Is it necessary to live with your parents

Manish Goenka has his own reasons to keep Akshara away from the repeat and rinse of everything what happened when his son and daughter in law were alive. Fair enough.

What is Manjiri going to loose if his son shifts to another house altogether?

Abhimanyu as it is spends 15 to 16 hours in his work place.

Manish only wanted the couple to have a peaceful life.

I wanted to see the dynamics between husband and wife after they married in a nuclear family set up.

There's no harm in living a separate house for the sake of everyone's sanity,but alag ghar mein rahenge toh drama kahaan se hoga??😆

I believe Manjari doesnt mind Abhi moving out and living separately with akshu.

It's Abhi who wants to take his mom along with him, Nd i can understand why. Harsh really doesn't know how to treat her well and Abhi is the only one whose stand for Manjhari is effective against Harsh's ego and temper.

I am liking the current stand that all 4, i.e. Manish, Abhi, Akshara and even Manjhari is taking rn...all are right in their position.

Manjari can't leave Harsh now....not that it's ryt for her to continue suffering from Harsh. But it's not the right time. If she leaves now...its Abhira's relationship that will be under scrutiny...

She shud have either sorted things with her husband earlier or shud do it later....escaping from Harsh now under the pretext of Abhira's relationship just seems so unfair. So i am glad she decided not to.

Hopefully there will be mutual understanding in this matter and Harsh grows respectful towards the women in his family/life.

Interesting post😆 I really dont understand indian marriages and the dialogues they throw in movies and shows.

If girl has to leave her entire family why cant men do the same.

It's really unjustice for girl's parents if they have only have girl childs.. the society make it look like you will die in hell for raising a girl child.

Men always have an advantage over girls as they will live with their family from birth to death where as girl has to adjust to new environment.

After marriage girl end up taking more responsibilties and guy will enjoy his life in luxury may be by taking some responsibilities.. but girl will have to leave her family learn skills needed to maintain household and work outside 🙄

But i really hate this reality and i cant even imagine leaving my parents for some family as being introvert its hard for me to adjust.. what was so different men did in the past that they have these boon 😔😑

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

Interesting post😆 I really dont understand indian marriages and the dialogues they throw in movies and shows.

If girl has to leave her entire family why cant men do the same.

It's really unjustice for girl's parents if they have only have girl childs.. the society make it look like you will die in hell for raising a girl child.

Men always have an advantage over girls as they will live with their family from birth to death where as girl has to adjust to new environment.

After marriage girl end up taking more responsibilties and guy will enjoy his life in luxury may be by taking some responsibilities.. but girl will have to leave her family learn skills needed to maintain household and work outside 🙄

But i really hate this reality and i cant even imagine leaving my parents for some family as being introvert its hard for me to adjust.. what was so different men did in the past that they have these boon 😔😑

I understand your POV. But that is the correct thing! When a girl enters a new house she will be able to easily adopt the new family as hers and within no time she will become the head of household. She will be the decision maker eventually in that house, husband mostly takes care of business whereas wife takes care of home and children. If husband leaves the family and come to his wife’s house. The dynamics will be ugly when that wife has a brother or someone. In every family the son will be the future and will inherit all the responsibilities and also the heritage.

Originally posted by: Vaish.5

I understand your POV. But that is the correct thing! When a girl enters a new house she will be able to easily adopt the new family as hers and within no time she will become the head of household. She will be the decision maker eventually in that house, husband mostly takes care of business whereas wife takes care of home and children. If husband leaves the family and come to his wife’s house. The dynamics will be ugly when that wife has a brother or someone. In every family the son will be the future and will inherit all the responsibilities and also the heritage.

I have seen many girls who sacrificed her future which was better than her husband just because they were unable to manage work and family and kids responsibilities single handedly. And what i have heard from colleagues is that now the society has changed girl has to work equally like boys inorder to ensure that we secure enough money for future as in future cost of living would be really high.if we have buisness which is going well we can still survive but people like me who is dependent on corporate job have to face difficulties.So i have seen many people juggling between multiple things at my workplace and one of my closest friend resigned recently because she wanted to focus on her kid as her inlaws were not supportive enough to take care of her kid.

I am an ambitious person i would definitely want to prefer my work over anything 😄 i am not a person who will be interested in being a head of home as that's not i am good at i like my work more than what people expect a girl to do after marriage.. my brain only works on that area in which i am interested in🙂 that's why i really don't understand this dynamics of going out of my comfortness and adjusting there as i feel i am not meant to do that 😄

And i am not saying girl staying in boy's house is wrong but expecting girl to do everything and even take care of her inlaws when her own parents are sitting somewhere taking care of themselves is wrong. It should be equal either all the parents should stay at one place and both kids should take care or none of them should stay with kids 😄 but my thoughts are different and i might be biased as i have heard people mocking my dad for having girl child. Which has affecte my mind set. So just put my pov here. 🙂

Note : we don't have any close relatives due to different reasons and my parents stay alone. I am really worried about my parents and people expect me to take care of some one's else parents looks wrong to me 🙂

I also understand in earlier decades people used to have 5 to 10 kids and we can atleast expect 1 male child in that but now due to 1 or 2 kids logic girl parents had to learn to live alone 😔 their only mistake was they gave birth to girl child. The society will make it look like they are sinners. Think about girl parents who had to stay away from their child after marriage where as some men choose to leave their parents to settle in abroad where as girls still crave for their parents. I wish the girl should have that boon of taking care of their parents than men.

Sorry for the long post 😄 but i wanted to justify why i think that it's wrong.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

i completely understand this dynamics when girl is less ambitious and is okay to sacrifice her future as she is more of family oriented person or girl's parents has a male child.

I have seen many girls who sacrificed her future which was better than her husband just because they were unable to manage work and family and kids responsibilities single handedly. And what i have heard from colleagues is that now the society has changed girl has to work equally like boys inorder to ensure that we secure enough money for future as in future cost of living would be really high.if we have buisness which is going well we can still survive but people like me who is dependent on corporate job have to face difficulties.So i have seen many people juggling between multiple things at my workplace and one of my closest friend resigned recently because she wanted to focus on her kid as her inlaws were not supportive enough to take care of her kid.

I am an ambitious person i would definitely want to prefer my work over anything 😄 i am not a person who will be interested in being a head of home as that's not i am good at i like my work more than what people expect a girl to do after marriage.. my brain only works on that area in which i am interested in🙂 that's why i really don't understand this dynamics of going out of my comfortness and adjusting there as i feel i am not meant to do that 😄

And i am not saying girl staying in boy's house is wrong but expecting girl to do everything and even take care of her inlaws when her own parents are sitting somewhere taking care of themselves is wrong. It should be equal either all the parents should stay at one place and both kids should take care or none of them should stay with kids 😄 but my thoughts are different and i might be biased as i have heard people mocking my dad for having girl child. Which has affecte my mind set. So just put my pov here. 🙂

Note : we don't have any close relatives due to different reasons and my parents stay alone. I am really worried about my parents and people expect me to take care of some one's else parents looks wrong to me 🙂

It is not everyone's case.

After marriage everything changes for women and men. Thay become partners in everything whether it is financial thing or mental thing. They share everything. Whether we stay in a nuclear family or in joined family that homes mood depends upon the head of the hous that is the woman in the house. Whether she is working or not working.

And to stay in joint family it is our culture. We can move out with the help of parents not like in the show like my in law asked me to to move out of house then only marriage will happen it is wrong. It is the couple decision where to stay after mrg.

And taking care of family concern we can take care of them where ever we stay. Ya it is bit difficult to manage when we stay away from wife's family.

And the idea to stay with both parents is really bad idea😆. Because then there will be only drama. It I'll be more headache than the tv drama. Because two families are two different dynamics and they can't adjust with each other.

Originally posted by: Maneetlover123

It is not everyone's case.

After marriage everything changes for women and men. Thay become partners in everything whether it is financial thing or mental thing. They share everything. Whether we stay in a nuclear family or in joined family that homes mood depends upon the head of the hous that is the woman in the house. Whether she is working or not working.

And to stay in joint family it is our culture. We can move out with the help of parents not like in the show like my in law asked me to to move out of house then only marriage will happen it is wrong. It is the couple decision where to stay after mrg.

And taking care of family concern we can take care of them where ever we stay. Ya it is bit difficult to manage when we stay away from wife's family.

And the idea to stay with both parents is really bad idea😆. Because then there will be only drama. It I'll be more headache than the tv drama. Because two families are two different dynamics and they can't adjust with each other.

It's hard for me to imagine staying without them

What they can do is, show us a nuclear setup for sometime and then come to joint setup for drama.

Initially in nuclear setup they can enjoy their honeymoon period.