Your Sasural - Page 3

Marriage is a very beautiful thing.
But one must realize the importance of relationships and the weights of each of them.

The Mother is always a Mother and a Wife is always a Wife.

They both have different roles and are important. But the truth remains that the Mother is of a higher status than the wife no matter how much one wishes it otherwise.

So for a successful marriage one has to see the consequences ahead of time and know what to say when and to whom.

For example: If you are hurt by some statements/actions of the Mother in Law never complain about them to your husband. But rather find a tactful solution for it.

This is what I have seen that works and its my POV.

I feel that no matter how wrong the MIL is , the husband will never want to hear anything bad or, derogatory about his own mother.

If someone does do that , the husband will first try to solve it but when it becomes more frequent instead of seeing what the problem is and finding a solution for it, he will start ignoring the issue and assume that its just nature of his wife to complain. Eventually lessening the worth of his wife's statements/arguments/POVs

Everyone has their own rights and we should give it to them. They key is to prioritize.

Originally posted by: suchitra_1

Marriage is a very beautiful thing.
But one must realize the importance of relationships and the weights of each of them.

The Mother is always a Mother and a Wife is always a Wife.

They both have different roles and are important. But the truth remains that the Mother is of a higher status than the wife no matter how much one wishes it otherwise.

So for a successful marriage one has to see the consequences ahead of time and know what to say when and to whom.

For example: If you are hurt by some statements/actions of the Mother in Law never complain about them to your husband. But rather find a tactful solution for it.

This is what I have seen that works and its my POV.

I feel that no matter how wrong the MIL is , the husband will never want to hear anything bad or, derogatory about his own mother.

If someone does do that , the husband will first try to solve it but when it becomes more frequent instead of seeing what the problem is and finding a solution for it, he will start ignoring the issue and assume that its just nature of his wife to complain. Eventually lessening the worth of his wife's statements/arguments/POVs

Everyone has their own rights and we should give it to them. They key is to prioritize.

Suchitra, that's not always the case.....but this not a peaceful solution either....if the husband supports his wife in front of his mom, then also the bahu is blamed (even if it's not her fault) ..i find it hard to strike a balance b/w my husband and my MIL bec. they always keep arguing and i'm sandwiched ! it's equally hard for a husband to strike a balance b/w his mom and his wife..

many a times it's the fault of the girl also...i observed tht with me and corrected it and i'm lot more happier after that...when my mom used to tell me to wake up early in the morning i didn't give it a thought but when my MIL said the same i thought she was taunting me...even tdy i get worked up thinking tht she's taunting me but it's not like tht always..socho toh bahut kuch , na socho toh kuch bhi nahi !

i think and that's what i've experienced in my life , that if ur husband is by your side, you don't need anybody else..ur first priority should be ur husband and lying to him or hiding anything from him (i think that it's not possible in real life to lie to this extent) , u will lose trust..one lie or 50 lies has the same effect ..u lie once and ur past and present sach is looked with suspicion..it holds true for both husband and wife..ur related to ur in laws through ur husband ..think about yourself first, then ur husband , ur immediate family i.e. ur children and then everybody else ...akshara wanted to please everybody at the same time but naitik and she herself came last on her priority list and hence this mess 🤢 Vishambhar thinks ke this is a problem b/w husband wife, i don't think so..the problem is bec. of so many other people in their lives like Gayitri, Rajshri, Varsha, Mohit, Nandini etc.etc.!

Originally posted by: bithee

i really don know how i will charu but i wont zip my mouth if there is no mistake done by me.<br>

my dear, you will always get what you want, bas you must know how to get it ! but one has to adjust his expectations according to the circumstances...

I know its hard to strike balance.
And I agree with you, when your mum says something its different and if your mil says the same thing its tana. We just have to take it the proper way and be very tactful.

And I know from personal experience that if your husband is on your side then everything else is very easy.
I have always put my husband first and given him the most importance than my family and of course his. I do not hide anything from him even the smallest things. Its very important to have a great communication line and this is what lacks between Akshi and Naitik.

They are really bad in communicating thus all the misunderstandings.

Originally posted by: suchitra_1

I know its hard to strike balance.
And I agree with you, when your mum says something its different and if your mil says the same thing its tana. We just have to take it the proper way and be very tactful.

And I know from personal experience that if your husband is on your side then everything else is very easy.
I have always put my husband first and given him the most importance than my family and of course his. I do not hide anything from him even the smallest things. Its very important to have a great communication line and this is what lacks between Akshi and Naitik.

They are really bad in communicating thus all the misunderstandings.

apart frm miscommunication yaar (which is highly improbably in naitik n aksh's case bec. they love each other so much & come a long way frm the time of their marriage) , therez a social service virus in akshara..i mean ur husband is the one who knows his family best so how can u keep him out in such an important issue?

i have varied opinions abt my in laws but if i have some doubt in my mind i discuss it with my husband first & if I wanna say something to them i communicate it to my hubby and ask him to talk to his parents....it's not safe to put forth ur opinions all the time..filter them out with the help of ur hubby..he knows best what should be discussed with the family and how !

again it comes to the same problem..nandini asked akshara to hide everything frm her family (as if she wud have got married to mohit without telling any of them..one day or the other she had to na? and akshara also hiding everything frm her parents, as if they'll never come to know!!! how childish ! even nandini doesn't share an open & frank relationship with naitik (the way brother sisters are..) bec. therez a distance b/w them coz she's naitik's elder sister and his cousin ! that's why she couldn't even talk to him after this fiasco, forget trying to explain him Akshara's POV ! the line which even naitik didn't cross , how can akshara think of crossing it? all decisions regarding nandini should be taken by nandini and her parents and not akshara...every relationship has a limit which should be maintained...akshara's married life is in a mess coz of nandini yet she's concerned abt nandini sitting in her maayka ! surprising yaar..then where does naitik come into picture? husband and wife angle was not required here..the problem is something else..

its a show

agree with you charu di

The only way I see this problem can be solved is if Nandani and Mohit step up to their responsibility and clear things up with their parents.

Once that issue is solved Naitik can analyze the situation and work things out.

But what I think will happen is , mohit and nandani will try getting akshara and naitik to talk to each other. And once their issue is resolved ( which will be done in the most stupidest way I think) Naitik, akshara will join hands towards Mission Mohini.

Annoying!!