why this distinction......why this double-mindedness

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ParinConnects

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Posted: 11 years ago

No i am nt blaming anyone here...not atleast the singhania's...

But i am blaming the viewpoint which was potrayed in today's episode...

I am still not geting when it comes to remarriages why you always expect that a women should not have any kids...and if she has she shouldnt make them a part of her new family...y so?? But on the other hand you expect that she accepts your whole family...y??

Today d same hapened with Naman and Muskaan...i knw what they did was wrong but Singhanias atleast plz understand them...their situation...they have gone through a lot in their life... they stayed away from their mom since many years and now if they want to spend their lyf with her whats wrng in dat.. .just becoz they arent blood related...

Wow...and u expect that Devyani on the other hand acepts your family whole heartedly...

By killing your heart only how can u gv love to someone else...and this is the situation of Devyani right now even though she doesnt show up...

Just wanna ask why this distinction...why this biasedness...why this double mindedness...

Edited by ParinLyksShakti - 11 years ago

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Amina

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Posted: 11 years ago

Exactly the same question most of us here have.. why this double standars?
First they were gonna call off the wedding when they found out Devyaani got kids then they went through it because they found out her kids doesn't live with her but no one ever thought that Rajbanna also got kids who lives with him. They got problem to accept a women with kids but they expect the women to accept the men and his kids. Why is this sex discrimination?

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Christine

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Posted: 11 years ago

Even am shocked with what the CVs are showing.
I dont understand what message are they trying to convey😕😕😕..

Yes I know no one can replace your mother but...RESERVED
Good stepmothers and her kids should get that kind of treatment...AMAZING..👏👏👏

These things are very common especially in the old orthodox
and conservative family but not now...

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ParinConnects

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Posted: 11 years ago

No dnt be shockd wid the cvs becoz here they r potraying the real face of society...

I would add a personal point here...when talks of my mom's remarriage was going on this issue to came up...some people rejectd my mom just becoz she already had a daughter and sme said they wil acept her nly if she keeps her daughter with grandparents ...

M actualy able to relate to Naman and Muskaan today... they arent at fault bt the fault is of what our society is thinking...

And we need to change it

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DwarfStars

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Posted: 11 years ago

I don't think there's any double standard or hypocrisy being shown here.

Before marriage, Devyani knew that if she marries RB, she'll have to accept Naitik, Rashmi and all other members of the family as much a she'll accept RB in her life. There was no pressure on her to accept the proposal of the Singhanias, it was a decision she took on her own, willingly.

However, when it comes to RB and the other Singhanias, all they knew about Devyani before marriage was that she was not in contact wth her children and that they'll never be a part of her life because they never have been. However, suddenly we see her kids coming out of nowhere and forcing themselves on the Singhanias and lying to stay at their mansion forever. In this case, even if the Singhanais don't intend to take Naman and Muskan under their wings, there's nothing wrong in it. They owe no responsibility towards them.

Yes, had Singhanias known that Naman and Muskan being an integral part of Devyani's life would move in with her after marriage and had refused to get RB married for this very reason or had they refused to accept Naman and Muskan as their responsibility, denying them shelter, I would have called them hypocrites.

But that's not the case here. This scenario is totally different and asking the Singhanias to accept Naman and Muskan so soon according to me is asking too much fro them. Moreover, they haven't been restricted from meeting their mother. All Singhanias want right now is that Naman and Muskan must stay with their grandfather right now and give them time to come to terms with this strange situation.

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-Maryam

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Posted: 11 years ago

If she had kids. She had them. Why did they not stop the wedding if they had such an issue? That's what devyani was expecting too and that is why she wanted them to know the entire truth.They should have been prepared to face the consequences. If they couldn't deal with a woman with a past. This marriage should've never happened.

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-Maryam

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Posted: 11 years ago

Lying is lying.. Akshara is pissed coz they lied.. Due to the situation akshara has lied too, that too many times. So why akshara why? 😕

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Safiqa

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Posted: 11 years ago

I really don't get it why are they all so angry on Naman Muskaan...that was not even a proper lie...they did go to visit their grandfather and their grandfather was going somewhere...all they did not mention to their grandfather was they were going to stay with him, but didn't Naman clarify it that they didn't want his grandfather to leave his work...
they wanted to stay with their own mother, isn't that so obvious and normal...
Akshara was biased today

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noor321

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: DwarfStars
I don't think there's any double standard or hypocrisy being shown here.
Before marriage, Devyani knew that if she marries RB, she'll have to accept Naitik, Rashmi and all other members of the family as much a she'll accept RB in her life. There was no pressure on her to accept the proposal of the Singhanias, it was a decision she took on her own, willingly.

However, when it comes to RB and the other Singhanias, all they knew about Devyani before marriage was that she was not in contact wth her children and that they'll never be a part of her life because they never have been. However, suddenly we see her kids coming out of nowhere and forcing themselves on the Singhanias and lying to stay at their mansion forever. In this case, even if the Singhanais don't intend to take Naman and Muskan under their wings, there's nothing wrong in it. They owe no responsibility towards them.

Yes, had Singhanias known that Naman and Muskan being an integral part of Devyani's life would move in with her after marriage and had refused to get RB married for this very reason or had they refused to accept Naman and Muskan as their responsibility, denying them shelter, I would have called them hypocrites.

But that's not the case here. This scenario is totally different and asking the Singhanias to accept Naman and Muskan so soon according to me is asking too much fro them. Moreover, they haven't been restricted from meeting their mother. All Singhanias want right now is that Naman and Muskan must stay with their grandfather right now and give them time to come to terms with this strange situation.

I somewhat agree, but like a poster above said when they found out she had kids even though they didn't live with her they were already reconsidering and thinking about rejecting the rishta just for that.

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noor321

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: ParinLyksShakti
No dnt be shockd wid the cvs becoz here they r potraying the real face of society...
I would add a personal point here...when talks of my mom's remarriage was going on this issue to came up...some people rejectd my mom just becoz she already had a daughter and sme said they wil acept her nly if she keeps her daughter with grandparents ...
M actualy able to relate to Naman and Muskaan today... they arent at fault bt the fault is of what our society is thinking...
And we need to change it

The family that accepted your mother, was very nice because they showed forward thinking and treating your mother like a normal person.

I know of a real life situation were many years ago (probably 25/30) a woman had lost her husband and she had two kids. My mother told me she didn't want to marry I think, but she was made to but she had to leave her kids behind. The husband never accepted them. How unfair is that? Knowing your mother is out there but because of others you can't even love them properly..

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