Hi friends,
Loved the discussions here. Would love to put my two cents in:
If Abher are married, Leher may be insulted everyday by Boodha, etc. But even if Abeer would have taken a Brahman wife, she too would have been insulted everyday by Boodha, just as much as Leher would have been. Y is Sudha insulted everyday by Boodha ??? This is somewhat similar to college ragging. The new daughter in law is bullied/insulted by the elder members to make her submissive. I have seen it in many families in real life. That's y boodha says to shuklain, that there are many girls in our communities even today who dont have a tongue in their mouth. get him married to them before he can even know. Infact even if Leher is married in a Kayasth house, the mother in law there would start her taunts and insults.
Second, financial independence is a must. But Madhav was financially independent. Still he stood like a mouse in front of Boodha and Shuklain. Had he asked her to shutup first time only he would have been married by now. Actually this forced marriage in one's own caste is because the parents can bully the daughter in law. As Rashmi said, your mother wants a naukrani. And the best ways that parents resort to this is the emotional blackmail like what Shuklain did, threating Madhav that she will commit suicide.
The best part is that Abeer has seen the Shuklain suicide natak scene. That trick wont work with him now! The entire training that was needed was given to him in the M-R fiasco. Infact the M-R fiasco has been a boon for him in every way. He will know all the different nataks that will happen.
The only big problem can be caused by Omi/Kul. I think even Brij could cause a problem, he may not support Leher. OR I THINK MAYBE KULCHA MAY FALL FOR OMIs SUGGESTION TO PHYSICALLY HARM ABEER TO KEEP HIM AWAY FROM LEHER. Then he can go and show the Vajpayee's that Kulcha sent goons to harm Abeer so they are totally aghast and against the thing.
Oh by the way, I have helped a friend elope with his girlfriend and get married. She was a gujarati and he was sindhi. Both families were totally against it, and to that extent that the girls family (uncle) gave a death threat to my friend. I helped him elope with her and get married. Within two weeks everything was resolved and the families buried their differences. They are happily married since 11 years now and have two kids (even the families are happy). Noone has time to keep grudges all their life, not even TN! And if TN does keep a grudge it means he's not getting enough legal work to keep himself busy.
Shripal.
Edited by sdd1981 - 15 years ago
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