Love love love the replies to this post! 👏
Pretty much everyone's said what I was thinking about Kaira when I first read the original post. Them getting preferential treatment by the writers, them never realizing or acknowledging or fixing their mistakes, and them not having any progress at all. They take one step forward and then one-hundred steps backward.
Just one thing I'd like to point out.
Originally posted by: notyourbarbie
5 years and Gayu didn't realize that Samarth is a jerk? Is Gayu that dumb? If she is that dumb, what does Naira have to do with it? It is only Gayu's fault. I know what emotional abuse is. That is why I asked why doesn't Gayu divorce Samarth. You are the one who justifies her act of still staying with Samarth.
@Bold: The fact that you put these two sentences together one after another proves that you have no idea what domestic/emotional abuse is. I bet you're the kind of person who asks women in abusive relationships that why didn't they just leave....
Let me give you a glimpse into what emotional abuse, gaslighting, and guilt-tripping looks like. The abuser makes claims that the victim is reading too much into a distressing situation, that they are over-reacting, and they are looking from the wrong point of view. The end result is that the victim ends up believing that their pain, discomfort, and unhappiness is their own doing instead of the abuser's. This traps them in a cycle of abuse where the perpetrator keeps manipulating them and the victim finds no escape. Either they internalize the abuse or one day, it all explodes in the way we saw Gayu's outburst.
I live in the US and even here, where women living alone and working independently is a norm, where married couples usually don't live with nosy parents (or in-laws), women who are trapped in an emotionally abusive marraige have a very hard time leaving. They need lots of help from their friends, from counselors and therapists, and sometimes even the police before they find the courage to leave. Then can you imagine how difficult it is for Gayu to leave? She is not financially independent, she does not have another home other than Goenka Villa and Singhania Sadan, and her only close family are the people that will most likely stop her from leaving and will urge her to compromise with Samarth because divorce is a no-no. She has no close friends who would be in her corner, no access to therapists or counselors, and no means to fight such a long battle of divorce/custody against the powerful rich Goenkas. You might say that she can take Naksh's help, but do you really think he (or any other Singhania member) would unequivocally support her to leave that toxic household? The Singhanias (and even Rama Dadi if she is around) are likely to encourage her to adjust, compromise, and apologize and just continue living there.
If getting out of an abusive relationship were as easy as you put it, then we would not have such a huge problem of women (and men) staying trapped in abusive relationships and requiring years of therapy to build any form of self-confidence and independence. I've only scratched the surface here. Do some proper research about domestic/emotional/verbal abuse and its long-lasting effects on victims before you pass any judgments about people who choose to stay in an abusive relationship (either fictional or real).
Edited by Aditii - 4 years ago
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