different way of handling relationships

To start with akshara, to me she still appears to live in the fairyland, to good to be true type dream created by all unmarried girls😃 - sasuralwale n maaykewale are the closest of relatives, your father n father in law are more attached to each other than their respective brothers. But isn't it too good to be perfectly true. Atleast I haven't come across a single S's-M's case or a dj- vish case.Yahaan to abhi bhi ladkewale-ladkiwale hota hai,not in the negative sense like dowry or ladkewalon ka attyachar kind of things, but there is considerable amount of distance kept.

My nani lives in the same city as we do, but whenever my granny visits which is like once or twice a year, either of them makes a visit to meet the other n have a meal together. N whenever there is a major fectival like holi or diwali my nani makes a call to my granny n wishes her n thats about it. And that too all i have heard them discuss is about their well-being n some general issues. N this is exactly the way my mom prefers it-no more,no less.

Even in yeh rishta, its only with M's n S's.singhanias don't even have 50% of this with nandini or rashmi's sasural. aaj bhi ita more of a formal thing when it comes to dealing with rukmani n deoras. nor does it ever seem that nandini or rashmi are interested in creating that kind of a relationship.

Now coming to the point ,

a)Why is akshara so obsessed with "maheshwaris singhania bhai bhai" thing.Why even after facing 2 situations ( the school matter n naitik-shaurya fiasco), she is so positive about things?Doesn't she realise that these extra close relationships then lead to high expectations n ultimately put her in a soup?

b)Isn't she forcing her dream on others like ga3? Here i am not talking about ga3's tantrums, but the fact that she seems to wish for a little more formal relation with the maheshwaris. May be this is bacause it was so in her case(because she has one reason for all her restrictions, hum to kabhi nahi kar paaye, to bahu kaise kar sakti hai🤢)

Even naitik n shaurya now, she knows that,both takes time to cool down n get back into their sensible selves...then why is she such a hurry for the patch up. Kabhi kabhi to aisa lagta hai ki she doesn't actually want them to solve the issue in a mature manner,all she wants ki bas kaise bhi they get together again n she can live in her fairytale once again.

c) N now the impact on naksh relationship.I won't question akshara's love for naitik but again she seems to be so obsessed with 'sab saath saath khush hain' ki she lets it impact her realtionship with naitik.😭 She is not at peace until she is satisfied that she has everybody else also. Now what is the most sensible reason for this mentality?

N now naitik.He deals with every relationship differently. He has made place for everything n has set his own limits to them. Chahe kuch bhi problem ho, he never asked any third person to enter n solve problems. During the batwaara track, he made it clear that he didn't want it, but he did not overdo it nor made any attempts to make his parents realize how much he cares n loves the family.

a)Did he overdo it with the maheshwaris by vowing that he would not enter the house, as singhanias point so? Forget the akshara angle to it for once, what else did you expect from naitik?I know he often crosses that thin line between self esteem n ego, but did he do so that night when shaurya blamed him for practically everything. wasn't munna just being the original munna?

b)His expectations from akshara...this is one reaction from naitik that shocked me to some extent.when he asked akshara to accompany him after the party, I thought he was just too frustrated to think n wanted to leave the place. But what about his reaction in the precap...was it only due to akshara talking to shaurya or because he thought akshara lied to him to meet shaurya?😕

c) Should he patch up just because of the family n akshara?would that be of any use?

i liked ur point of view

there should be a distance between sasural and mayeke because distance makes the duration of this type of relationship

naitik's reaction is normal. his character is really orginal.

it will take time to become normal. i think akshara should give him metal support which help him became normal.

we have to fix some limits in each relationship which avoids some major problem. i think in precap naitik frustration is normal because he thinks that akshara lied to him.

this is my point of view. if i said any thing wrong sorry

Akshara toh she just leaves in some la-la land where she is only worried about her and her family. Gayatri is the wicked witch who never shuts up and is always like my munna munna. (She makes me really mad!!!!!!!!) Bhabhima is the fair one and always supports the right from wrong. Gayatri motto in life is to make her bahu life miserable be it torture duggu by over feeding him, giving her taunts about her mayka and brother, putting up attitude with akshara's family members or watever other things she can think of. I mean seriously this woman needs mental help!! And Akshara in her la-la land puts up with everything Gayatri says and is just like fix the issue but does not think logically. Now the whole duggu being fatty baby not good for him what is the point of hiding that from gayatri?? (She is going to create another new drama from it all...that bahu doesnt trust us, bahu still consults with her mayak...blah blah). Akshi needs to show maturity here and tackle the issue and form a balanced distance between her mayka and sasural when she knows her hot headed husband always assumes and misunderstand things and Shaurya does the same thing.