then how could he ask akshara for rejecting music therapy offer by mahima? Who was he to interfere in akshara's decision.. he knew well it's a good opportunity for her, yet he chose his own peace by saying don't come because I won't like you around me.. as if he wouldn't see akshara as his saali for the remaining time...and now when akshara is his he is proudly flaunting music therapy and all.. not even consulting his family members and gifting her a department.. it shows he was desperate to get Akshara anyhow...akshara is just like a trophy wife to him..
6) his way of speaking with his father - no matter what we ain't suppose to speak to our parents like that ..
7) i don't know how people are liking his jealousy...i actually find it cringey... A man not able to handle other men appreciating his wife's music or even a small kid.. then what is the purpose of him gifting her such a department? If he doesn't want his wife to be appreciated in her career.. he is so weird in this aspect.. it means akshara isn't allowed to meet guy friends after marriage ..such possessiveness in a man is not good ...it shows his insecurity on the love.. in real life too it does a lot of damage ..
8) he is way too obsessed with akshara...he is going overboard..
9) i don't like his maa jaap too 🙏 i wonder if he was ready to get married for maa ki khushi, if maa asks him for kids would he start forcing akshara for that too 🤣
10) anger issues and tod phod karna of random objects in house and in public ... It's a sign of mental illness..
11) his expectations of akshara prioritising her own family over a dude she met few months ago ..
Now let's come to the positives
1) His confidence on his skills..
2) His dignity in respecting akshara's boundaries
3) He is doing things for Akshara's wishes even if he doesn't like them
4) his care and concern for her..
But I'll be honest... It's his flawed nature that has made me hooked to him and hope to see positive changes in him.. i am sure some things will change like anger issues where akshara will make him calm , he will slowly start learning to value and respect his relations, I'm sure a possessiveness track too will come where he will realise love is not possession, he will start respecting aarohi too i guess in future
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