Return of Daddaji...Distress of Damsel

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Posted: 16 years ago

#311

Originally posted by: desertrose21

we have too many running-through-the-sunflower-fields bollywood movies to show us unrealistic happenings of LOVE...how it just happens, the feelings, and the oh so perfect happy endings.but now with this serial, we were expecting a practical marriage (and love) story, something we can learn from and relate to in our current (and future for some) married lives....but i really really hope no girl out there has made akshara her role model (in her role as a um, lover and wife) 😕
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Ya, serial as their bible shd get some positive message. Aksh has to change her perception and her thinking rather than follow the restriction or dadi's steps.....I wish we could measure love with sticks & stones. Anyways, i agree that in India marriage do interfere with the freedom of a person. But the understanding and the trust between a couple can keep it intact. It is the TRUST of husband and wife, which ultimately effects the freedom and love between them. In love & marriage......Nothing is black or white or written in stone. People shd change and evolve.....all coz of love.

In real life.... I think marriage is about two people -- families come much later, and these same families have to realize that...... A woman cannot be expected to 'modify' her behavior(over night) because she's now married( she will gradually learn), and if that is what has been happening so far in our country, well, that has to change. Marriage should be about finding a soulmate and starting a new life together, not getting bogged down by 'values' and in-laws (which is what is appears to be at the moment). Someone here said it's part of our culture -- all this getting adapted to joint families. Well, even sati and caste system and dowry and widows being sent away were part of our culture. We are changing -- hopefully, for the better. The best way out is to recognize and respect individuality.

I think the girls of today will bring that change and won't remain damsel in distress anymore😃......just my 5cents

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Posted: 16 years ago

#312

Originally posted by: 5cents

Ya, serial as their bible shd get some positive message. Aksh has to change her perception and her thinking rather than follow the restriction or dadi's steps.....I wish we could measure love with sticks & stones. Anyways, i agree that in India marriage do interfere with the freedom of a person. But the understanding and the trust between a couple can keep it intact. It is the TRUST of husband and wife, which ultimately effects the freedom and love between them. In love & marriage......Nothing is black or white or written in stone. People shd change and evolve.....all coz of love.

In real life.... I think marriage is about two people -- families come much later, and these same families have to realize that...... A woman cannot be expected to 'modify' her behavior(over night) because she's now married( she will gradually learn), and if that is what has been happening so far in our country, well, that has to change. Marriage should be about finding a soulmate and starting a new life together, not getting bogged down by 'values' and in-laws (which is what is appears to be at the moment). Someone here said it's part of our culture -- all this getting adapted to joint families. Well, even sati and caste system and dowry and widows being sent away were part of our culture. We are changing -- hopefully, for the better. The best way out is to recognize and respect individuality.

I think the girls of today will bring that change and won't remain damsel in distress anymore😃......just my 5cents

no Tina unfortunatly marriage in real life is not just about the couple (there mite be a few exceptions) but mostly u do get married to the entire family...and this holds true even if u get married and leave with your husband to a different city or country....but the fundamental problem shown here is how quickly those flood of problems have taken over the newly weds lives and also how that social system has succesfully taken over their lives, be it dadi's pravachans or Niatik's job or anything. I think arranged marriages generally give the couple more time to bond and understand each other and here the creatives seem to be showing just the opposite...

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