why this distinction......why this double-mindedness - Page 2

Originally posted by: DwarfStars

I don't think there's any double standard or hypocrisy being shown here.

Before marriage, Devyani knew that if she marries RB, she'll have to accept Naitik, Rashmi and all other members of the family as much a she'll accept RB in her life. There was no pressure on her to accept the proposal of the Singhanias, it was a decision she took on her own, willingly.

However, when it comes to RB and the other Singhanias, all they knew about Devyani before marriage was that she was not in contact wth her children and that they'll never be a part of her life because they never have been. However, suddenly we see her kids coming out of nowhere and forcing themselves on the Singhanias and lying to stay at their mansion forever. In this case, even if the Singhanais don't intend to take Naman and Muskan under their wings, there's nothing wrong in it. They owe no responsibility towards them.

Yes, had Singhanias known that Naman and Muskan being an integral part of Devyani's life would move in with her after marriage and had refused to get RB married for this very reason or had they refused to accept Naman and Muskan as their responsibility, denying them shelter, I would have called them hypocrites.

But that's not the case here. This scenario is totally different and asking the Singhanias to accept Naman and Muskan so soon according to me is asking too much fro them. Moreover, they haven't been restricted from meeting their mother. All Singhanias want right now is that Naman and Muskan must stay with their grandfather right now and give them time to come to terms with this strange situation.

exactly... first naman n muskan were never part of this marriage.. no one excepted one day both kids come with baggage n say they want to stay with mom forever... honestly no one prepared for it..Singhanias need some time to understand n decide...

naman n muskan need to show some maturity here.. their dad got angry on them so they left him n decided to stay with their mom.. when devyani said go n stay with their grandfather they took bags n left, again their decision changed within mins they came back... today akshara said something in angry again they took bags n left to stay in rent house.. is this a joke..
why can't both of them wait till dust settle down.. why to make quick decisions??

Originally posted by: ParinLyksShakti

No dnt be shockd wid the cvs becoz here they r potraying the real face of society...

I would add a personal point here...when talks of my mom's remarriage was going on this issue to came up...some people rejectd my mom just becoz she already had a daughter and sme said they wil acept her nly if she keeps her daughter with grandparents...

M actualy able to relate to Naman and Muskaan today... they arent at fault bt the fault is of what our society is thinking...

And we need to change it

I'm sorry to know you faced such situations and I know such things happend and still unfortunately happens 😔 but where YR cv's going wrong is showing the new generation behaving such way when the are the one should be changing the views of the elders 😔 in all other track they showed the positivity of the younger generation so why this one is different

Originally posted by: noor321

I somewhat agree, but like a poster above said when they found out she had kids even though they didn't live with her they were already reconsidering and thinking about rejecting the rishta just for that.

I agree that Devyani knew about Rajbanna's kids and no one forced her to accept them but the day before the wedding Devyaani comes and tells Singhania's about her children. (She told them that they live with their dad but she didn't say that they will never come to her) then Singhania's were considering breaking the wedding then they decide to go ahead with it as Devyaani's kids doesn't live with her so when they decide to go through the wedding did they really thought they will be able to hide the fact Devyaani has children from the society forever? After that the coincidence happens and Devyaani meets her kids. The kids find out that what they know about their mum is wrong, they feel guilty and decide to mend a relationship with their mother who they misunderstood whole their life but now the Singhania family got problem with that now my question is as they know Devyaani got kids and they still went through the wedding shouldn't they be ready to face any consequences? If they are not then they should have thought more before taking any decision!

This whole thing makes no sense to me. How cheap to think a woman cannot have kids in a remarriage. I still don't understand why it's a big deal or why Haitink n family cannot accept it esp since as madman said Haitink doesn't even like devyani it's bull... Garbage they are showing such a bad thing really sad I thought people have more sense then this

I am not a regular viewer of YRKKH but I have watched it here and there over the years. Natik has always come across as an immature and petulant sort of guy. He is very childish and most of the time does not act his age!

Originally posted by: MrDarcyfan

I am not a regular viewer of YRKKH but I have watched it here and there over the years. Natik has always come across as an immature and petulant sort of guy. He is very childish and most of the time does not act his age!

Aakshara is sometimes too good to be true. But I am quite disgusted with what I have heard about what they are showing on the show now? So a middle aged women who has children from her first marriage cannot marry an older widower with children of his own?? Married children I might add! They are not small kids that she has to look after??

How come even at THIS age, she is at the mercy of her in laws and worse still her grown up step son? Is this what Indian society is? If so I am truly grieved! I am not Indian, so pardon me if I draw my conclusions based on the DRIVEL that they are showing right now!! How disgusting!! I have no words to describe my disgust!! Sorry!

Also... One other question I want answered. If it was RB that died would they have got Gayatri re-married?? The sexism shown on these shows are just too despicable to handle!!

Originally posted by: DwarfStars

No offense but as you said, you are not a regular viewer of Yeh Rishta so I think you should rather watch more (previous) episodes before passing a judgement on Naitik. He has displayed utmost maturity on most of the occasions. And as far as I am concerned, I completely subscribe to his stand on Devyani's issue.

General post: Just because his perspective doesn't match anybody else's opinion doesn't mean that we start branding him immature. I am sure the ones who watch Yeh Rishta regularly don't need to be reminded of the maturity and wisdom shown by him on a number of occasions.

Originally posted by: MrDarcyfan

I have seen enough episodes of this show from the past 5 years to draw an accurate conclusion of the character of Natik. I don't have to watch each and very episode for that. I have seen him act in an immature manner on MANY occasion. Yes he has shown maturity sometimes too. But in most instances where there were issues with Aakshara especially, it was Natik who was mostly being childish and making things worse! I remember how petulant he was when Rajshri came to stay. (Gayatri had to be away from home for some reason and asked Rajshri if she could help out).

I remember that Akshara ended up asking her mum to leave, because of how immature her husband was being. He said that her mum is not giving them any "space" and some other equally ridiculous things that mostly HE had misunderstood. So please before you become condescending towards me and suggest that I know nothing of Natik's characterisation, let me assure you that I know enough to draw a general conclusion.

In all, he is not as mature as Akshara, but I hear this time she has taken HIS side?? Strange how a women with children can be so cruel to another with children too. It's SO hypocritical. We always feel the pain when it come to our OWN situation. But when it comes to someone else, we just theorise!! Nice one on Aksahar's part too. They even adopted a girl years ago!! Now they can't even be open minded enough to accept their step mother's kids from her first marriage?? Looks like these people have gone backwards 10 years again!!

adopting chikki n accepting devyani's kids r 2 different cases.. chikki presence didn't effect anyone's life in ss..no one accepted chikki in ss just like that everyone took their own time to accept her specially g3 she not used to allow chikki to touch her lalla.. in the beginning she was in ss as a guest till they find her identity then after so many discussions they adopted her legally... here devyani's kids came as a shocker to everyone no one excepted one day they both arrive with baggage n wanted to stay forever in ss...

coming to naitik's behavior when rj was in ss, when rj was in ss naitik used to take some time from office daily in the evening to spend few hours with akshara n she used to busy with house hold things like selaye bunaye n gas khatam hogaya... he never stopped her spending time with her mother, whole day she used to with her mother just in the evening he wanted 1-2 hrs for him.. tht doesn't make him immature