MILS don't understand that they have raised their kids a certain way without interference, but now its our turn to do so (they didn't have to live with in-laws since they were here in the US). One thing I've always hated is whenever I told my MIL not to do something, or give a particular food, she'd go behind my back, and do it. Hence my child would act spoiled. FYI, those of you who are facing any situations like this, you need to put your foot down and insist on taking care of your own child, and your in-laws following those ways..say it in a nice way. Do tell your MIL that you would appreciate any advice they give, but ultimately you are the child's mother, hence you get to decide whats good for the child or not. Don't be afraid of confrontation.
Believe me, I've been thru my own issues, and I had no choice but to stand up for myself and my child. It resulted in some major confrontations in the beginning, but in the long run it panned out, because today, my MIL will think twice before doing something I don't like. She admitted to the whole family that she used to ignore everything I told her to do, and now she realizes that because of her behavior, it was affecting my child's personality and habits. One day at her house, and it would take me the better part of the week to try to straighten my child out. Grandmoms are much more lenient than moms are, hence children know they can get away with anything. But when the child does something wrong, or develops bad habits, the blame will go Only on the mom, even if she had no hand in it. So then you're in a no-win situation.
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