DOTW - akshara v/s varsha.. (CLOSED) - Page 2

Originally posted by: moonlight08

@divya di.. vinita di.. madhavi di.. and tafseer di..

sorry for disappointing you.. lekin naksh smp. ke liye muje DOTW mein samajh hi nhi aaya ki likhu kya.. isliye iss baar iss topic ko bear karo..

n next time ke liye give me some ideas ki main smp. par kya likhu..😛

Varsha is lucky she got..good saas and good parivar but Akshara got very pyaar karne wala hubby. Let's see, Varsha knew everyone from her sasuraal even before marriage........She had been there, known the atmosphere and all that.......She knew Vish and Rajshri very well and Akshara's house was almost like hers.......It wasn't a big deal for her to adjust in that parivaar........Maheshwari Family is more liberal in their thinking they permitted her to remove the pallu from her head.....and if u remember Vish was the one who suggested her to pursue her studies after marriage............ But Akshara's circumstances are different....... Though Naitik supports and love her and all that, the Singhanias r no where near Maheshwaris definitely more conservative than the Maheshwaris........After marriage Akshara had to adjust to an atmosphere that was completely alien to her........Of course Naitik was definitely there for her, And, in my point of view, parental interference is very less in Shava's life.

The advantage that Akshara has over Varsha is no rocket science Ofcourse NAITIK. He is incomparable as a husband. Ya he was lil immature but he has adjusted beautifully for his loving wife and that has made easy for Akshi to leave in that zoo.

As I aleady said Naitik is incomparable.

The major diff that I think betwn Dadi and Daddaji is their views on Tradition and values. According to Dadi tradition and values are important but they can last only if family members are happy. She is more flexible more accommodating to the new generation.She has seen three generations, changed according to new world without throwing her tradition and values. Her tradition and values are not for showing other ppl but for herself. It shows in the way Vish and Omi are as a person and in their children. She doesn't blindly follow traditions. Whereas for Daddaji tradition and values are more important than family as he said during batwara. He does everything for biradari, duniyadari(except when it comes to his beti).

Originally posted by: divi4u

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Great discussion guys agree with most of it but at the end of the day finding a true life partner upstages everything😳 Shaurya is not bad at all, in fact he can be called perfect if you haven't met Naitik😍 Usme woh baath nahi hai😳 Varsha is a go getter, she gets things done. Remember, the first/second episode when they were not getting an auto? She pretended she knew that majnu & managed to get the auto home & the very next day she distanced herself from him when he tried to get friendly. That is Varsha for you; very good quality if you want to get ahead in life. She is not evil but mutlabi hai when she has to be. Akshara is a dimwit. Life has been a cakewalk & she is content towing the line😕

Naitik proved that he was immature in the initial days & Akshara continues to believe that he doesn't know any better😕 She firmly believes that elders are right no matter what the circumstance; they have to be just because they are primitive. Kya kare bhagwan gave her everything in life but he compromised when he had to give her akkal🤢 Varsha uses Shaurya & Dadi to her advantage, Rajsri gives in easily & Vish is the sweetest sasur. So she really doesn't need to work hard to get what she wants.

G3 & her mood swings; like you'll said let's for a minute think that maybe she is not bad at heart. So why is she still upset with the M's even after knowing that Rajsri was right? Apologizing is beneath her, shouldn't she at least attend the namkaran to show her remorse? Initially she didn't know them well enough but now there is no excuse. What matters to her is her Munna. She doesn't let anyone get close to him, ideally if he was kuwara it would have been her perfect world but kya kare Singhania parivaar ko badana hai, yahi reeth hai. She has accepted she needs a bahu but end of the day she would want Munna to come back to her. Remember, the day he realized he didn't get the job? He went to his mom. That is G3's dream world. Imagine if that continued, a grown man running to his mom, yikes....

Naitik changed, when will Akshara? Akshara did exactly what was expected of her. Lekin kya hua? It didn't work, maybe she should try something different for a change. Do her thing, ignore the dino's.......😆

Originally posted by: FLGators

Great discussion guys agree with most of it but at the end of the day finding a true life partner upstages everything😳 Shaurya is not bad at all, in fact he can be called perfect if you haven't met Naitik😍 Usme woh baath nahi hai😳 Varsha is a go getter, she gets things done. Remember, the first/second episode when they were not getting an auto? She pretended she knew that majnu & managed to get the auto home & the very next day she distanced herself from him when he tried to get friendly. That is Varsha for you; very good quality if you want to get ahead in life. She is not evil but mutlabi hai when she has to be. Akshara is a dimwit. Life has been a cakewalk & she is content towing the line😕

Naitik proved that he was immature in the initial days & Akshara continues to believe that he doesn't know any better😕 She firmly believes that elders are right no matter what the circumstance; they have to be just because they are primitive. Kya kare bhagwan gave her everything in life but he compromised when he had to give her akkal🤢 Varsha uses Shaurya & Dadi to her advantage, Rajsri gives in easily & Vish is the sweetest sasur. So she really doesn't need to work hard to get what she wants.

G3 & her mood swings; like you'll said let's for a minute think that maybe she is not bad at heart. So why is she still upset with the M's even after knowing that Rajsri was right? Apologizing is beneath her, shouldn't she at least attend the namkaran to show her remorse? Initially she didn't know them well enough but now there is no excuse. What matters to her is her Munna. She doesn't let anyone get close to him, ideally if he was kuwara it would have been her perfect world but kya kare Singhania parivaar ko badana hai, yahi reeth hai. She has accepted she needs a bahu but end of the day she would want Munna to come back to her. Remember, the day he realized he didn't get the job? He went to his mom. That is G3's dream world. Imagine if that continued, a grown man running to his mom, yikes....

Naitik changed, when will Akshara? Akshara did exactly what was expected of her. Lekin kya hua? It didn't work, maybe she should try something different for a change. Do her thing, ignore the dino's.......😆

Originally posted by: _charu_

ur right babes but gayitri doesn't think ke rajshri is right..rajshri is right only to an extent ke she saw nikhil with a girl but she's still angry bec. rajshri suggested to cancel the tilak...if gayitri had done it, itna acha rishta toot jaata rashmi ka 😆 hence the narazgi continues...that's where rajshri too went wrong..why give any suggestions? dono ma beti bahana banane jaa rahi thi to cancel the tilak 😆

Gayitri is an extremely possessive mom but she adjusted well with akshara...we'll have to give her the credit for that........she's accepted akshara as a part of naitik's life and that he will give priority to his wife n then his mom..public dealing mein she's more mature (except this rajshri part..not going to namkaran) her bache is her weakpoint....she goes nuts jab sawal naitik ka ya rashmi ka ho..😆 family dealing mein bhi she's mature n knows when to hit hard...she's gone beserk after batwara..munna jo door ho gaya

G3's accusation was that Rajsri was making up stories coz of the botched Suraj incident. That was a baseless allegation; she now knows it's not. Whether Nikhil is worth it or not nobody knows. You are right, knowing G3 & the batwara issues maa/beti should have minded their business.

G3 adjusted well with Akshara? I thought it was the other way around. Akshara was putting up with G3's whims; if not for all the chamchagiri & the jhaap, batwara would have happened much sooner. Akshara's patience dealing with G3's tantrums was key to the success of that relationship if you can call it a success.

Originally posted by: gutky

Kaumudi maam..very tough questionnaire this time..n it seems again i got late in my exams..😭but still awesome reply every1... 👏

wel in my knowledge an individual's character building and personality development shapes up the way its upbringing has done... 😊 Varsha's behavior is more mature n extrovert when compare to akshi may be coz of her single parenthood (i mean her character was always vry serious in her life be it her studies, her ability to tackle problems n also she's more responsible bahu comparatively as she knew cooking, handling pressure etc) on the other hand akshi is introvert n behaves kiddish.. 😕 (i mean all her decisions were either taken by her parents or her fav dadi.. n top of it shes got same heredity genes as a gift from her mother to get hyper n scared 😆 she never got a chance to explore her priorities n her entire life have been revolve around her family n her frnd varsha... also coz shes the only daughter in their family from 3 generations she was more pampered n hence she never tackled her problems alone .. n coz of that after her marriage she always finds it difficult to face .. she always looks for help n need someones guidance be it dadi,varsha or now even naitik.. she lacks confidence n always look for moral support..😕 although both r ready to adjust at their sasurals but varsha seems lucky to get maharashwaris n also i feel coz it was her love marriage it becomes more easier for her to get her hubby's support in watever she does.. on the other hnd akshi finds it extremely difficult to adjust in her inlaws place.. i mean she doesnt know how to cook, be alert n behave responsible .. infact she acts dumb or get easily carried away in emotions.. also the atmosphere at varsha's place is somewat similar to maheshwaris n hence it becomes all the more easier for her to adjust but akshi ko tho dinos mile.. 🤢 acc to me this may be one thing which has resulted in such different lifestyles of nanad-bhabhi..

as sarita di said the only advantage akshi has over varsha is NAITIK..😍 😆

i think both naitik n shaurya are equally caring n loving at their respective place... 😃 the only diffrence i feel is varsha knows her perspective towards life n how to get her things done with her hubby's support 😡 whereas akshi even if naitik supports her she herself is confused as to wat she wants n need in life 🤢

elders play a vry imp role in shaping their kids life...😊 n no need to say its dadi's friendly nature, caring attitude, her ideology, her way to look at each rituals, culture, her way to express her views n make other person understand, her guidance in crises..all her gyaan are just fabulous..👏 n hence every1 in maheshwaris feels free to talk wid her n ask for her remarkable suggestion 😛 whereas dj is excatly opposite 😈 he's authoritarian n just know how to make other ppl run behind him.. n hence forget abt RB even his own daughter is afraid to express her views n opinions..😕 (except for naitik..😆) in short dadi believes in SUNO sabki karo MAAN ki.. 👍🏼 but dj believes in kisiki MAT suno bas apni RAI do...👎🏼

i hope passing marks tho aa jayengi atleast.. 😆

Originally posted by: FLGators

haan, aajkal humhare liye, exams ke liye kisike paas time nahi hai😉 Love/arranged, ek hi baat hai yaar. After the initial euphoria, the family dynamics should be the same, JMO. Only difference is you already know the animals in the zoo before you get in. But once you get in it's the same fight😆 You got to make your way through & have your voice heard. How effectively you do is up to you😊